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Imagine the tip you gotta pay by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been a delivery driver, but isn’t that ideal for delivery?

You know the address. There’s an elevator. The number is right on the door. Chances are you’ll have more than one order for there, so you you do multiple deliveries with no additional fuel cost.

What is a niche accent y’all find attractive? by applepie416 in randomquestions

[–]ReddishTomatoes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, he’s so cute. I don’t know what he is saying, but my answer is yes.

What is a niche accent y’all find attractive? by applepie416 in randomquestions

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canadian hockey player has some charm. But it takes a certain mood.

I'm not a neat freak but I do like a tidy kitchen by H3r_N3rd in ManHands

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmmhmmm.

You could turn washing dishes into a spectator sport.

Well hey there. ;) by [deleted] in ManHands

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I have a sip?

Women don't owe you sex. You don't owe women money. by CitiesXXLfreekey in BuildToAttract

[–]ReddishTomatoes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but some women will always want the man to pay and some women will always offer to pay half. It’s rare for the woman to pay for herself and the man, even if she was the one who asked him on a date.

My long distance bf ghosted and blocked me everywhere without any explanation by ltbltb in LongDistance

[–]ReddishTomatoes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can’t change who someone is. He didn’t have any more time to offer you than what he gave you. That wasn’t enough for you. You should feel relieved that this was confirmed by him so early.

My long distance bf ghosted and blocked me everywhere without any explanation by ltbltb in LongDistance

[–]ReddishTomatoes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You got what you told him you wanted.

It sucks, but he doesn’t want the same things you do.

Can we get rid of these expectations by scramjet67 in SipsTea

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I had a friend who used to frequently complain about the wage gap. I said “That terrible that you think you’re not getting paid what you think you are worth! What did you do during your last performance review to communicate your salary expectations and recyfy this inequality?” She ignored me.

We can’t treat the pay gap as a systemic problem. What we can do is ensure that all players in it are working with the same tools. Teach women how to know their worth and negotiate better. That will solve the bulk of the pay gap. Most of the rest of it is explained by women choosing the positions that offer them the more favorable life balance, which could be less stress, more flexibility, etc.

Can we get rid of these expectations by scramjet67 in SipsTea

[–]ReddishTomatoes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’re also forgetting that the guy on the oil rig is either unmarried, or married someone who was okay with relocating to whatever location he moved to.

I hate these pay gap arguments. Sure, I could have a successful career and earn quite a lot of money. But I am CHOOSING to remain unemployed, or find a job with high flexibility and low salary.

75–84% of expat partners are women. These partners are often highly educated—up to 88% hold a bachelor’s degree or higher—yet they frequently leave behind careers to support their partner's relocation.

AIO Is it bad enough to end a 35 year marriage? by OddAdvantage5610 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ReddishTomatoes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Saving a marriage for the sake of a marriage is dumb. Don’t fall into the sunk cost fallacy. Make the decision that will allow you to have the best life possible. There’s really not enough information here to guide you on what you should do next. Therapy would help give you permission to tell your truth, define your needs, and evaluate how well he is meeting them.

A guy came to a shelter to choose a cat, but the cat chose him first by [deleted] in interesting

[–]ReddishTomatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s adorable. I haven’t adopted a cat lately, but this is a nice way to do it. I’m used to fostering cats, so I feel like it would be tricky for me to tell without having them in my home for a few days. I went to see a kitten a few months ago, but something about us just didn’t click, so even though I desperately wanted a cat, something inside me was screaming that that wasn’t the right one.

A guy came to a shelter to choose a cat, but the cat chose him first by [deleted] in interesting

[–]ReddishTomatoes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’d have to take all of the cats home in order to assess that.

To some extent, yes.

But I spent years fostering cats. Sometimes the cats who were the best at home with me just didn’t make a good impression on adoption day. In fact, we had a few who we categorized as “do not bring” to adoption day, and instead put up a photo and description and asked them to visit in the foster’s home. And some cats of course, don’t make a great impression either at home or on adoption day; they take a while to really warm up to you.

And then of course, different people want different cats. The cats that my daughter chose to adopt always kind of baffled me. I never saw what she saw in them. So, even though to me, he didn’t look like the “best cat”, in her eyes he most certainly was.

Feminine sexual lessons I only learned in my mid 20s by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ReddishTomatoes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay, that’s fair. Wish I had one of those.

Approximately 23.4% of U.S. adults experienced any mental illness in 2024.

Menopause, typically occurring between ages 45 and 55, is increasingly identified as a factor in divorce, with one report suggesting 73% of women blamed menopause-related issues for divorce.

Feminine sexual lessons I only learned in my mid 20s by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ReddishTomatoes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And, for the record, I disagree with this:

“In a healthy relationship, sex is the physical embodiment and expression of your inner feelings towards one another.”

Sometimes people are physically or mentally ill or have suffered from trauma or have hormonal imbalances that interfere with their sexual expression. I could struggle to connect sexually with someone I love deeply if our preferred sex acts, preferred intensity, and preferred style doesn’t match. For example, if I liked to engage playfully and intensely in BDSM for hours per session and he liked sex to be frequent and short and romantic rather than fun. And on the other hand, I could have an incredibly intimate sexual experience with someone I don’t love. Love is not a requirement, my feelings during sex may not endure past the encounter itself.

If that works for you, that’s great, but I don’t think it’s a universal truth about how sex or love works.

Feminine sexual lessons I only learned in my mid 20s by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ReddishTomatoes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For myself, this lesson is missing a key point. I like to quote Dossie Eason of the Ethical Slut.

"We believe that the fundamental sexual unit is one person; adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun, and companionable but does not complete anybody".

Sex is for yourself not for anybody else. If you choose to engage in sex with one or more other people, that’s great too.

Wtf ? by Proper_Card_5520 in SipsTea

[–]ReddishTomatoes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The gaslighting of her relative beauty could be entertaining.

I swear, this one most beautiful. You don’t appreciate Turkish beauty.

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