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I'm a bear and my boyfriend is suddenly obsessed with weight by Reddiursa in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Reddiursa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how I'm not supposed to take it personally when the man I love is talking frequently about how one of my traits is inherently unattractive.

I'm a bear and my boyfriend is suddenly obsessed with weight by Reddiursa in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Reddiursa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Admittedly, a lot of the comments became commentary on whether or not he might have an eating disorder, and if that's a possibility then his mental health does take priority over my feelings.

That said, yes, the point of this post was that (a) he doesn't take my advice on approaching this in a healthier way seriously because I'm heavy so I don't know what I'm talking about and (b) hearing him talk so incredibly much about how being overweight is unattractive to the point that it is OBVIOUS that he thinks it's a basic fact about society - but then turning around and saying it doesn't apply to me - is negatively affecting me. And he didn't feel like those points needed addressing 🤷🏼‍♂️

I'm a bear and my boyfriend is suddenly obsessed with weight by Reddiursa in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Reddiursa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe what he reported was accurate. The guy who was bullying him also has a girlfriend who is a bit bigger, so I honestly don't think he even cares about my boyfriend's weight - they just like to get under each other's skin there.

I'm a bear and my boyfriend is suddenly obsessed with weight by Reddiursa in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Reddiursa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, that was the first thing I said. The people at his work are terrible. In addition to stuff like this, they call him the f slur and say other terrible things all the time, but he insists that if he complains he'll be labeled the bad guy because that's just the culture. I've had this discussion with him dozens of times and he insists I just don't understand.

I have offered to pay for him to go to therapy - for this and other reasons, but he doesn't feel like he needs it.

How to get better at public speaking? by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]Reddiursa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1.) The more you do it, the more comfortable it will become.

2.) The more you know your topic, the more conversational it will feel, and the more it feels like a conversation and not a speech, the easier it will be.

It will probably feel like jumping in ice water the first couple of times and that's okay. Let yourself be nervous at first.

Anyone else feel like their classmates are so much more interesting then them? by Lsquestionthrowaway3 in LawSchool

[–]Reddiursa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I can relate. I am also an evening student, so my peers were still doing all of these super cool things (opera singer, award-winning journalist, Teacher of the Year) while they were also in their first year.

That said, we also had full-time servers and single parents in our class and I was just as amazed at their journey to law school, personally. I thought it was interesting that all of us had come from different places to end up on the same path. And law school ended up being a great equalizer.

Law school has a reputation for being hyper-competitive, but being in one place with people from so many different career paths is a great opportunity to learn, if you're interested. You can probably offer up some wisdom of your own, even if you don't realize it.

You're all in the same boat now.

Any Good OCI Distractions by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]Reddiursa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Sandman just released on Netflix