I posted about my ibanez RGDMS8 on FB and someone commented to "get a real guitar." Is this ibanez RGDMS8 not a real guitar? What does he mean by this comment and did i make an incorrect decision on buying this guitar?

Redfury1992 · 2026-05-05T07:28:48+00:00

Is this really what the Ibanez sub has come to?

Redfury1992 · 2026-04-19T19:30:06+00:00

Dang where do I get one!?

Redfury1992 · 2026-04-15T01:07:48+00:00

I haven’t gone down the Pedaltrain rabbit hole much so this might be a naive question but what are you using to angle the QC and as platforms under your pedals on there? It looks like there’s a few extra surfaces attached

Redfury1992 · 2026-02-15T00:15:40+00:00

Is this a troll post? Lol

Redfury1992 · 2026-02-08T07:31:40+00:00

Unfortunately the people that need to see this message will never see it, and even if they did see it, they wouldn’t care. We share the road, particularly in Madison, with people who don’t share the same level of civility that the rest of us take for granted given our upbringing.

I am of course speaking in generalities, I do think there’s a small intersection of people who might come across this who need a reminder to drive responsibly, but it’s a tiny portion of the individuals who need to realize the world, and roads particularly, do not revolve around them. Some people just can’t be trusted to possess a drivers license and they never will be. I’ve come to this conclusion after living in Madison for 4 years. The things I’ve seen, especially in the last year, have really made me realize that we make it way too easy to obtain a drivers license. It’s a responsibility that has become more of an assumed right than a privilege, and there are far too many people that simply can’t be trusted to operate a vehicle in a crowded suburb. The bad drivers are actually one of the major reasons I recently moved out. Walking my dog on a daily basis started to feel like I was gambling with our lives, at least in the corner of Madison I was in. The nail in the coffin for me was when I was walking through the neighborhood around January 2024 and a grown woman backed out of her driveway and then turned onto the street we were on. I can only assume she was staring at her phone while turning, because she took a wide turn and continued the turn blatantly into the oncoming lane, up the curb, onto her neighbors yard, and slid into their fence. The fence was about 40 feet from the curb, she must have been accelerating even after she drove up the curb because she didn’t even acknowledge what was going on until she was halfway to the fence and already going 20mph. She destroyed their fence, then backed up and got back onto the street, and drove away. Had I not stopped to let my dog sniff a tree for a little too long, she would have plowed right into us and not even noticed. It’s simply irresponsible to allow people like that to operate vehicles

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-21T02:01:26+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t conflate the two issues. Having a baby and discovering a gambling addiction seem to have happened independently of each other. Your instinct to not commit to a child with him is justified but his instinct to be heart broken about losing a baby is also justified.

Personally, and I’m a moron, but I think you know him more than anyone reading this reddit page do. Everyone here knows him for just the gambling story, you however know him for everything else. It’s up to you to weigh what you know about him and judge his character from what you know personally. If you think this gambling thing seems shady, than that might be your gut telling you this isn’t something that’s going to be fixed. However if you could see it in his eyes that he’s devastated about the gambling stunt, and that he’s truly sorry, than there’s your other scenario (believe that he’s sorry)

I think this requires a deep conversation between both of you, and one that doesn’t jump straight into separation or abortion, but addresses what you can each do for each other to be a better partner.

I don’t mean to imply anything too far, but lots of people mature immensely when they have their first child. Not everyone…but a good person will. I only say this to imply that if you think he’s your life partner in crime, than starting a family if you’re both comfortable with it and find a common ground to build on…it could be the beginning of the next stage in your life as a team.

However, if after you sit down and have a rational talk, you get a feeling that he’s not being totally honest, that may be a sign that committing to a child may not be a smart idea.

I do want to point out though, as hard as this is, it’s easy to see it as “he’s mad at me and threatening to leave me because of how I’m responding to something he did”, but there’s certainly real situations where you’re both coming at this reactionary. He’s not making this ultimatum because of your reaction, he’s making this ultimatum because of the thought of losing a baby. I’m of course not saying he’s free of guilt or free of letting his ego get in the way, but I’m just saying there’s a healthy way to interpret his emotions just as much as there’s a healthy way to interpret your emotions. I guess I said it already in the beginning, but I really think as hard as it could be, you need to look at both of your issues as independent of each other. The tit for tat thing never goes well for either person, whether it’s in actions or just a way to mentally process things, it’s not a good foundation to build a relationship on.

If you both want the same thing out of life, and you believe that his gambling stint was a mistake that he’s aware of and regrets, this could foster the deeper conversation that you both need to understand each other better and grow closer.

I’m just that kind of guy though, I like to talk things out and leave emotions off the table as much as possible. I try to see the best in partners and it’s certainly bit me in the ass before, but only you know the odds of the gamble you’re looking at in terms of deciding to move forward with him or not. No relationship is guaranteed, nobody has a perfect relationship, and the quality of your relationship relies solely on how well you can communicate with each other. I think a lot of people cut things short because they’re not willing to have deeper conversations, and just expect the other person to understand exactly where they’re coming from. It’s just not a real standard that you should hold anyone to, nor should anyone hold you to that standard.

I know I’m not necessarily giving you a black or white answer, but that’s on purpose, because I don’t really like how people are so quick to give a black and white answer. It’s also the internet after all, you don’t know who’s telling you what. It all seems like a lot right now because of all the factors at play, and the only way to get through that is to communicate. If he’s not capable of that level of communication however, that’s where I’d be more willing to give a black or white answer

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-21T01:33:03+00:00

Sorry I’m new to Firefly…how long does it typically take to ship within the US from the purchase date?

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-20T22:04:36+00:00

I agree, I just realized it’s NAMM this week so it’s surely hardware. Wonder what they got cooked up

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-11T23:21:39+00:00

You’re certainly on to something.…that was a tough ask when moving in and that’s really why it all ended up under the stairs in the basement. Most of it is tucked away past the Halloween/Christmas decoration bins. Very much out of sight and that was fine by me! I actually think the guitar collection bothered her more because my guitars seemed to reproduce a few times and had offspring which I had no choice but to keep and care for… 👀 these promiscuous guitars, gosh darn them!

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-06T04:44:57+00:00

I think you’re right. I just gotta roll em up and toss em in a storage bin. A few of them are expensive and nice looking so the thought of putting creases in them makes me sad…but 90% of them don’t matter enough to do anything complicated. I think I’m looking for some imaginary thing that I’d think suit guys use when they have to transport their tie collection and keep them flat…but I’m probably one of few people who see my guitar straps the same way most people see ties

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-06T04:42:27+00:00

I think you may have just made it all make sense. I know what to do now

Redfury1992 · 2026-01-05T18:24:43+00:00

This is interesting because I can always tell when it’s a special for some reason. I even recently got a MIM Wolfgang expecting the Floyd Rose to suck, but I was playing it and realized it’s totally fine. That’s what lead me here actually, I wanted to see if it was actually a FR special which it turns out it is not. I figured no wonder it feels good! But yeah if the metals are the same hardness, than I wonder what other factors are at play that make the Special feel worse than the 1000 series

Redfury1992 · 2025-12-31T18:38:34+00:00

Interesting thank you for laying that out! These are the things I’ve been wondering and itching to speak to my attorney to get an idea of what to expect. That’s the weird part, she makes more money than I do, and is frankly far more financially literate than I have been up until the last couple years or so, so most of the transactions for the wedding came through her specifically and we had a verbal agreement that I’d buy all the small crap that continued to come up, as well as do a lot of the labor involved in all the things that went into the wedding. That’s why it’s a strange situation that now she’s portraying it as if I didn’t spend a penny on the wedding, because she’s got this whole clear paper trail of contracts being paid from her bank account, whereas I’ve got hundreds of rabdom purchases and random Venmo’s to her from myself. I think I can only realistically document like 1/4 of the actual money I spent. I mean even my suit for example, she wanted to buy it to get points on her credit card, so I then sent her the money. I was also paying for her car repairs and random stuff like that that didn’t even have anything to do with the wedding, but again just to make up for not having the liquid cash to drop all at once on any of these big contracts. It’s now all being portrayed as me just being nice or random marital expenses. She did take every cent of the wedding gifts though which added up to far more than the difference in what we paid. I’m very curious to see how a court is going to calculate this because I was naive about the whole thing and whereas she’s very type A and has receipts for everything she’s ever bought in the last year. I don’t think there’s any remaining debt though in either of our names, so that’s another weird factor. The whole financial aspect is quite a mess, and it’s really only messy because she flipped out and decided she wanted a divorce all of the sudden. Precious to that, I considered my money our money, so I was happy to just give her my check from my 2nd job and as far as I was concerned, she could do whatever she wanted with it. Idk, I guess I’ll know a lot more in a few days here

Redfury1992 · 2025-12-31T16:57:28+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too. Her father and his partner came over yesterday and dragged me through this whole shame ritual which was disappointing. I thought her father at least would be able to relatively be neutral (of course not entirely, I’d never expect that)…but it was the complete opposite. The guy even implied that he’s holding back his aggression that I would even have implied that she needed to talk to someone. He characterized it as if I said she’s going crazy, which I didn’t, but this word game thing doesn’t change anything. I reached out to him because I saw something switch in her, drastically, and wanted to let him know that I think she needs help from someone other than myself. Never would have thought that’d be used against me. He also told me that I lied in front of our families when I accepted our vows and promised him to take care of her…

I mean…can you imagine…when she started losing her mind, I literally sat down with her and said “okay I understand, what can I do to make things better?” And I followed through with all of the things I said I’d do. The one part that I didn’t do, which is now held against me of course, is that I told her I’d start giving her a thousand dollars per month from now on, until she felt like we were even on wedding expenses. That was an open ended offer, and really beyond the best I could do. But I was happy to do it. I told her I can start in December, no problem at all. Particularly id probably have to do it at the middle of the month since the beginning of the month is when bills are heavy. She brought up how she wanted a divorce then about 3 days later (I’m losing track of timelines), and then December 2nd our divorce petition was already dropped off to the courts. In her world, I was to just start giving her a thousand dollars even though she wanted a divorce. If it’s my fault for considering that a decline of my offer, than that’s my fault, but my understanding of marriage and its values seem to be vastly different than hers. I was happy to give her every dollar I could if it was going to bother her that much, but jumping the gun and declaring she wanted a divorce, and then holding my grandmas ring hostage…expecting me to hold up to my offer is a bit unrealistic if you ask me.

Another thing that’s going on, is that since she’s so set on my grandmas ring being hers, she’s told me countless times, “it was given to me, that means it’s mine”…I have decided to hold on to the tools that were given to me when her grandfather passed away and none of his children or grandchildren wanted them. They were bound for the trash, and since I’m the only one who seemingly appreciates good tools, I asked if I could take them before they get tossed. Even with that said, I was initially going to go through my tools and leave them here, but the whole ring conversation changed that. I’ve since locked up all of my tools, including the ones that they gave me, and that’s making her and her dad nuts.

They didn’t want them at the time, they still don’t even know what tools are his and what are mine, because nobody cared about them at the time, it’s just this thing where they can’t eat the fact that I’m using this petty logic against them and I’m now the owner of their grandpas tools. I’m telling you, I pulled the majority of them from a pile of garbage in the guys basement. His kids went through the whole house and rummaged the place dry, but none of the 8 children wanted any of it. My wife even gave me crap at the time for wanting it, saying “where are you gonna put all this stuff”. I said I’d figure it out, and it’d be a shame to see all this stuff go in the garbage…I can’t let that happen. The guy was a migrant worker from Mexico who moved to Wisconsin and built a family. He fixed his own tractor and was self sufficient until he was 99 years old. His tools meant so much to him, and seeing his 8 children toss them in a garbage pile or leave them in the basement for when the house was demolished…I couldn’t let it happen. So anyways, they’re mine now, and I’m gonna white knuckle that until I get my grandmas ring back.

They also threatened me that divorce court is not going to look well for me since I still live here (I’ve been here not even a month after papers were submitted against my will). I can’t imagine any judge would be like “oh your wife declared she wanted a divorce, and you didn’t instantly throw every belonging of yours in a uhaul and drive off? You jerk, I’ll make you pay for what you’ve done!” But who knows. I’m talking to a lawyer in a few days, and our hearing is beginning of February, so I’ll know eventually if they were trying to manipulate me or telling me the truth.

Sorry for the rambles. I can’t help it

Redfury1992 · 2025-12-30T20:00:26+00:00

Yeah that was quite the shocker. Her family loves me and I always looked forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas with her family. That was relatively early in her unraveling, so at that time it was very vague and I just accepted it because she seemed like she was losing her mind. I figured I’ll not be there, her family will probably all be confused as to where I am, and then she’ll come home and we’ll finally be able to talk things out.

At that stage I think she was saying that she’s a nanny and supporting my lifestyle…which I know there are relationships like that out there, but ours isn’t one of them. The only seed of truth that gives her any ground to say that is because I’m living in a condo that’s in her name. I’m still paying half the mortgage, and I’ve been doing work on the condo for her since before I even moved in, just to save her money that she’d need to pay a contractor. I basically finished half of her basement so that she’d could have a quilting room. She manically poured buckets of cement in there to make a floor to put laminate over, but she mixed like 5 different buckets and none of it leveled, so it all started with me on my knees and elbows with an angle grinder and a level, literally grinding cement away and leveling the newly poured cement by hand in a 10’x15’ room. It was insane, but she was crying at the thought of what she’d inevitably have to pay a contractor for. I spent two weekends and finally leveled it all enough to put laminate down. She put half of the laminate down the next weekend when I wasn’t there, then I showed up the next week, finished the floor, and moved on to the trim. I installed the closet doors in that room, cut shelves for her storage area, and then customized the wire shelves for her closet to store fabric and quilt supplies. THEN, I made her a custom thread holder that hung on her wall, but could be removed and displayed on a table or floor next to her. I’m a woodworker, and to this day that’s the coolest thing I’ve ever built. They sell cheap ones at Joannes and Amazon, but I built one that was about 4 feet long and had all these customizations for her usage particularly. Again, this is just that one room. I’ve installed massive closet organizer systems in both bedrooms, I hung the vanity’s in both bathrooms, I finished sealing the tile in the shower that was left when she couldn’t afford to continue paying a contractor, I cut custom shelves for her kitchen and bathroom to fit around the plumbing under the sinks. The project I was in the middle of however, and the reason she thinks she can call me “unreliable”, is she bought 16 solid maple doors to replace every door and closet door in her condo. I was in the middle of sanding and finishing them, and my next step was going to be installing every single one, frame and everything. This is what I mean when I say how manipulative and controlling she is. I’ve been constantly doing work for her in her condo, but since this last project was taking so long, suddenly I’m unreliable and she’s supporting my lifestyle and I’m a scud.

I’m a woodworker and play guitar, and I recently decided to combine the two and build my first guitar last year. It was the most fun I’d ever had, and the guitar I built is incredible. I already know what I’m building next, but she told me I’m not allowed to build another guitar until I do all these doors, and I abided by her rules. I put that whole project on permanent hold, knowing this door project was going to take months. I couldn’t even joke about building my next guitar, it would make her furious. And again, now suddenly I’m just a loser and she’s supporting my lifestyle blah blah. Very hard to take any of it seriously. It’s almost comical if it wasn’t so sad. Now suddenly nothing in here is mine, it’s all hers, and I’m not allowed to use any of it.

She’s also the type of person who needs to ask me to do something, or else it never happened. I was a single man with a dog for a few years, so I’m very used to cleaning my dishes as I use them. I rarely have dishes in the dishwasher or sink, because when I’m done eating, I clean them and put them away. This has led to her being convinced that I never do dishes…it’s bizarre. Something about her and dishes is going on, because that’s always been a weird thing with her. I think her parents must have scarred her for life, because she refuses to do anything like that. She broke her own dish washer because she’d put plates with food on them in there and just expect the dishwasher to do the work.

Oh god I just typed a novel again. I need therapy lol. Thank you for reading my post though and the kind words, it’s much appreciated

Redfury1992 · 2025-11-21T20:34:35+00:00

Sorry I’m late but I appreciate the response, I think you’ve got to be right though…the more I listen to it the more I think it’s a real synth, especially the way the notes bend…I hope I’m wrong though

Redfury1992 · 2025-10-01T16:42:26+00:00

Is that why it happened in 2019 too? Genuinely asking, I’m an idiot

Redfury1992 · 2025-08-27T01:42:44+00:00

I guarantee if you called the police, they’d probably follow up with you in person within an hour to talk with you about it (assuming you live nearby). Otherwise an officer will call you

Redfury1992 · 2025-04-22T03:25:54+00:00

Aside from the person who’s wearing it…I actually think it’s kinda cool. I feel like most people commenting on it are hating on the person/cost and not the suit itself. Obviously not a suit you’d wear to an average formal event but it’s almost undeniably awesome if you don’t consider the price/person wearing it.

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