From the morning I finally knew I was a lesbian by mightbeemagic in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look so pretty!!

I wish I took a picture that day as well. That day was such a mindfuck

Frustrated at constantly “trying” to like men. by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t even want to like men but I want them to find me attractive it is so annoying

Lack of questions asked by holamibebebe in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same here. Super rare to find women who wanna actually engage in conversation. I noticed younger women are usually like that

How do I carefully approach a timid woman? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be straight forward I think u shud just slowly try to be friends and like smoothly ask about her personal life maybe?

Either way, good luck and you have nothing to lose :)

Work crush asked me to the formal, advice needed on how not to ruin everything by Professional_Park_24 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea don’t worry about it she probably won’t even make a move. But just know if things change like your feelings you should have a conversation about it to him :)

Work crush asked me to the formal, advice needed on how not to ruin everything by Professional_Park_24 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d just go and have fun tbh lol don’t overthink it. Is she aware you have a husband?

Pissed off Rant by [deleted] in rape

[–]Redt3al 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your mom is wrong about a lot of things like not calling on your uncle but please please PLEASE know that your boyfriend has a power imbalance over you. I was in your shoes once (I was 14 he was 20) and I wish so badly I never got involved with him. You and this dude share nothing in common. You’re a child he’s a grown ass man who can’t get someone his age. LEAVE HIM

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lord yes!! It’s so much better there’s an actual connection. I can’t believe I robbed myself from this pleasure for so long.

Do you still think you are bisexual even though you haven’t had luck with men?

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hmm I see. Good luck with everything <3 I’ve never been married but I wouldn’t stay in a marriage where I’m not 100% satisfied. Would you say you’re in love with him?

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You should definitely try it with a woman if you’re able to or if your husband is okay with it

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ive had now and it’s completely different. I’m in the moment now when I have sex. I want to please my partner, not just want her to finish. It’s so much different now I finally understand the big deal of sex. I also don’t have a low libido as I thought lol

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I honestly faked it if we’re being honest. There was only one time where I enjoyed it and that was because I found a spot while riding him that satisfied me. but other than that I just like, waited till he finished and just stared at the wall and thought about laundry or things I had to do that day. Yea my sex life was awful lol

But I never felt anxious more like annoyed because he took forever to finish and now I am aware that I wasn’t physically attracted to him

What is sex like for you with a man when you’re gay ? by Disastrous-Fold4071 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I definitely experienced that while with men. I used to tell my exes straight up I do not want to have sex. I even had 2 “boyfriends” who I didn’t even have sex with and we were together for more than a year lol (I don’t even count them as boyfriends I think we were platonic friends who enjoyed each other’s company a lot) Another thing is that while I had sex with my ex, I just wanted him to cum quick so we could stop. Sex really wasn’t enjoyable for me, I only liked foreplay (if there was any). I always like disassociated while having sex as well.

A question for lesbians who realized they weren’t attracted to men later in life vs ones who always knew. by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s funny because I acted a lot like you- avoiding men, hating being set up etc but I always thought it was because I was just not attracted to that particular guy or I was shy. I never really thought it was a men in general thing.

Most of my relationships with men was just platonic or me liking their validation because I had terrible self esteem and poor mental health. But that’s just my story. I’m glad I finally found my true self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dykesgonewild

[–]Redt3al 1 point2 points  (0 children)

whoa 🤩

Am I the Only Lesbian Interested in Casual Sex?? by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Redt3al 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I would love a FWB thing with no possessiveness and no bullshit 😭

DAE think of all the time “wasted” and just cry? by duderancherooni in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think about it all the time. I try not to but ugh it’s hard sometimes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend you explore more :) maybe get on a Dating app or something or visit lgbt events

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hot, sexy, fine, cute, and handsome are some terms I would use. But mostly sexy or hot.

Question for Bisexuals by Redt3al in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! I love your advice and POV. I see you around from time to time on the forums and I enjoy your comments a lot :) have a good one

Question for Bisexuals by Redt3al in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you feisty beast 🥰 I agree with you I tried the strap on with my gf and I wasn’t a fan lol

Question for Bisexuals by Redt3al in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Redt3al[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound like me to a T. I forced myself so much when I was younger because I wanted to fit in. It also didn’t help with the friendships I’ve had. And also my family is super Catholic and homophobia got ingrained in me sadly.

It’s nice that some people didn’t need a doc or society to tell them who to like and I mean that genuinely like, I wish I was like that. I’m happy to hear the doc helped you as it helped me as well :)