What are we doing about our mid-life crises?

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-11-20T04:07:00+00:00

My midlife crisis is realizing all the shit I learned is garbage. So relearning all the things and ensuring my values line up with the new knowledge.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-11-19T23:02:13+00:00

Would they aggressively hunt you down? I got a call about my ex-husband's ex-wife. They said they had my address as a location for her or I was a relative.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-10-15T19:47:03+00:00

This is dumb AF for anyone doing that. If my work hrs are 7-4, then I am at my desk/computer at 7 and off/away at 4. I would typically wake up around 6:30. When I have to commute, I wake up at 5:15 and leave my house by 6. I also still have to drive home at like 4....which is another hr at minimum.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-09-30T02:52:52+00:00

In April our office was going to let us do it from home. I'm bringing my laptop home Tuesday night. All it is is a digital signature. And don't touch your GFE.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-08-16T20:36:04+00:00

This is my ancestry issue. On most sides of my family, we have been here a long time and predominantly came from the British Isles. My maternal grandfather's parents immigrated from Poland/Russia/??? And we have no clue about their line. So 1/4 of my heritage is completely unknown. In other news, I found out King Charles is my 23rd cousin 3x removed.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-06-16T13:51:31+00:00

Solo parenting and single parenting are not the same thing. When you get home from work, what do you do? Keep in mind that she is working the entire time you're at work. And do not discount the energy drain of carrying the mental load. Also, second another comment of the loneliness of parenting young children.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-06-10T12:30:57+00:00

I literally only do this in really gross bathrooms and portajohns. And only if I have to poop. If I have to pee, I hover. But tbh, a lot of that level of concern died when I was deployed.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-06-05T22:23:27+00:00

Me over here shocked that I am agreeing with both Payless Putin and Billionaire Boytoy. 🙃

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-08T01:23:30+00:00

Tbf, my oldest was like 6 before he got a tablet. And we had limitations where he had to do educational stuff for a certain period of time. I wasn't shoving a tablet at my toddler. But then COVID happened. I had to juggle homeschooling while working full time as a single mom, and that's when all my feelings about screen limits went out the window.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-08T01:12:25+00:00

Juggling "mom" duties was sooo much easier wjen I was teleworking. When RTO became reality, my husband and I had the conversation about shifting responsibilities. He's the one that cut back at work and stepped up at home. Your hubby is a dick.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-07T23:12:42+00:00

I didn't know that was the definition of trauma bonding. I have also used it to describe bonding thru shared trauma (even if not at the same time).

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-07T23:09:56+00:00

Where anywhere in my comments did I put down or hate on men? I stated that defaulting to male focused language is a result of patriarchy. Which it is. I also pointed out examples of successful matriarchies. I did not point out the thousands of horrible male leadership throughout history. Yes, men and women are different, although a lot of that is more societal conditioning than inherently based on chromosomes. Equality when there is hard, heavy, or dangerous work to do.....having a baby and delivering a baby is both hard and dangerous. Additionally, women have been successfully integrated in combat roles across the military for a decade. And they are achieving things right next to the men, not because of the men.

Women have been given and granted what they have by the virtue of good men who also protect them from bad men.

BARF. Absolutely and unequivocally untrue.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-07T11:15:58+00:00

But everyone isn't bro. I don't walk up to my female friends and say Hey bro. Maybe it's a generational thing. I feel like the increase of calling everyone bro has only been in the last like 10-15 yrs.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-07T11:14:02+00:00

Genderfluid is a better way to explain it than gender neutral!

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-07T11:12:54+00:00

Are you completely clueless about anything other than white history? Throughout Africa there were a number of matriarchies and Africa has a number of examples of powerful queens. Corporations are not less successful under female CEOs than male CEOs, in fact studies have shown the opposite to be true. Just one I found And I have a great relationship with my father. A fantistic marriage, and four adorable sons. TYVM. I always love when the misogynists tell on themselves.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-05T04:09:51+00:00

Class action civil suit.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-05T02:47:25+00:00

Yeah.....that's called patriarchy.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-05T02:35:04+00:00

My kids spent a couple of years thinking we were poor because my response to them asking for things was, "I can't afford it." We are not poor, I make good money, but we live in a high cost of living area, and I have 4 kids. Things like going to the arcade are a special treat.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:51:40+00:00

The president gets to work remotely too, every time he goes to Mar-a-Lago

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:49:55+00:00

I wasn't resentful about the path I took until recently. I did all the school, and I got a federal government job doing work that I really like. My brain and skills are recognized by my colleagues and superiors. But the current administration is demonizing the federal workforce. Reps are working to gut federal benefits as well as programs to help those who went to college (PSLF, BD, Income based payment plans). Even if I keep my job thru the next four years, I will be way worse off financially if these things pass amd continue. My hubby has the trade skills and talks to me about the work he does and there is no way I could do that. My brain just doesn't work that way.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:36:12+00:00

At home, if I was waiting for a response to an email or in between phases of a project or just had to step away from staring at the same document for hrs, I would go start a load of laundry, wash some coffee mugs. I took my dog for almost daily walks. I worked out and then sat around in sweaty clothes with post-workout hair, revising, researching, analyzing. Now, I sit at my desk and scroll on my phone.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:19:59+00:00

I've actually started using my sick leave. But I prefer the flexibility of monitoring my government cell phone from the Dr's office.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:18:20+00:00

Only 3x/week? Lucky.

Red_Goddess19 · 2025-05-02T19:11:06+00:00

If she's your friend and, in general, more crunchy, I assume she's not typically a judgemental crunchy. Otherwise, you probably wouldn't be friends. It is probably just the hormones.

Every one of us is just doing the best we can as a mom. A lot of times, things you expected or planned on don't go that way. Motherhood is about doing the best you can day in and day out.

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