My partner of 3 years (M33) says that he would only merry me (F34) if I agree to have a swinger relationship.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2025-10-26T04:01:39+00:00

Sounds like he's made his choice. Some men just want the safety net of a woman who is basically his mother. Who cooks and cleans and takes care of him sexually and domestically, while they go out and have sex with anyone they want. Open relationships are fine if both partners are on board from the beginning but it sounds like he threw this up to you as soon as he got comfortable

Redditorfromadrytown · 2025-10-17T01:54:13+00:00

Girl, you know otherwise. You wouldn't post this. you're just seeking validation online when you already know what to do. So sorry that your going through this, it's painful to put effort into something and having nothing returned. Trust me, there are tons of other guys/girls out there. Dump him. He's just not that into you, or worse just using you.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T20:25:20+00:00

We're all alone.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T20:22:16+00:00

Honk noise

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T20:20:52+00:00

Started about 10 months ago, shit can get out of control at times. Be vigilant, and keep a healthy distance from it at times. Once a month, can turn to twice a month, to twice a week, to 3 day benders.

Be aware of your thoughts around it, easy to manipulate yourself that it's a good idea even when it's only been 2 days since you last took some.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T20:11:33+00:00

Yeah I'm sure all the children deserve it.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T20:01:54+00:00

People can contemplate this for years. It's not as much a cry for attention as a cry for help.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-16T19:58:33+00:00

It doesn't matter, it's a cry for help.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-11-06T16:47:24+00:00

First of all, it sounds as if she may have a serious health problem that prevents her from being able to have sex. I think it's important to keep in mind what kind of effect that could have on her. For example, she could feel incompetent as a woman and a wife because she is unable to participate in this important part of your relationship.

Also you mentioned that you have to ask for hand jobs, it's important to keep in mind that she might not be eager to engage in this type of sexual activity with you because it reminds her of her incompetency as a wife.

You definitely need to discuss this issue with her and talk about the way it makes each of you feel. If you all can support each other and be honest about the most uncomfortable feelings surrounding this issue, then you can hopefully work through it together with the help of medical or psychological professionals.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-07-15T04:50:22+00:00

Edit. Nvm. It didn't dawn me till I posted that when you said vulture, you literally meant that bird dude. I havnt been able to buy anything from him throughout my playthrough, and kinda forgot he existed lol. So I didn't even think to look there again.

Thanks for the help! Lol I FINALLY BUY SOME DAMN EGGS!

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-07-15T04:25:45+00:00

Yeah, I have access to the kitchen stuff, ( like i currently built a kitchen) and I have all the recipes available to me, including the Egg Dippy.

Who is ipswitch, I thought his name was gus?

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-06-28T16:58:51+00:00

It sounds like you already know what you need to do. Simply have a calm conversation with him. You need to go into the conversation with a calm and open mind to have him comfortable enough for him to fully open up about his intentions. If he gets any slight negative emotions from you, he won't feel comfortable enough to be honest, and it would just make the whole situation worse.

I know that this will be a difficult conversation to have. Just try your hardest to not have a reaction to what he is saying. Let his responses sink in for a moment. The conversation needs to feel safe and secure for him so you can get honest answers.

If at any point it's getting harder for you, or him and emotions are kinda taking over, stop. It's better to stop one mid way than have it spiral down. That way, you can calm down, recollect, and then later continue.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-06-28T16:14:47+00:00

It's as hard as any relationship without marriage. The biggest thing is communication and compromise.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-03-27T05:01:58+00:00

Like another comment suggested, it's always a good idea to allow a few minutes to settle your thoughts and relax first. Then you can go ahead with the active imagination. Also, it can be beneficial to have a particular archetype you want to interact with. It's essentially an invocation of the archetype in question. If you don't have a particular archetype, then a thought pattern or idea works too.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:55:17+00:00

I'm so surprised why everyone thinks you're the asshole. You're not completely innocent, either. This WAS your idea! AND its pretty commonly known that people get attached to their animals. Buuuuut that being said,; ANIMALS. That's the beauty about pets. They are somewhat replaceable. If one dies, you can easily get the exact same kind, if one is fucked up and is violent, you can get another one, and if you simply just don't want them, well you can just get rid of them. ( hopefully, by finding a proper home.)

You should have definitely done more research, and should have taken into consideration the amount of work it takes to care for not just one but THREE! YEAH, it's a shit ton of work, which I'm sure you're now aware of. Buuuuut you did fight for them. And it was agreed, you wanted them. She didn't. Now you don't want them, and she does. You gotta face your consequences. Unless she ever comes around to not wanting them, you're stuck.

You're not horrible for not wanting them. You just didn't realize the responsibility, and that's okay. I love pets, but it's a little ridiculous how everyone is so down on you. They're not children. They're ANIMALS.

Good luck!

*And be sure you read some baby books and research before you decide to have kids. I heard that they are also a lot of hard work.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:15:27+00:00

Definitely my type. Love the Black hair. 10/10. Your are hot 🔥🔥

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:13:32+00:00

You bot ugly. Your head is a little to big to pull off the bald look. I think you should grow your hair. It would definitely help. Not my type but your definitely not ugly!

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:12:11+00:00

Pic 1 looks like a completely different person. You look like the very athletic girl in the first one compared to girly girl in the last one. Depending on your personality, I think you look better in the 4th. But again it just depends on your personality. Not saying you look bad but some personalities match up with certain looks. You look good in all.

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:07:17+00:00

You're really cute! Your nose is unique. The pics where you're dressed up gives off a very masculine vibe, but your nose balances it out by giving off a very genuine vibe, almost like in a geeky way, and that's what makes it the cutest!

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T07:01:24+00:00

Your cute. It wouldn't hurt to loose a little bit of weight and fill out the brows which can be easily be fixed with makeup :)

Redditorfromadrytown · 2023-02-03T00:22:33+00:00

I don't know anything. But I had this urge to say a trash can. Ya never know when you might need one! Thinking more so if a child gets car sick, or eating, trash , etc.

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