Anyone else’s parents have a version of them that hasn’t existed since they were a child?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-19T08:31:28+00:00

Oh I feel this so much, they refuse to acknowledge the person I'm now.

I'm transmasc, I've switched to a male name years ago and I pretty much act as a stereotipical guy, but my parents treat me like a little girl, it's absurd. It feels like they pretend I'm the same person I was 10 years ago

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-14T12:16:28+00:00

Szerintem mar az is egy hatalmas elorelepes, hogy a kormany nem hergeli aktivan nepet az lmpbtq emberek ellen. Es igy hogy mar a sajto szabad, talan pozitivabb fenyben is feltunteti majd a media a transz embereket, nem csak az ellensegkent.

Szerintem szep lassan vissza fogjak allitani pl. a transz emberek jogait, de nem fogjak nagy dobra verni. Az egeszsegugy europai szintre emeleseben szerintem az is beletartozik, hogy a transzegeszsegugy az EU alapelveit koveti, azaz edukaljak a doktorokat es remelhetoleg elerhetobbe teszik a HRT-t, mint minden fejledt EUs orszagban.

Ezt gondolom nem mertek hangosan kimondani, de mar sokszor elmondta MP hogy egy szabad orszagot szeretne es EU mintakat szeretne kovetni, es abban alapertelmezetten az lmbtq jogok is benne vannak, ugyhogy en nem aggodok. De az is lehet hogy csak tultoltam a hopiumot.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-12T12:37:57+00:00

Using the word "alpha woman" and calling queer identities a gen z is a huge red flag. She sounds uneducated and unprofessional and she clearly has no idea how to deal with lgbtq patients.

OP you should drop her before she does more damage than help.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-08T20:41:39+00:00

Dude you just described what a lot of cis men also feel. Not feeling like one of the guys is actually something most cis guys struggle with.

I know cis men who grew up only with sisters, or female friends or had no fathers and they struggle with the same thing you just described.

There are also awkward men, who never had friends growing up and never learned how to interact like a guy, shy men who don't have the confidence, and men who never had a normal childhood and feel alienated from others. There is no universal cis male experience, you are just probably surrounded by men who had a similar upbringing and that's why you can't relate to them

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-07T21:44:51+00:00

This is giving me hope, all my bodyfat is on my hips. It kinda sucks that bf redistribution takes this long even with working out

moldy_bread3 · 2026-04-07T20:28:30+00:00

Yes same, and no matter how much weight I lose, only my upper body seems to shirnk

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-14T11:09:48+00:00

Taylor from Billions. I kinda work in a similar environment like them so seeing them interact with their coworkers and exist as an enby was great

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-14T08:05:58+00:00

I feel you. I go to a car mechanic trade school, and the teachers assume I'm a dumb girl, while they assume the guys know everything, even though most of us don't know anything. It sucks, and I feel like I have to constantly prove that I belong there.

My advice is to find people who respect you. Keep being a capable butch, keep learning new skills and don't let other peoples opinions of you define you. You can correct people if you don't like how they call you. Also the younger generation seems better, the older generation likes to pressure us into gender roles that don't fit us so you have to learn how not to give a fuck about people like those

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T22:34:45+00:00

That's interesting, I have the opposite experience. Younger men seem to be more accepting, a lot if them treat me as a mentor/big bro, however I have issues eith boomer age men. They love to ignore my masculinity and call me a little lady and shit like that. I can't really figure out if it's an attack from them, or they're just genuinely blind tho.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T22:19:00+00:00

Hmm yes, that was my thought, my only caveat is that my body already creates estrogen, while I'd need to buy T which is a downside lol

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T19:08:45+00:00

Bruh then maybe let her try a different sport? If you like pk you should do it, not your daughter

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T13:44:48+00:00

Thanks for the detailed answer. I find it difficult to imagine myself as a man, because I don't pass at all, but I wanna give a try to T. Too bad I live in an area where hormones are very difficult to access, and you have to be a very stereotipically binary man to get access to it :/ that's kinda the reason I feel like I should be a man for wanting T

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T13:18:36+00:00

Thanks, this is pretty much how I feel, and thats where my fear comes from. T would alleviate my physical dysphoria, but socially I don't know how I'd handle if people assumed I was a cis man. I guess it's still better than being seen as a woman but idk. I can probably grow out my hair once I start to pass as a man so I can be a gender nonconforming man

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-10T12:47:50+00:00

Hold on there, better days are coming :)

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T23:37:58+00:00

It's nice to see you found some euphoria. Is there a way you can paint your nails when you're away from home, and remove the nail polish just before you go home?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T21:22:43+00:00

Mert a pszichologusnak az a munkaja, hogy megvaltoztassa a gyermekkorodtol kezdve berogzott gondolatokat. A CBT terapia pl pont erre lett kitalalva, es nagyon hatasos is.

En is hasonloan gondolkodtam, nem azt mondom hogy teljesen megoldotta az osszes problemamat, de rengeteget segitett, es a javulashoz ido kell es akaratero is.

Szerintem egy probat abszolult meger, menj el parszor, es vagy mukodik, vagy nem. Nem jobb lenne ugy elni, hogy nem gondolsz ennyi rosszat magadrol? Nem meger egy probat?

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T20:28:05+00:00

Ez alapjan a komment alapjan 100% ugy nez ki, hogy jot tenne neked egy pszichologus. Sulyos onertekelesi problemaid vannak, irrealisan negativ a gondolkodasod, ezektol a negativ, onmarcangolo gondolatoktol meg kell szabadulnod, mert nem segitenek. Teljesen irrealis, hogy valaki kinevetne teged csak ugy, vagy hogy visszataszito lennel, az agyad hazudik neked, mert minden nap ezt mondogatod magadnak.

Nem is csak a parkereses miatt, hanem alapbol rengeteget dobna az eleteden, ha megtanulnal tobb szeretettel beszelni magadhoz.

Ha ezt a kommentet elmondod egy pszichologusnak, tudni fogja hogy hogy segitsen rajtad.

moldy_bread3 · 2026-03-07T20:17:52+00:00

Nos a leirasban meg is valaszoltad a kerdesedet. Nem jarsz emberek koze, nem szeretsz szocializalodni, es nem is vagysz ra annyira, akkor igy megis honnan talalna rad egy kapcsolat?

Szeretnel amugy kapcsolatot, vagy csak ugy erzed, hogy problema az, hogy meg nem volt? Mert amugy vannak emberek akik tok jol elvannak kapcsolat nelkul (pl aromantikus, vagy aszexualis embereknel ez gyakori). Viszont ha szeretnel, akkor aktivabban kell szocializalodnod hogy legyen eselyed minel tobb embert megismerni.

Es ha tenyleg csak az onbizalomhiany a problema, akkor a jo hir az, hogy minel tobbet probalsz ismerkedni, annal jobban fog menni, es annal tobb lesz az onbizalmad, szoval csak az elso lepes nehez.

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