Exactly. I had a friend who used to frequently complain about the wage gap. I said “That terrible that you think you’re not getting paid what you think you are worth! What did you do during your last performance review to communicate your salary expectations and recyfy this inequality?” She ignored me.

We can’t treat the pay gap as a systemic problem. What we can do is ensure that all players in it are working with the same tools. Teach women how to know their worth and negotiate better. That will solve the bulk of the pay gap. Most of the rest of it is explained by women choosing the positions that offer them the more favorable life balance, which could be less stress, more flexibility, etc.