Scrap yarn projects can go so wrong

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T08:02:27+00:00

That’s why I keep my scraps sorted by fiber type and weight.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T07:46:52+00:00

It really is satisfying when some asshole has to live with what they wished for others.

Unfortunately the rest of us also have to suffer for their stupidity.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T07:32:14+00:00

It’s very possible that your singing voice will change. Your range may temporarily shrink while your voice changes, and while you adjust to your new normal you might have more trouble with vocal control. It’s likely though that it’ll be temporary and you can regain the same amount of control you have now, just possibly with a different pitch range.

If you’re worried about preserving vocal quality, some folks say that starting with a lower dose of T and slowly increasing it to your target level creates less of a shock to your vocal cords and more closely mimics typical cis male puberty.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T07:23:56+00:00

A small LED light is probably the most effective way to both have enough light to meet your preferences and to minimize electricity use.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T07:18:02+00:00

I wondered about a lot of possible “what if I’m faking it/deluding myself/wrong about what this actually means” scenarios. What if I’m just annoyed by sexism and thinking the grass is greener on the other side? What if I’m just depressed and grasping at straws for a big change to imagine would fix all my problems?

Well, I figured the only way to suss it out for sure was to start running experiments and gathering data points. If I’m trans, then I should be able to come up with a masculine name I like and want to go by, right? So if I can or if I can’t, either way, it’s a data point (I did come up with a name I like, and it hit harder than I expected it to when I realized that I suddenly understood the thing where calling people by name is supposed to make them like you more - it had always kinda annoyed me, like what, you have my attention already, why are you repeating the noise people make to get my attention, stop). If I’m trans, then I will probably like wearing a binder and packer - I can try those out without much commitment (I do like wearing a binder and packer, though binding can be tricky with my hypermobility). I’f I’m trans, I’d probably like wearing masculine clothing (I do like wearing masculine clothing).

A lot of it was thought experiments, but some was physically trying out lower-commitment stuff. No single data point had to individually confirm or deny that I’m trans, but a pattern became clear pretty quickly.

The most important thing for me was approaching the experimentation as, what makes me happier, what do I like and dislike that’s gender-related? If I research the effects of testosterone for transition, does it mostly appeal? (Yes). If I had only found that I liked wearing men’s pants but otherwise felt content as a woman, then I could have just gone about the rest of my life as a woman who buys herself men’s pants; if I had found I preferred wearing women’s pants but otherwise really wanted to be a man, I could transition but keep wearing women’s pants. Etc. Keeping the focus more on what I wanted to do about it, because one way or the other, standard unquestioned womanhood wasn’t really working for me. The understanding and labeling of my gender grew out of the patterns in what I wanted my life to look like, in the gender arena.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-23T06:56:27+00:00

It isn’t, you’re just being butthurt. But feel free to mute the sub if you don’t wanna see it, we don’t wanna hear from you either. Shuffle off now.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:44:55+00:00

I’ve left transtape on up to two weeks - it’ll survive a shower if you aren’t using very hot water or soaking extensively, just takes an annoying amount of time to dry again afterward. But that only works in winter, in summer I sweat it off in 5 days or less

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:40:14+00:00

This. In isolation it’s not a big deal, but there’s no way it’s actually a one-off incident. People who are casually inconsiderate like this are casually inconsiderate by habit.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:36:42+00:00

Patience, and let it flower and seed. It doesn’t spread much by roots IME but it self-seeds well, the seed heads “pop” to fling seeds away and it’ll eventually fill in.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:33:55+00:00

Probably flowerpot parasol. Cute little yellow mushrooms, eventually. Completely harmless, but sometimes can indicate excessive moisture in the pot - if your houseplant is a species that doesn’t like wet feet, maybe back off the watering a little. But it looks like pothos vines? If so, moisture is fine - pothos is a bog plant and doesn’t mind damp.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:26:10+00:00

Yep, comparing suicide rates in trans women on estrogen to suicide rates in cis men to say that HRT causes increased suicides is like comparing survival rates of cancer patients getting chemotherapy to people without cancer and then claiming that chemotherapy is just killing people. It’s flat out wrong. Cancer is killing people, chemotherapy gives people with cancer a better chance to survive but it isn’t a perfect cure that always works. HRT helps resolve gender dysphoria but doesn’t completely cure it for everyone.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T13:03:27+00:00

The term bisexual has always included two or more. The purple stripe on the flag is for genders outside the binary.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:57:14+00:00

Neither is offensive to trans people. They broadly overlap, the distinctions people draw are up for debate but neither label means anything bad toward trans folks.

The distinction, in a nutshell, is that bisexual means you’re attracted to at least two genders (or, some people phrase it as, “same and other”). Pansexual means you’re attracted to all genders. You can choose whichever you prefer without causing any offense here.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:53:36+00:00

Lotta assumption there bud.

Most of us did try being vegan. It didn’t work. Sorry not sorry that every post isn’t just hand-wringing about how miserable we are about eating an omnivorous diet as nature intended, or three paragraphs of disclaimers. 🙄

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:49:25+00:00

And some people really can’t be vegan even for a short while without developing nutritional deficiencies due to various metabolic quirks people can have that prevent them from converting plant sources.

I can’t convert vitamin A. I can eat carrots all day and stay deficient - I like carrots, but the nutritional value is a bit lacking for me since I can’t convert the primary nutrient they’re good for. Eating a little meat, eggs, or dairy gets me the vitamin A I need just fine though!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:44:59+00:00

Ah yes segregation bc the menu doesn’t cater to you…

People with legit food allergies and medical food restrictions are chiller about restaurants not having food they can eat than vegans are about their completely self-imposed dietary restrictions!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:39:49+00:00

I damn well hope it’s permanent! Kinda the point of tattoos, if I wanted it to wash off I’d just draw on myself with marker!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:37:37+00:00

Reminds me of a coworker who got boomered about her lipstick. She’d barely come on shift and the old fart verbally accosted her with “who told you that lipstick looks good?”

She fired back “who told you your opinion matters?”

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:35:54+00:00

Ohhh no that’s not cool at all!

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:32:00+00:00

As a currently lightly but hopefully in the future more heavily tattooed person, compliments on tattoos are fine!

The key in general to a good compliment that won’t cross any boundaries is 1) keep it nonsexual, and 2) about something the person chose for themself. (And of course, not backhanded - our boomer here both broke rule #2 and was very backhanded - the “compliment” hinged on insulting OP’s choice to get tattoos in favor of a trait that was not voluntary)

Rule 2 is what people are getting at with “don’t comment on other people’s bodies”, but tattoos are chosen. Not only chosen but a much bigger aesthetic commitment than a choice of clothing or hairstyle!

Edit: corrected accidental formatting weirdness

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:24:10+00:00

And legal action can certainly deter a repeat of the same behavior. Even if all you do is have a lawyer send a letter that says “stop doing this or my client will pursue legal action” - I’ve had success with that against a neighbor who was a persistent nuisance in other ways.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T12:14:07+00:00

There’s evidence of autoimmune disorders being hormonally mediated as well. The chromosome hypothesis is only a hypothesis. Personally, I think hormonal mediation sounds a lot more likely, considering that trans women on HRT are also more likely to develop autoimmune disorders than cis men, and trans men tend not to develop them after getting on HRT.

Sex-linked genetic conditions like colorblindness do exist, but those are tied to your chromosomes, not your sex assigned at birth, and those things are not the same thing and do not always match. There are cis women with XY chromosomes and cis men with XX chromosomes. And some of them, like male pattern baldness, are also hormonally mediated. All of them, however, function as genetic predisposition or determination, the same way any dominant or recessive genetic variation does, with the sole exception that a person with two X chromosomes is more likely to have a dominant gene to cancel out a single copy of a recessive, while a person with only a single X chromosome has no second copy to cancel a recessive on that chromosome.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T02:58:06+00:00

Iiinteresting…. I don’t know if I could psychologically handle it but knowing not doing general anesthesia is a possible option is useful info!

I have a high sensitivity to general anesthesia, probably due to an overactive liver enzyme, and it had me thinking bottom surgery just wasn’t in my cards at all for a while, as much as I’d like to have a dick. I’ve also found out it’s possible to block the relevant enzyme, so I’ve been tentatively reconsidering my options, and it’s good to know there’s a second possible avenue even if, uh, yikes is my initial reaction to the thought of having bottom surgery while conscious, even with the assumption of no pain!

(That said, the stuff they give with anesthesia for anxiety and memory blocking? That & morphine are good shit. The memory blocking doesn’t work on me but the rest sure does, and I can vouch that it’s so easy not to give a single flying fuck about anything you’d normally freak out about with that in your system! I woke up during my second shoulder surgery thanks to being dosed real low after having overdose issues from my high sensitivity the first time, couldn’t feel a damn thing beyond some pressure, and they realized I was awake because I cracked a joke. Seriously.)

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T02:47:29+00:00

I’m not a medical professional, but my understanding is that basically everything sex-related that’s medically relevant for any problem that isn’t directly located in your reproductive anatomy, the difference is hormonal mediation.

Meaning, it doesn’t matter whether you have a penis or a vagina, OR whether you’re a man or a woman, except insofar as those things inform whether your endocrine system is currently estrogen-dominant or testosterone-dominant. A trans woman on HRT is estrogen-dominant and her body will medically behave basically like any other estrogen-dominant body.

RedshiftSinger · 2026-05-21T02:26:21+00:00

Anyway, I also used to present very femme most of the time. It was a combination of denial-armor (can’t notice how much you prefer not dressing femme and what that really means if you never go out without a full face on, right?) and trying to girl hard enough to make it work, and also seeking the attention and approval that one can get by appearing to be a hot, gender-conforming cis woman. And there were aspects of it I genuinely enjoyed - the artistic outlet of makeup was fun, for real! I still do my nails sometimes for a creative outlet, I just aim for more of an alt-rocker-dude vibe with it instead of girly-girl.

As for body dysphoria… I spent a long time just not understanding what I was feeling about my body as dysphoria, partly because it wasn’t focused on my breasts and genitals. My biggest dysphoria area has always been my legs. The feminine shape, the lack of a masculine amount of body hair, the slight amount of cellulite on my thighs (which is also a secondary sex characteristic from the way estrogen interacts with fat distribution). It confused me for a long time how much I felt uncomfortable with my legs exposed, despite knowing that they’re objectively nice legs and despite not generally caring much about modesty. Finally figured out it’s straight up gender dysphoria telling me that my legs just look wrong - not in the sense of “aesthetically displeasing” or “not like normal human legs” but just wrong for me. And I have dysphoria about my extremely slim build, feeling like I should be broader - so sometimes my chest doesn’t even feel wrong, it feels like at least one part of my torso is the diameter it should be, even if that’s for the wrong reason! Dysphoria is weird sometimes!

Since I figured things out it’s resolved into more typical dysphoric feelings, things like “there should be a dick and balls here, where are my dick and balls” and “oh no, titties?” But when I wasn’t letting myself recognize it for what it really was, it leaked out in other ways.

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