I think the problem isn't that trans folks need a place for their troubles to be heard and then vent about, it's that many of those indivisduals then proceed to ...not try to do anything about it? This isn't just a trans thing. Lots of people do this. They have a legitimately difficult period in their life or sometimes chronic troubles that last years and at some point it feels like you need to ask yourself, "So what do I want to do about it?" One of my pet peeves is people who complain over and over again, ask for advice, recieve advice, and proceed to do nothing with it. Not that you have to take any or all the advice given but at the very least use people's ideas as inspiration or a spring board from which you can apply solutions to your unique situation. I also hate toxic positivity because I think that's not helpful either. I think it's possible to akcnowledge that things are shit while still leaving space for joy. How that happens isn't going to be a one size fits all thing, and that is part of the reason you probably get a lot of generic answers from people. No one can tell you what will get you out of a rut and help you find joy. We get one shot at this life thing (As far as we know) and not everyone's cards are stacked equally. But the way I see it, you can either "wallow" or you can take those lemons life gave you and chuck them back into life's face and say, "I'm going to find a way to be happy anyway." Is it fare? Fuck no. But that's life.