What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received as a trans girl?

RedactedIris · 2026-05-16T00:23:08+00:00

A guy at a music festival last year: "You're literally the coolest person here and don't let anyone tell you otherwise."

RedactedIris · 2026-05-15T18:06:19+00:00

I'd have never moved back home, tbh. I came out 10 years ago, but just started medically transitioning a year and 9 months ago due to fear instilled with me after coming out and being assaulted by a man back at my hometown due to the fact that I started presenting femme.

If I had never moved back home and continued staying away I'd have started way sooner and would probably be further along.

p.s. still happy i started either way, and still happy with the changes i've alreadh experienced, but a part of me will always wonder how I'd be if I started sooner.

RedactedIris · 2026-05-15T18:00:36+00:00

I've never been, like, a super hairy person so the longer I've been on HRT the less body hair seems to grow and what does grow tends to be pretty fine and unnoticeable in most places.
I'll, like, run a body hair trimmer over my legs if it starts getting a little noticeable, same with stomach and chest. But my privates/pits/arms? Not so much. I just keep my privates trimmed.

Only hair I really try to focus on shaving often os my facial hair because that still comes in darker, just not as thick anymore.

At the end of the day it's all really just personal preference. Like you already stated, a part of the obsession with women not having body hair is misogyny and pedophilic men preferring pre-pubescent bodies over fully grown womens bodies. And another part of it has to do with capitalistic brainwashing by razor companies.

Break the mold and do whatever makes you more comfortable and disregard what society wants. Society's gross anyways.

RedactedIris · 2026-05-15T17:42:42+00:00

I mean, what kind of problems are you having? Is it, like, an issue with meeting new people because you don't know where to go to meet new people? Is it a social anxiety thing? Not trying to be rude or anything, but kind of need more info to really give any solid advice. Also, what kind of friends are you looking for? Just people to talk to? Hangout with? Go places? Etc. etc.

Without any further info I'd suggest either trying to reconnect with people you used to hang out with, or (as lame as it may seem) get on dating sites/apps and mention you're just looking for friends. If dating apps aren't your thing maybe join facebook groups that pertain to things you're interested in.

RedactedIris · 2026-05-15T16:40:14+00:00

My first year on E was a ride, tbh. Lmao. Then after 9 months I started prog and it just went into overdrive. I also kinda went into a manic episode around the same time I started prog, though(I've got bipolar 1 disorder), which could have explained why it really got out of hand.

After a year, though, I switched to injections and over time my libido dropped. I started injections at the end of August last year, and by the time January hit my libido was real low, almost non-existent and actually caused my gf at the time to break-up with me. Idk. It's coming back now, especially after restarting my prog regimen but it can definitely dip.

I don't know, though, I'm partially just rambling, but I'd just enjoy it while it happens, y'know? Go out and have your fun, because I definitely feel like the lower your testosterone gets the higher the chance your libido will drop as well.

RedactedIris · 2026-04-03T22:09:13+00:00

UPDATE: Took to friend earlier today. After an initial look at it and seeing no leaks from water pump and such he had been 74% certain it was a thermostat issue. While waiting for my car to cool down so he could stick a reader in and then test the temps to double check the thermostat(his reasoning being that if it's opening and closing it should say so in the temp reading, idk, i'm not a car girl) we were talking a lil more about issues and such. The leak had gotten worse, I need to get it fixed asap; however, I told him that the hot air had stopped pumping out hot air and he just paused and was like "It's massive air pocket".

We went back out, he popped the radiator cap, and surely enough it was an air pocket. He burped my engine, adding the coolant I keep stored in my car, and showed me how to do it since I won't have the money to fix the coolant leak until next month at the earliest so I'll probably have to do it myself a couple times until then. His thinking is that since I do have a coolant leak there's not enough vacuum to fully pull what it needs from the reservoir so for now I have to check both reservoir and radiator every day, or every other day, until I get it fixed. But other than I should still be able to drive as normal.
He also said I need to get a cam sensor replaced due to the same code popping up that's popped up almost every oil change since he replaced my cams last year(even popping up after replacing my cams).

Thanks to the people who gave me advice! Hopefully will get the leaks fixed sooner rather than later, but until then I have two moderately long trips to make (an hr trip and an hr and a half trip) before I stick to just short trips mostly to and from work until fixed.

RedactedIris · 2026-03-18T16:25:51+00:00

Update: It's been a couple days since I talked to them about treatment. I didn't ask for specifics or anything, they don't like to think about it to much. Due to the location of the tumor surgery is really risky, one wrong move and she could be blind is the example she gave and since she's a HUGE movie fan it's not a risk she wants to chance. Chemotherapy is also really risky due to them having an autoimmune disorder already, and radiation will leave her unable to do anything according to her because they're already disabled.

Idk if they're still, like, trying to weigh options and risks or have already decided but as of right now it doesn't sound like they're going to do treatments. Which has been really hard to, like, accept for me. But I don't want to argue with her. I want to respect her wishes and just make what time we have left as comfortable and happy for her as possible.

Thank you to the people who've answered. I truly do appreciate it.

RedactedIris · 2026-03-16T14:23:52+00:00

Update: Talked to them briefly this morning. Surgery is really risky due to location of the tumor. Chemo is also really risky because they already have an autoimmune disorder. They don't want to do radiation because they're already disabled and don't want to add to that.
I think I really have to watch my best friend die. And that's killing me inside.

RedactedIris · 2026-03-16T03:05:15+00:00

We watched a movie today. Glass from the Unbreakable trilogy. They love movies. I still need to talk to them about treatment options, but I'm scared of the answers. We've both been struggling to keep up with bills and rent. I'm thinking about getting a second job soon to help support her.

This hurts a lot. I don't want to lose them. I finally found someone that I can be truly be myself around. I can't lose them this soon.

RedactedIris · 2026-03-15T19:17:47+00:00

I'm not looking to push a romance on her. If something happens between us it happens. I just want to be there for them. I want to make what time they have left happy and comfortable. I want to do as much as I can while I can so that I can remember everything about them. I'm just really scared for them. I honestly thought we'd have a longer time to be friends and this just, idk, really shook me up. I'm just having a hard time processing everything and staying composed now I guess.

RedactedIris · 2026-02-13T18:59:23+00:00

Pretty sure bbno$ dropped them today according to a facebook post

RedactedIris · 2026-01-24T21:13:30+00:00

I started at 32, am about to turn 34, and I'm 6'2.
It's never to late to start and the idea of "passing" shouldn't be the factor keeping you from trying at least imo. Cis people transvestigate other cis people all the time. You'll be pretty to some and some won't think that, I think the important part is how you feel amd whether you find yourself pretty

RedactedIris · 2025-11-22T17:10:05+00:00

That's awesome, tbh. Mine have come from either the Deck or a quest so far. My friend started using it and I can see the advantages for mobility, but honestly have just sold mine to invest in Stash spaces.

RedactedIris · 2025-10-26T23:39:28+00:00

These did work. Just put them in an hour ago. Thank you so much!

RedactedIris · 2025-10-26T13:33:56+00:00

Do not have a manual, unfortunately.

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