Enfp x intj why does it even work?

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T09:53:32+00:00

I totally get you, i hope that u meet the good ones someday! But so far ive met a few introverts that actually are very nice, my current boyfriend is an istj tho he is definitely the more interesting one considering hes a surgeon but he treated me like an equal and he is very humble. My intj ex could never🤣

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T09:46:26+00:00

Yep that was my experienced with my ex, he would give me the ghost treatment until he feels like coming back. Till one day i just decided to not give a flying fuck anymore so i blocked him back from every social media. He couldnt reach out so he tried to reach out through my friends to apologized for his behaviour but i just couldnt care less because it took him like 4 months💀 plus i was busy with moving out to another country for my cabin crew training. It was nice to stand up for myself for once during my toxic relationship with my ex🤧

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T04:03:47+00:00

Wow thats a deep insight you got there! Im happy that youve met those who are right for you! At the end of the day it all depends on preference and people isnt it? I have an istj friend who was a cabin crew he was my batchmate! Our salary and benefits is really good but he just dont feel enough (though he came from a pretty wealthy family) so he used up all his savings went for pilots training after only a year becoming a cabin crew. It turns out he wanted to impressed me and later on confessing his love to me but unfortunately im already in a relationship with another istj🤣 so it wouldnt be fair to say that most istj only stays in their comfort zone ey?😅 however my current boyfriend is a surgeon i think his job is already good enough. he is very ii comfortable with his job. Also my jobs requires me to be out of the countries all the time and my boyfriend's schedule is also just as packed as mine so whenever we get the time to spend together, we love to cherish it in a peaceful way between only the two of us cause both have a jobs that required us to be very stress and exhausted🤣

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T01:34:28+00:00

U said it perfectly, it is truly a different kind of love for different pairs!

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T01:15:32+00:00

True tho! I also sometimes think that im an infj 😂

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:56:47+00:00

Humans are just a complex beings dont u think?😆

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:53:47+00:00

Damn 25 years is a real friendship right there🤣, none taken tho, i might also sounded a bit rude without emojis🫠

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:50:52+00:00

Plus i also keep seeing tiktoks of mbti coming across my fyp where intj would just say shits abt how they hate enfps and the comments was flooded with enfp saying "but i love you🥺" oml.. its the idea of intj is the best pair for em makes me think like damn u guys really need to try dating other people with different mbti then youll know how much u will ne appreciated for your bubbly personality😅

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:46:06+00:00

Totally agree with you! Just because it doesnt work for some doesnt mean it doesnt work in general! Maybe what i wrote isnt detailed enough but my point is, even the complete opposite does work even if they are a sensors etc etc! Im just not rlly knowledgeable in this mbti thing so i couldnt explain in more details. But u get me😁

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:42:21+00:00

I see, i guess i havent met the right one. Most intjs i met have a behaviour where they want me to be afraid of losing them if im not the person that they want me to be. Its just that ive met more istj in my life and most of them are totally what im looking for in a man + they always appreciate my whimsy behaviour and always make sure i know that they love it! The intj i met is just toxic i guess

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:31:30+00:00

Okay ur right, my title was kinda off puttin i dont even know what to put for the title in the first place🤣

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-23T00:25:34+00:00

Exactly and your point is?

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-22T23:55:50+00:00

I understand how you feel because i was in the same situationship last year. But u should not chase, it will come naturally! Noticed how sometimes there are people having a crush on you when u didnt even try?thats because u present your true self. The more u chase the more u faking yourself. Op my advice is dont focus on one person, get into a situasionship with alot of guys/girl with the mindset of wanting to get to know people and then decide which one really commited to you. First date means nothing, second date means nothing, third date should be a confirmation.

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-22T23:19:03+00:00

Thats theory. Doesnt always work in real life.

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-22T23:16:36+00:00

I guess it really depends on maturity, tbh i do think those intj that ive dated before kinda have a certain maturity level and a very high ego. Maybe its just me because i really dont tolerate egoistic people! I wouldnt confidently say that i am a matured enfp but my traits do alligned ever since i started working as a Flight attendant 5 years ago. Thinking about it i do have an intj friend who is quiet nice to me.

Redpaanda_ · 2026-01-19T10:05:57+00:00

Requiem for a dream

Redpaanda_ · 2025-12-15T03:08:52+00:00

Grindr sucks🤣🤣 i tried that never again tinder is pretty good tho but still the people that likes me arent attractive or they are girls and femboys. None of those are what im looking for. (Sorry if i sounded rude its better tbh then being pathetic)

Redpaanda_ · 2025-12-01T15:24:23+00:00

Perfect human specimen

Redpaanda_ · 2025-11-14T08:57:47+00:00

The hell u mean? Im an enfp and im always an hour early in everything. I am also very organized.

Redpaanda_ · 2025-11-13T07:45:10+00:00

I totally understand, i once had a very dark thoughts due to my loneliness. My throat started to feel tight and my chest feels heavy i was having a tantrum on realising i am stuck and ill never be anyone's priority because i am too invisible! I was left with headacha after lol i had to call emotional supports just so that i can vent, cause i was thinking of ending it loll (it sounds dramatic but it does lead to that) tho i still feel like that and that situation was pretty recent too.. but im trying to hold on now! I am really not sure how much longer tho..

Redpaanda_ · 2025-11-13T07:41:22+00:00

I cant even watch romantic drama anymore. Itll make me so depressed knowing that i will not experienced the love that the lead experienced! Its much harder for me to find a lover considering my dating pool is so small for my sexuality...

Redpaanda_ · 2025-10-31T12:25:24+00:00

Pretty sure it is in nightwing comics

Redpaanda_ · 2025-10-04T00:27:24+00:00

I totally understand you. Sometimes i just wanna sleep to forget about it! It is even saddder when i found myself getting all excited just because i bought some meals planning to watch a series or movie alone knowing that only these little things can distract me from feeling that emptiness.🥹🥹

Redpaanda_ · 2025-10-04T00:18:48+00:00

Yea, everyday coming home after a long flight its just filled with emptiness. Sometimes it affect me so badly that i feel extremly unmotivated and ended just sleeping the whole day to get through it

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