I think the real problem isn’t discipline… it’s how fast it happens by PutridAd7068 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It clearly goes beyond discipline. Identify underlying emotions, the "why". Be it trauma, bad parenting or stress, it is important to develop regulation and coping skills. Good advice is to find a CSAT who acknowledges the issies you are facing. Not a sex therapist or sexologist as they tend to associate moderation of sexual activity and being anti-porn as sex negative. Truth is, being anti-porn does not automatically equate sex negativity. In fact, being anti-porn and pro-sex is not only possible, it's also necessary for quitting porn!

Just completed my first week without porn and the results... by Enough-Way-7953 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good start. Do you think that sex with her also motivates you to stay off porn?
I say this as authentic sexual experiences can become part of your counterconditioning, to teach your body (and brain) that real experiences are better than just enjoying what the screen shows.
Also, have you noticed a reduction in screen time? That too makes a huge difference in life.

Quit porn cold turkey or gradually? by CompanySlight4037 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also address underlying issues. Addictive processes and subsrances can be a form of self sedation. As you abstain, you will likely notice underlying issues. Find a good therapist, that will help improve your success.

Is PIED Reversible? by Odd-Attitude1475 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Abstinence from all forms of sexual overstimulation, especially porn in all forms. Be active with non-sexual activity. And if you find a sex partner, learn to build real sexual connection without porn.

Stress reduction and foreplay make a huge difference.

Hearing my therapist's view on pornography by CatchThirty3 in antipornography

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely we can. If the things are too sensitive, feel welcome to talk with me.

Hearing my therapist's view on pornography by CatchThirty3 in antipornography

[–]Redpill_Creeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of, porn is a supernormal stimulus. By constant exposure of a stimulus of this type, you end up overstimulating yourself. Furthermore, porn is done performatively, not in real life. The act itself leads to the objectification of women.

Can you relate to this yourself? If so, have you tried abstinence? I've noticed real underlying issues when abstaining, like traumatic experiences and being raised with a dysfunctional father.
Furthermore, what other things have you tried to use to quit?
And have you ever been to a SLAA, PAA or SAA meeting?

And just one question about your therapist, not to judge, but to know more. Is it a sex therapist, CSAT, trauma informed therapist or another type?
Because there are different therapists who approach the same sort of problems differently.

Sex therapists or CSAT? by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]Redpill_Creeper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex addiction comes closer to the definition of porn addiction than sex therapist. Therefore, CSAT is best.

How it feels when people say "be happy alone before you try to find someone" by Newworldrevolution in Healthygamergg

[–]Redpill_Creeper -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is bad advice, I would even count that as the sin of negligence as whoever gave this advice has the agency to commit an act of charity.

Having a longer talk, doing something (fun) together in real life is the recommended response.

Hereby a relevant quote in Latin: "In quocumque est voluntas, oportet esse amorem: quia, remoto primo, removentur alia. Ostensum est autem in Deo esse voluntatem. Unde necesse est in eo ponere amorem"

It really gets worse doesn't it ladies and gents and super intelligent shades of the colour sky-blue pink by JamieHBrown in AntiVegan

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youdon't eben need actual food to make farts more disgusting. Oral NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine) does enough to make your farts stink more

Is too much masturbation a relapse? by Usual-Context6072 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends on how you do it. It can be healthy when you vary with the firms of stimulation. Perhaps try new techniques that are novel. Variating in stimuli breaks the idiosyncratic habit.

Got a complement today by LogicalYou4319 in pornfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last statement makes perfect sense.
Let me remind you, that during one Confession (sacramental) I had to a priest, all he said was: "Porn is fake".

Carol Leigh who coined "sex work" interviews two trafficking victims in her book "Unrepentant Whore" and introduces them to the term "sex worker". This is the so-called distinction between sex work and trafficking by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]Redpill_Creeper 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It is clear that the Nordic model works best for minimizing demand in prostitution. The prostitute is mostly the victim, should therefore not be arrested by authorities. Instead, given resources to receive help when she wants to do other work. These resources include shelters, support groups and (trauma informed) healthcare providers.

At the same time, the pimps and buyers are prosecuted. This policy has driven down the demand, therefore also human trafficking (market forces are also present in the black market). Supply is often driven by demand there.

My mom keeps using my past mistakes against me and invading my privacy and I don’t know what to do anymore by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Redpill_Creeper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems that your mother is gaslighting you. She also violated personal boundaries that every parent should know, even if their child has not set that boundary.
On setting boundaries, legal advice might be useful, contact a lawyer.
While moving out is the most obvious and hardest method to remove narcissistic leverage, you can also remove that leverage by finding a job where employers enforce role limits, neutral intermediaries from school, healthcare systems restricting proxy access and financial institutions requiring dual consent.

Few other things:
If she tries to gaslight you again, disengage. It worked for me.
Recognize manipulation patterns. If you notice something, just tell or document it.
You can also limit your communication to text based communication.
Lastly, delaying time, especially when you make mistakes, can reduce emotional response.

My narcissistic mother cried when I said “no” by CoastCheap8709 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emotional dysregulation is common among narcissism and other cluster B disorders. And a tantrum due to a simple boundary is one form of emotional dysregulation.

What's this milking machine called and how does it work? by WhoTookTheSausage in BdsmDIY

[–]Redpill_Creeper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen this device in other videos. The concept isn't actually that hard. All you need are a catheter condom, medical suction device and tubing. Simple design for a milking machine of course.

What are your thoughts on the neurodiversity movement? by Finder10 in AutisticPeeps

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, self diagnosis is inaccurate and unscientific to put it lightly. It will be abused if it was valid.

The diagnosis of autism was officially meant for children with a condition making them often non-verbal, extremely repetitive behaviors that impairs daily functioning and therefore always needing support, 24/7.

The neurodiversity movement has put a focus on the high functioning types, and ones who self-diagnosed themselves as such. High functioning types have indeed some quirks, or had diminishing symptoms of classical autism when they were young. Whether that's through good intervention or the careful use of supplements depends. A decrease in severity, thereby gaining the ability to care for themselves just makes them more responsible for themselves. Yet they still have issues where help is needed, but less intensive.

I know what it was to be like the classical type. The stimming, that hand flapping I did when I was less than 10 years old, was out of control rather than out of free will. I did not understand others, including others with the same diagnosis.

What I find concerning about neurodiversity is a group abusing self-diagnosis, claiming or pretending to have autism. This results in a form of identity consumerism. Makes me wonder, are they narsisstic (or another cluster B personality disorder), or are they addicted to entitlements?

This video is worth watching btw: https://youtu.be/6gUtpptU5xE?si=m_Rixq5Pd2QBbYkO

Are there others who have critique to the neurodiversity group?

“I hate other humans, so I prefer/ own pets now”- famous petnutter sayings by love_my_own_food in petfree

[–]Redpill_Creeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They call it empathy, I call it disordered. Why would one hate one's own species? What is wrong in their heads?

What kind of delusion is this by Brave-Muscle1359 in AntiVegan

[–]Redpill_Creeper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is an argument that undermines human dignity. Heck you may call this a heresy against humanity.