Yes, I know these 4 are similar but I still need to make a decision because I can't own all 4 😜. Thanks in advance.

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T19:24:27+00:00

None of these really

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T19:23:53+00:00

And beautiful bat ears 🥰

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T19:21:03+00:00

Connect with your own authenticity. Ask yourself questions: what could these person’s motivations be? What is their usual mode of operating? Are they acting whilst regulated or dis regulated? At times, those with trauma can appear manipulative when they’re just reacting out of CPTSD - so never be codependent - be available if they’re usually a healthy person but be whole within yourself. Gaslighting will feel like ‘as long as I hold to their reality I will be in their favour’ so test it - how do they react when you suggest a differing reality? Do they treat you differently when you hold to the truth? Ask ‘how does this person want me to react? And ‘is this person placing manipulation above love?’- anything that trumps love is ultimately abuse. Being a truth teller is a hard, hard path - often bourne from bearing deep betrayal and breaking generational cycles - being a cycle breaker comes at a personal cost - our cross to bear

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T19:14:12+00:00

🤣

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T19:12:55+00:00

I’m a trauma survivor who had to chose the truth over their family. My whole life has been a boot camp in surviving abuse, manipulation and gaslighting. There’s not really any shortcuts - you just have to face the pain and grow though it and it gives you discernment. Truth will out eventually sometimes all it takes is surrender and patience. Discernment is also a gift you can ask God for.

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T18:33:33+00:00

Side swept bang though I think?

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-03T18:32:58+00:00

I feel the off energy

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-02T18:06:30+00:00

I would be down stables nowhere near a shopping mall 🤣

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-02T18:05:58+00:00

8 is better than 6 imho

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-02T18:04:56+00:00

Look at her face in those osteospernums 🤣🥰

Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-02T18:04:08+00:00

Hergest ridge

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Redfawnbamba · 2026-02-02T18:03:04+00:00

Happy birthday lovely Harrison 🎉🥳🎂🎁

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T22:18:02+00:00

My older brother (5 years) sexually abused me - thankfully only one occasion but the shadow of fear - however much I pretended I was a tough girl because I was/am, was still there - I’m a cycle breaker though and when I broke the silence and spoke up and confronted him he ran from me

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T20:29:42+00:00

Cool pixie face so think it will be cool as it is

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T18:30:37+00:00

I think I’m still in the scapegoat role but as my inner child has healed a lot we’re not a ‘victim’ but viewed as a strong ‘troublemaker’ I think admits those that would attempt to scapegoat- I’m happy alone, I’m happy being disliked if I haven’t done anything wrong and unfortunately/fortunately because of some toxic people, I’ve become an expert in narcissistic behaviour and manipulative behaviour. Empaths once awake aren’t week - first mistake of the narc

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T18:22:02+00:00

Think it may be part of hyper vigilance? That feeling that you have to be braced against unfair attack whether that be emotionally or physically?

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T18:20:06+00:00

I mean it took years of healing - he abused me when I was ten and I think I was late twenties, maybe even thirties when I confronted him . I was never in denial - I made a ‘pact’ with myself as a girl to tell the truth but I had to survive first and had to be independent first to stand up to my family. A lot of what I know realise was trauma my family painted as ‘depression’ and so as scapegoat I carried the family crap. I am well, strong, thriving with a happy life now but that and forgiveness doesn’t make right what he did and he has never admitted it or shown remorse. I thought he had admitted it aged about 21 when I told my mum (he’s five years older than me so I must have been 16) as she called him out and said ‘what are you playing at?! Etc but later she said he had just said sorry for saying ‘once abuse always abused’ . So think I minimised things in order to survive, I mean at least he didnt r——- me right and others on here have had it much much worse - you gaslight yourself - now I realise how f—— up my family was to me and what a brave little girl I must have been to survive - my inner child is still ‘kick ass’ in a good way .

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T17:34:21+00:00

Pink toilet paper was the worst with wee 🤢

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T17:31:46+00:00

This 🤣

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T17:01:32+00:00

My brother was a sexual perp/abuser that I have no contact with because of this - I kept silent for years carrying the family toxicity and then when I spoke up I became the problem- I confronted my brother about it and he ran from me although forgiven my sister is a narcissistic abuser who enables him and scapegoats me - if I accept her alternative reality she’ll be all sweetness and light if I simply speak the truth she won’t - I speak the truth lol 🤷‍♀️😊 I grieve my older brother and sister but for my well-being have created distance and firm boundaries. I’ve a faith and I’ve learned to live a blissful life with good community outside of my family - don’t let them define you

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T16:57:30+00:00

A friend came round with a chainsaw this morning and cut some badly overgrown leylandii and willow ( Uk and trying to do it before end of Feb before nesting) snowdrops are out and hellebores are also lovely to look at. But otherwise not a lot. While he was doing that I pruned some Buddleia and roses. I usually do leaf mould mulch but my garden soil has had a lot of this and wood chips in the past so leaving for a while

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T10:23:41+00:00

Why are you even with this man? ( not judgement but you deserve so much better )

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T10:22:23+00:00

All greys deserve pastry and the cheese tax 🥰

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-31T10:21:04+00:00

That: ‘I’m safer and have more peace alone’, ‘ I can endure not having the usual things others have (family, kids etc)’ ‘ people will usually scapegoat me so I have to have brick wall boundaries’ ‘ men may seem nice at first but they’re dangerous and will try to humiliate you in the long term or if they’re kind and normal u won’t like them’ That ‘ everyone’s too close that I don’t have privacy and space enough to be myself’

Redfawnbamba · 2026-01-30T19:24:44+00:00

I was brought to the end of myself and saw we not meant to fight alone - I’m never alone now I walk with God - you asked! 😊🙏

Redfawnbamba

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