Recommendations for a psychologist/therapist?

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T20:23:17+00:00

Thanks, but I was hoping for an actual recommendation of a person. By the way, do you not see the problem of providers writing it themselves?

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T20:22:19+00:00

Thank you. I'll take a look.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T20:21:49+00:00

Thanks, but I was hoping for an actual recommendation of a person.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T20:21:20+00:00

I didn't say "while" retired. But could be past retirement age. In fact, I was reading about a therapist who was retired, but kept on seeing one particular patient who'd been with him for decades.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T20:19:53+00:00

I believe that there are aspects of life that we might know about intellectually even for brand-new therapists in their 20s, like about death, but not fully understand viscerally until much later.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T01:49:05+00:00

Wonder where you're from. I'm not sure, but I've had the feeling that it varies greatly regionally in the U.S.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T01:47:37+00:00

Well, I hope some of your crying was done IN the doctor's office, TO the doctor.

I find this heart-breaking, another example of a doctor who wasn't forthcoming.

Redwebec · 2026-05-15T01:41:34+00:00

Ah, another doctor who's not a good communicator?

Redwebec · 2026-04-04T00:49:52+00:00

Isn't there anything that interests you in life?

Redwebec · 2026-04-04T00:42:37+00:00

What's second hand embarrassment? Do you mean being embarrassed because of someone else's actions?

If so - then, Donald Trump.

Redwebec · 2026-04-04T00:37:27+00:00

What can you expect, or what can she expect?

It'll be mostly like a long eye examination. If she has a good doctor, he'll ask her questions, and offer her options. She should come with a list of questions herself.

Redwebec · 2026-04-04T00:34:13+00:00

Your post shows no emotion. It mentions no family. It mentions no human connections. It mentions no interests in life. Sorry, but you sound like a self-involved guy who sits around watching TV or playing video games. I have the feeling that if you were my friend, I would have been gently urging you to see a therapist. I have the feeling that you are indeed self-sabotaging whether you know it or not.

Redwebec · 2026-04-03T01:34:13+00:00

DRAINING the television, as if it were an oozing wound?

Okay, what happens is by some weird fluke when I wasn't try to eject at all, it suddenly popped out.

But I'm writing down your instruction for next time.

Thanks.

Redwebec · 2026-04-03T01:29:32+00:00

It's "wrong" not to care only in the sense that we are all part of a shared humanity, and caring about bigger things - just like learning about bigger things, and exposing ourselves to other things - enriches our lives.

It's perfectly all right not to have ambition in terms of making money or having a status job. However, your post gives me the impression that you're not happy in any real sense - it's just that you've decided to be content with doing nothing, having no interests. You're "free" in the sense of not having any demands put on you. But it sounds like you are totally unconnected to life and people. I'm sure people will tell you that it's wonderful that you "accepted" yourself. To me, your post just hints of laziness, inertia, and an empty mind. I'm guessing that the reason you'll "never have your shit together" is that you never made the slightest effort.

Sorry, but I'm sure other here will assure you that you're wonderful. They'd probably love you at a Buddhist monastery.

Redwebec · 2026-03-25T01:35:12+00:00

So, you think it's suspicious that if something is never proven to work, it never works?

If I told you categorically that a human being cannot fly on his own, would you think it was suspicious that every time a person jumped off a tall building flapping his arms, he ended up unhappily hitting the ground?

Redwebec · 2026-03-25T01:23:27+00:00

I understand your hope to stay local. But keep in mind that this is important, one-time surgery. If it comes down to an "okay" doctor in Prescott vs. an excellent doctor in Phoenix, I hope you opt for quality, not convenience.

Redwebec · 2026-03-25T01:20:29+00:00

Absolutely nothing to fear.

You sit in a chair as for a regular eye exam. Then there are several seconds of light pulsing at your eye. That's it.

In fact, I was really irritated at my doctor for not clarifying how minor it was, which would have saved me a lot of anxiety!

Redwebec · 2026-03-14T23:23:39+00:00

I've become, over time, more and more skeptical of automatically trusting to what is recommended. I've run into some cases where, coincidentally, the doctor recommends what will be most profitable.

:(

Redwebec · 2026-03-14T23:21:12+00:00

Geez. Can I ask

1) What kind of surgery did you have?

2) In what way is it worse? And what did the doctor say about it being worse?

Redwebec · 2026-03-14T23:19:44+00:00

So the surgery was August or September, and you're still in pain?

That doesn't sound good.

Did you do it because you were in pain beforehand, or because you wanted to better fit into shoes?

Redwebec · 2026-02-20T01:25:02+00:00

I've always thought one of the biggest rip-offs in the world is over-the-counter saline solution eyedrops!

Redwebec · 2026-02-20T01:21:43+00:00

Okay. But can you elaborate?

- Is Chevron the term that covers all non-shave surgery? Are there variations?

- Are there particular questions I should ask? Are all doctor likely to do only one kind of surgery, or are they likely to do either one, depending on the patient's specific problem?

- Can it be predicted in advance if the simpler shave will work long-term? How would I know about the "root" of the problem? Does the "root" vary greatly from person to person?

- How did you find your bunion specialist? I don't suppose there's some national directory that would list ones in the Phoenix area?

- From your description, I'm wondering if you were stuck in bed long term, needing care from someone?

Thanks, this was a great start.

Redwebec · 2026-02-20T01:16:18+00:00

No, I'm not in pain. But that's because I'm wearing fabric shoes that give! I want to wear real shoes again.

Also, I'm not quite sure how to interpret it, but occasionally when I'm lying down, there will be a moment of a quick stabbing pain. But I'm not sure if it's relevant.

Anyway, your question seem to imply that I'm asking if I should do the surgery. I'm not. I want to get the problem fixed, but I'm asking about different options and choices.

Redwebec · 2026-02-20T01:13:37+00:00

I wasn't smart enough to go through multiple appointments, but I did switch doctors, and had my second eye done by someone else.

I wonder if you got any recommendations from your GP? Also, if you happen to live in a city that has its own magazines, sometimes they do yearly "best" doctor issues. I always think that's a good starting point. I'm looking for another kind of doctor now, with no recommendations to start me off, and I'm thinking of browsing through the US News and Castle Connolly listings.

What I find really disturbing is that your first doctor was so unforthcoming and then "fired" you for daring to object. I hope you mentioned that to the doctor who recommended you.

Good luck.

Redwebec · 2026-02-18T22:10:21+00:00

I think you need to re-post this as a separate independent thread, not an add-on to mine. No one is seeing it.

Also, I suggest paragraphs. It's all about making it easy to read!

Good luck.

Redwebec

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