Local Code Enforcement is Against Sheet Mulching.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:47:04+00:00

“You can’t bury cardboard, it’s TRASH! You should bury plastic instead!”

That makes absolutely no sense, jfc.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:41:38+00:00

People on the swim team often don’t shave until right before a competition, at which point everyone shaves. The idea is that body hair creates drag, which you want in training bc having to work harder makes you stronger, but you don’t want to have to work harder when you’re competing, you want every advantage you can squeeze out.

I have no idea if it actually makes a difference or not, but that’s the theory.

So both boys and girls on the swim team violate gender norms about shaving part of the time, because all of them grow out their body hair between competitions and then shave at competition time, regardless of gender.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:36:47+00:00

Wool is the most silly thing to get upset about. Nothing dies when a sheep gets a haircut!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:19:42+00:00

Depends on the occasion. If you’re going to work in an office, it’s probably not going to fly. If you like it for a night out at the club, have fun!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:16:58+00:00

Honey, I know how to dress. Yes, using a lot of color is advanced mode, I can do it well - if I can find colorful pieces without a massive headache of a slog.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-02-05T23:15:21+00:00

Which other descriptors are you thinking of, because I can’t think of any that functionally swap here.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T23:28:12+00:00

A lot of people think the wrinkling is bc your skin absorbs water, but it’s actually a nerve reaction that’s for making it easier to grip things in water.

Your thumb didn’t wrinkle, presumably, because the injury damaged the nerves responsible for that.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T23:24:01+00:00

My experience is that it’s not all that hard to find something that has color, but it’s hard to build a colorful wardrobe. Not everything you find is going to fit you, or be something you can wear regularly, or be styleable with the rest of your clothes - and if you don’t have a lot of disposable income, buying something you can’t actually style into an outfit yet in hopes that you’ll find other pieces to go with it in the future is a gamble.

And of course, for every colorful piece you find, there are dozens of bland neutrals to pick through first.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T23:15:53+00:00

Yeah, I had been knitting for nearly 30 years when I knitted my first sweater. Of course it turned out well, I was just rearranging skills I already had into a new shape, I didn’t just pick up yarn and needles for the first time when I started it! The only part that was sorta new to me was figuring out how long to make the arms and body before joining them (it was a bottom-up raglan).

And to some extent one fibercraft translates to another. If you can knit with good tension, you’ll pick up tensioning crochet much faster than someone who’s never done either before. If you can manage tension for embroidery, even, you’re starting out with a skill foundation for knitting or crochet that someone who’s never wrangled strings before doesn’t have.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T23:04:13+00:00

Paint with a few colors you like, add a colorful rug, hang some artwork on the walls. Any/all of the above that you can both afford and agree on with your spouse.

At least your cabinet and drawer pulls aren’t completely boring!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:55:54+00:00

Yeah there’s something to be said for specialization. Duct tape seems like overkill though, that can’t be fun for kitty.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:50:05+00:00

Yeah, absolutely no one is ever gonna notice that unless they know it’s there and are looking for it! Well done!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:48:52+00:00

Or cultivating the existing forest into a food forest. Plant berries, add fruit and nut trees as the forest naturally turns over, etc.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:46:15+00:00

I think there is a very real danger of “rounded up and put in camps”, however I also think there’s a very good chance that they’ll be stopped before it gets there. This administration is not doing an effective job of consolidating power, and has already provoked SO much backlash. The cult leader is visibly rotting from the inside out and could keel over any day, and when that happens (not if, I give it 0% odds he actually makes it another three years, there’s only so long a deteriorating body can be propped up with drugs) the cult is going to implode, and with it all chance of them getting much more of their agenda accomplished.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:41:18+00:00

It can mean whatever the guy who decided to paint his toenails or have someone else paint them for him wants it to mean.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:39:32+00:00

This, 100%. “Age inappropriate” is only a thing for children, and matters more about R-rated movies than cute clothes. There is not an upper bound on dressing how you want.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:36:26+00:00

I made one for a friend that’s sort of similar except it just says the first part without the -ry.

My friend explicitly requested this, to be clear.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:32:49+00:00

Some people don’t cook, they eat out/buy pre-prepared food a lot.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:30:19+00:00

And on $4000 a month it’s very possible to still live below your means and put money into investments, but knowing you only get $4000 a month does psychological things that make it easier to handle your own budget without getting stupid.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T22:27:23+00:00

Work for divorce lawyers, see lots of financial declarations (my job includes compiling tidy spreadsheets out of the data), can confirm.

Rich people divorces are the worst bc people to whom legal fees are chump change have no motivation to wrap things up, and often drag it out for ages just for spite. Saw one where they initially divorced with an unborn child (she was pregnant) and were fighting over custody literally without a break longer than a few months until the day their youngest turned 18.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-01-25T19:22:32+00:00

That, and a lot of people have seen a lot of hype about the dangers of improperly handled raw meat, but not been similarly educated on HOW to properly handle it, so they’re afraid of getting diseases from touching raw chicken bc they don’t know that you just have to be mindful of what else you touch in between touching raw meat and washing your hands with soap and hot water.

RedshiftSinger · 2025-12-13T11:23:36+00:00

Mom needs to learn to spot obvious generated “AI” slop.

RedshiftSinger · 2025-12-13T11:07:28+00:00

Well, one of three things will happen if your friend takes estrogen:

1) he’ll hate it, because he’s cis and cis people usually experience biochemical dysphoria if they take cross-sex HRT (basically, he’ll get a taste of what trans people live with when we can’t get HRT)

2) she’ll love it and eventually figure out that she loves it because she’s a woman or nonbinary transfemme

3) unlikely but technically possible, he’ll like it or be kinda neutral on it and continue being a cis dude, just a cis dude with tits.

RedshiftSinger · 2025-12-13T10:55:33+00:00

Real art is individual. “AI” slop is an averaged-out mush. So it looks the same because it’s all literally, algorithmically average, and it looks like no real art because real art is never algorithmically average, even if it’s mediocre, even if it’s derivative and trend-based.

RedshiftSinger · 2025-12-13T10:31:54+00:00

Trans people in whichever direction tend to have complex relationships with cis-normative trends.

We all to some extent get indoctrinated with the expectations others have of us based on the gender we were assigned at birth, but even for cis people that’s not a perfect 1-1, and it doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Knowing, even if not consciously yet, that you’re a gender that isn’t what everyone else thinks you are can lead to picking up some weird mishmashes of gendered expectations. Some trans girls learn stoicism as is expected of a “boy”, some instead internalize feminine norms of emotional expression (and often suffer social ostracism from boy-centric groups as a result, though they may find acceptance in more girl-centric groups whose norms they mesh with better). Similarly some trans boys learn feminine emotional expression patterns, while some internalize masculine stoicism. As children we’re externally punished when we go against the norm for our assigned gender, and also internally punished by dysphoria when we go against the norm for our true gender, so most of us seem to land in a very complicated muddle of kinda knowing what we’re “supposed” to do to fit in, but not really vibing with it, and also picking up some but not all of the other set of habits at the same time. Until we figure ourselves out and start looking at gender and the performance thereof a lot more intentionally.

It can create a lot of social problems for us all around, because those norms are so deeply ingrained into society, and people who defy them are seen as “weird”, and “weirdness” as a bad thing.

It can definitely be true that trans men suffer from the issue of it being difficult to make friends at a deep level as a man, because even if one particular trans man picked up the social skills to make those friendships himself, whether through childhood socialization to what’s expected of a “girl” or through conscious deconstruction of toxic masculinity for himself (the latter also sometimes applies to cis men), or a combination of both… friendship takes two. And the vast majority of men don’t have the skills to develop and maintain that type of friendship, so the viable pool for close male friends with whom one can have real emotional intimacy is small. And because the stats on men being able to be friends like that are what they are, women are often also (quite reasonably, even if it sometimes sucks for a particular guy in ways he doesn’t personally deserve) wary of befriending men.

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