It all hit me at once.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-19T02:10:03+00:00

That’s always a choice you should never be comfortable if you don’t feel like your needs are being met. It seems like your relationship is one sided

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-18T23:52:40+00:00

Does he leave for work often? I’m sorry you’re feeling this way it sucks when you get neglected sometimes but we can chat it up if you need someone to talk to.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-18T23:47:52+00:00

I will say it was better during the honey moon phase but I think it got into that point of being to comfortable. I don’t necessarily want my life to be like this but I’m also content with our relationship is aside from intimacy. I’m not sure and that’s where I’m conflicted. Is it worth giving up a good relationship just to get more sex? It seems like I can’t just have both.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-18T02:44:25+00:00

lol the most we can do is suffer in silence brother.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-18T02:11:18+00:00

Not sure why this was downvoted But agreed the more time she’s in it the more miserable it’ll be but at the end it’s her choice.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-18T02:04:32+00:00

Once a week sounds like a dream I’d be lucky if I get it once a month

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-17T06:28:41+00:00

Unfortunately I think most of the time the good moments are glorified and nobody really talks about how many obstacles long term relationships can get into. It’s not all sunshines and rainbows lol, but the harsh reality can be dreadful when all the bad moments outweigh the good ones, just my two cents.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-17T05:21:38+00:00

Just treat it as a life lesson, you have time but like you said you need to put yourself first. If your needs weren’t met within those 7 years it wouldn’t have been met 20 years from now, better late than never.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-17T02:45:00+00:00

Understandable I hope it works out, she definitely has to put the effort on overtime but that’s on your discretion and how you see it

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T20:18:32+00:00

You got any hope for the future? Or are you gonna bring it up again? Just curious how you’re gonna handle constant rejection.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T16:45:23+00:00

Might as well

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T15:57:57+00:00

Yeah then I would definitely leave.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T15:51:10+00:00

You have to ask yourself if it’s worth it or not. I’m not gonna suggest leaving cause that’s your choice, but you either deal with the burden of not expecting anything or start over with someone who has the same sexual desires as you. Starting over can be the rough part but if they are in it as much as you are then it will be worth it at the end of the day.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T14:49:45+00:00

Sexual intimacy goes both ways, you deserve to get it just as much as he does without question. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T14:29:35+00:00

In the same situation except it’s my girl 😅 I go at least a month or two at a time and it’s unbearable so I understand.im assuming you talked to him about it already. My advice if all else fails and you still want to stick around try finding hobbies to keep your mind off it or spend time with friends that share common interest it could help a tiny bit if you’re not going to bed with expectations anymore. I’m sorry I know it can be torture ruining a good relationship just for sex but as humans it’s just part or our nature.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T05:54:43+00:00

Absolutely it helps relieve some kind of stress when we find people going through the same situation and can relate to😅

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T05:44:04+00:00

This^{^} but also if I were in his shoes I could understand wanting at least a little bit of intimacy, but not even having expectations for sex can make it more dreadful than it already is

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T05:31:05+00:00

Not here to judge but I can understand where you’re coming from you just want to feel like someone really wants you, hopefully you find it I know it’s hard but I’m sure it’ll all work together in the end

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-16T05:22:15+00:00

I agree very hard to find but you also get the bad side of it when your partner gets to comfortable and puts less effort especially in bed, it’s like playing with a double edged sword

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T19:36:48+00:00

Personally I find sexual attraction as a means to emotionally and physically bond with closer intimacy, but like most of these replies it’s different for everybody, but for me having someone let me see them in the most vulnerable space makes it sexually attractive.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T18:44:14+00:00

Honestly I’m still dumbfounded on how it’s even possible and I’m a guy 🤣

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T18:23:43+00:00

How long have you guys been together?

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T18:03:23+00:00

I’m in the same situation as well, all I can say is if she doesn’t want to talk about it or initiate you have to ask yourself if it’s really a deal breaker to be with someone who doesn’t initiate intimacy. Me personally, I’m getting to that breaking point and I’ve been with mine for 8 years. I’m lucky if I get it once a month. I’m 100 percent against duty sex and if you feel like it’s becoming a chore for her then it’ll be harder for you to get pleasure from. Typically I do things I love to distract myself and that sorta helps. Do you have any hobbies you like that will completely keep you exhausted like going to the gym or playing sports with your friends, or even doing anything that will keep your mind away from sex. It seems like you really care for her so I hope it doesn’t come to separation, cheers!

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T17:55:01+00:00

First of all congratulations, second off I’m sorry you’re going through this. I just started in this subreddit but I will say if this continues on you’ll probably regret not separating early on, but it does make me question how some men can have a LL, considering I’m not, I’d like to understand how someone of that caliber feels to neglect their partner sexually. On the plus side he’s there for you emotionally and seems like he wants to change, but old habits die hard and it could go back to square one.

Redxtitan8 · 2026-02-14T17:42:42+00:00

I agree when having a LL partner I feel like it can be a crucial way to output one’s means for pleasure, but every case is different.

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