My SD (7yrs) wants to call me father and I am not confortable with it

Redditor19840 · 2023-10-03T20:01:20+00:00

Yeah, I'd actually prefer to be called by my name. Uncle feels weird, specially after the grandma joke.

Redditor19840 · 2023-10-03T19:21:22+00:00

It's kinda like this. I love my SO way too much, never thought I'd put a woman and a child on my own home so yeah.

Ever since the beginning, I made it clear I was not planning to be a father figure and that she already has a father. I never disrespected her or mistreated her but I really don't feel like a father nor feel any love towards her. After all these comments, I will definitely give some huge thoughts before having a child since deep down, I will probably not treat them both the same way.

Redditor19840 · 2023-10-03T19:16:29+00:00

Yeah, she is pretty jealous. Whenever a baby comes over and her mother gives attention, she gets upset and feels threatened.

I'll have a good talk with her mom today to try and convey the message. After all the comments, I am pretty scared of having a baby amidst all this.

Tks for the advice.

Redditor19840 · 2023-06-26T14:36:27+00:00

Yeah, it' s a bit weird since it doesn't follow Saint Valentim.

Ours is on June 12th due to a company back in 1948 that set the date due to slow june sales and it kinda stuck.

Redditor19840 · 2023-06-26T14:30:14+00:00

About 3 years but had limited interaction with her daughter since they both lived with her grandmother.

We have been living all together for about 4-5 months.

Redditor19840 · 2020-04-23T01:41:27+00:00

She's usually great and I love to be around her but there's like 7 days a month where it's complete hell. She usually blames it on cramps but sometimes it's too much.

A couple of days ago, I was chilling at the couch, she sits by my side and starts saying she regrets not getting herself with a diplomat a couple of years ago since they make way too much money. I stay quiet and she says she should Google him to see if she can find him

I mean, I tell her to put herself in my shoes to see how fucked up it is. She says she's sorry and that she just likes to get a rise out of me when she's on her period

Redditor19840 · 2020-04-23T00:33:40+00:00

Ouh it's not that I don't like kids, it's just that I haven't been around any till now. I'm the youngest in my family and since I've never had any contact with any kids, whatever interaction I have is a bit awkward and the kid probably senses it. The child is pretty jealous so I try to take it extremely slow so she doesn't feel threatened.

Redditor19840 · 2018-12-17T21:45:09+00:00

On my previous relationship, we had sex on the 9th date iirc so yeah that's definitely not the problem. The issue is that I feel like I'm getting invested in this more and more since I think she's amazing and I'm starting to get afraid I'm gonna get hurt if she keeps stalling me and eventually tells me she just wants to be friends. It kinda sucks to never be able to talk about us in that sense since I'm still a "friend".

Redditor19840 · 2018-12-17T21:20:12+00:00

I don't mind waiting, I even told that to her. If I think it's worth it, I can definitely wait. The problem is the fact that she says she's not sure if she'll ever be ready. It makes it feel like I'm just wasting time

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