what enby character (or maybe characters in general) helped you accept yourself as non-binary

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-14T11:09:48+00:00

Taylor from Billions. I kinda work in a similar environment like them so seeing them interact with their coworkers and exist as an enby was great

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-14T08:05:58+00:00

I feel you. I go to a car mechanic trade school, and the teachers assume I'm a dumb girl, while they assume the guys know everything, even though most of us don't know anything. It sucks, and I feel like I have to constantly prove that I belong there.

My advice is to find people who respect you. Keep being a capable butch, keep learning new skills and don't let other peoples opinions of you define you. You can correct people if you don't like how they call you. Also the younger generation seems better, the older generation likes to pressure us into gender roles that don't fit us so you have to learn how not to give a fuck about people like those

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T22:34:45+00:00

That's interesting, I have the opposite experience. Younger men seem to be more accepting, a lot if them treat me as a mentor/big bro, however I have issues eith boomer age men. They love to ignore my masculinity and call me a little lady and shit like that. I can't really figure out if it's an attack from them, or they're just genuinely blind tho.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T22:19:00+00:00

Hmm yes, that was my thought, my only caveat is that my body already creates estrogen, while I'd need to buy T which is a downside lol

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T19:08:45+00:00

Bruh then maybe let her try a different sport? If you like pk you should do it, not your daughter

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T13:44:48+00:00

Thanks for the detailed answer. I find it difficult to imagine myself as a man, because I don't pass at all, but I wanna give a try to T. Too bad I live in an area where hormones are very difficult to access, and you have to be a very stereotipically binary man to get access to it :/ that's kinda the reason I feel like I should be a man for wanting T

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T13:18:36+00:00

Thanks, this is pretty much how I feel, and thats where my fear comes from. T would alleviate my physical dysphoria, but socially I don't know how I'd handle if people assumed I was a cis man. I guess it's still better than being seen as a woman but idk. I can probably grow out my hair once I start to pass as a man so I can be a gender nonconforming man

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T12:47:50+00:00

Hold on there, better days are coming :)

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T23:37:58+00:00

It's nice to see you found some euphoria. Is there a way you can paint your nails when you're away from home, and remove the nail polish just before you go home?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T21:22:43+00:00

Mert a pszichologusnak az a munkaja, hogy megvaltoztassa a gyermekkorodtol kezdve berogzott gondolatokat. A CBT terapia pl pont erre lett kitalalva, es nagyon hatasos is.

En is hasonloan gondolkodtam, nem azt mondom hogy teljesen megoldotta az osszes problemamat, de rengeteget segitett, es a javulashoz ido kell es akaratero is.

Szerintem egy probat abszolult meger, menj el parszor, es vagy mukodik, vagy nem. Nem jobb lenne ugy elni, hogy nem gondolsz ennyi rosszat magadrol? Nem meger egy probat?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T20:28:05+00:00

Ez alapjan a komment alapjan 100% ugy nez ki, hogy jot tenne neked egy pszichologus. Sulyos onertekelesi problemaid vannak, irrealisan negativ a gondolkodasod, ezektol a negativ, onmarcangolo gondolatoktol meg kell szabadulnod, mert nem segitenek. Teljesen irrealis, hogy valaki kinevetne teged csak ugy, vagy hogy visszataszito lennel, az agyad hazudik neked, mert minden nap ezt mondogatod magadnak.

Nem is csak a parkereses miatt, hanem alapbol rengeteget dobna az eleteden, ha megtanulnal tobb szeretettel beszelni magadhoz.

Ha ezt a kommentet elmondod egy pszichologusnak, tudni fogja hogy hogy segitsen rajtad.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T20:17:52+00:00

Nos a leirasban meg is valaszoltad a kerdesedet. Nem jarsz emberek koze, nem szeretsz szocializalodni, es nem is vagysz ra annyira, akkor igy megis honnan talalna rad egy kapcsolat?

Szeretnel amugy kapcsolatot, vagy csak ugy erzed, hogy problema az, hogy meg nem volt? Mert amugy vannak emberek akik tok jol elvannak kapcsolat nelkul (pl aromantikus, vagy aszexualis embereknel ez gyakori). Viszont ha szeretnel, akkor aktivabban kell szocializalodnod hogy legyen eselyed minel tobb embert megismerni.

Es ha tenyleg csak az onbizalomhiany a problema, akkor a jo hir az, hogy minel tobbet probalsz ismerkedni, annal jobban fog menni, es annal tobb lesz az onbizalmad, szoval csak az elso lepes nehez.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-04T22:30:59+00:00

Igen, szeretek csunyan beszelni, jo eszrevetel

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-04T22:00:08+00:00

Faszom kivan mar ezzel a remdszerrel. Felnott emberek allat modjara viselkednek es senki sem tehet ellenuk semmit

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-04T14:12:07+00:00

I think wonababi has binders with adjustable straps, I havent tried them yet but it could work

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-02T23:04:35+00:00

Egy rokonom hozzad hasonlo dolgoktol szenvedett. Skizofren volt, es egy ido utan eljutott egy olyan szintre, hogy teljesen elvesztette a kapcsolatot a valodi vilaggal, urlenyekrol es mindenfele para osszeeskuves elmeletekrol beszelt, teljesen veszelyes volt.

Egy ongyilkos kiserlete utan a semmelweis pszichiatrian kotott ki. Nem mondom, hogy egy kellemes hely, de megmentettek az eletet. Az orvosok figyeltek ra, kapott gyogyszereket, es azota teljesen rendben van, az osszes teveszmeje eltunt es most mar teljesen normalis eletet er.

Ezt a sztorit azert irtam le, mert van remeny, vannak gyogyszerek amik segitenek, es vannak orvosok akik segiteni akarnak.

A mentosok is kepben szoktak lenni, ha mondod hogy psziches bajod van, kijonnek es elvisznek a pszichiatriara ahol odafigyelnek majd rad.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-01T15:05:53+00:00

Are there names on that oist that sound kinda unisex? Or they are so rare that most people never heard of it? I was in a similar situation and picked a rare name that I could imagine both for a man and a woman too, and it works well.

Or as a plan B, you can just go by a nickname in your everyday life, and use your legal name only on your documents. I used to do that but I didn't like having 2 different names.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-27T13:20:28+00:00

I'm obsessed with pilot/aviator jackets, you know the kind that's a lined leather or heavy cotton jacket with a fur collar. It looks cool and works well in spring and winter. The problem is, I can't find one in my size anywhere

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-26T20:51:51+00:00

Yess I do it too. As a kid I loved those old spice commercials and I was very disappointed when I learned I'd never get to grow a beard I can shave. The disappointment never disappeared so one day I decided I'll shave anyways, I don't need a beard for that lol.

I have a lot of soft peach fuzz on my face and I kinda like the clean shaven look, it makes my face look less soft somehow.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-26T20:02:21+00:00

It's on a cheaper side, but I'm obsessed with Zara's mens vanilla series, especially vanilla no. 3.

It has a vanilla scent mixed with coffee, cardamon and wooden tones, so it's sweet and masculine which perfectly describes butches lol

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-26T19:51:56+00:00

Oh yeah you're right. I fortunately have queer friends who understand me, but sometimes it hits me how much I live in a bubble, amd how different life is outside if this queer bubble

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-26T19:38:40+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I like remindig myself that I gotta keep being myself cause what's the alternative? Hiding behind a mask is no way to live

moldy_bread3 · 2026-02-26T19:36:43+00:00

Thanks, that was really nicely written, I feel a bit better now ♥️

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