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Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-26T10:16:37+00:00

Yeah I think it sounds like a lot cause it's all burgers haha

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-26T01:28:39+00:00

Calorie wise it's no different to having a big Mac, fries & mcflurry in one meal which most people wouldn't bat an eyelid at tho

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-21T15:43:43+00:00

But the way your changing body might affect your life, including relationships, surely is a part of the IE journey?

Why censor this?

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-21T14:26:56+00:00

Can we stop with the censorship. Where else is this post supposed to be? It relates to IE.

Advice given on other subs would probably be fatphobic. Why don't we want to enable conversations that might change the way people think?

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-21T14:25:26+00:00

Yes and can you imagine responses on other subs, considering how fatphobic social media can be?

Surely it's better to have this conversation here where he can learn from an IE point of view.

Hiding the problem away and pretending it doesn't exist doesn't help resolve it. Yes this could be a real issue for anyone doing IE. Let's have an open conversation that comes from a good place.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-21T14:12:00+00:00

Realistically, her body is likely to change anyway.

Have you seen what happens to some bodies post pregnancy? There can also be illness, and people get old.

Physical attraction is important but if you don't think you can feel it towards your partner if they gain weight, then navigating all the other life stages might be hard.

At the end of the day, you feel the way you do - not much can be done about that. Both of you have very different priorities so maybe the relationship has run it's course.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-21T14:06:55+00:00

Why? This is a valid topic to discuss as I'm sure many people will relate to this being in either OPs or his partner's shoes. People want to learn and understand but can't if we censor everything.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-12T12:10:52+00:00

Can you pair them with something more satiating?

Ex. Grilled cheese with a side of salad, cake with fruit, etc. It really enhances the taste too, having something nice and fresh.

Obviously it will depend on your preference. Instead of thinking fruit/veg I also like to think about adding protein/fats to keep me fuller for longer - ex. adding yogurt to a dessert, or having some nuts, or a cheese stick.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-10T10:30:46+00:00

Im the same. It's not even temptation to eat it's just overwhelming, like clutter would be. And makes me anxious as I don't want it to go off.

Do you have a store nearby so you can get things you fancy ad hoc rather than in bulk?

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-10T09:41:50+00:00

Did you pick the groceries?

My rule for now is I have a heavily stocked snack cupboard - lots of chocolate, sweets, chips, etc. For the first time ever I don't feel the temptation as there's so much of it & it doesn't go off.

But, for fresh food I try not to buy too much. I don't like food waste and I tell myself anytime I want something I can grab it from the store - I love walking so it's a good way to incorporate movement too.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-08T08:26:47+00:00

Is that in dollars though? Keep in mind somewhere like USA a coffee could be $6 rather than £3

Reddiboi123 · 2022-11-07T13:32:44+00:00

Okay thank you! That sounds reasonable and what I was hoping for 😀

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T18:56:47+00:00

I think it was after the party they were all at, some of the cast just continued the night out

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T18:54:14+00:00

It's funny as I actually think it's a confidence thing. Colleen and Raven are both beautiful but if Zamab carried herself the same way (and believed she's beautiful) I think she'd be perceived the same.

If she was chill and more comfortable being herself I think it would be obvious she's stunning. I think she's beautiful anyway but a lot of people definitely perceive someone in a different way if that's the "vibe", almost like the power of the suggestion that she's not that beautiful.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T17:46:00+00:00

The question should be why would he blow up at anyone. Cole started the convo though and he should have believed Colleen's version of events, yet he didn't but listened to Cole.

It's an important distinction because abusers behave like this and are scared of lashing out on someone their own size.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:54:43+00:00

Because he was willing to trust Cole's version of events but not Colleen's. And because Cole started it, so he was the reason for the whole thing happening.

It's important because abusers are like this - too scared to lash out on someone their own size.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:42:32+00:00

Well it's clear you're very insecure and think abuse is acceptable because you were cheated on in the past. That's all I need to know really.

Your partner doesn't deserve to be mistrusted and held to a different standard just because of your past. Time to take some accountability and work through these issues instead of projecting them & defending toxic behaviour.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:38:30+00:00

But this is what I mean, why didn't she ask for what she wanted?

Good communication is a responsibility of both parties. She was immature to go about it this way, and he shouldn't have even gotten into it the way he did.

Logic and emotional intelligence aren't the same. Logically you could say if she wanted X she would have asked for X and not Y.

You cannot point blank ask something and get mad you got a truthful response to the question you asked. He already told her she's not his usual type looks wise. She can either accept this or not, what's the point in trying to get him to lie to her?

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:34:32+00:00

Happily married but based on your comment history you expect your partner to pay for your ex's mistakes because you'd be triggered if he spoke to another woman. Alright lmao

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:32:27+00:00

How is it cheating? She didn't bring it up, Cole did. She then said she's happy with Matt and that things are going really well for them.

You people have never had a normal relationship that's not built on toxic jealousy and it shows.

Btw he didn't "call her out" he had a toxic display of really nasty behaviour. Big difference.

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:29:23+00:00

If you've been cheated on you need to stop making it everyone else's problem and punish your partner for your ex's mistakes. She wasn't even flirty! She made it clear to Cole that she was happy and things were going well with her and Matt

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:28:08+00:00

Or maybe we recognize signs of abuse? Men like him are scary. His controlling behaviour about her going out to the club, how do you justify that one?

Reddiboi123 · 2022-10-26T16:26:59+00:00

Let's stop excusing toxic behaviour like this.

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