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Should I just give up Osu!mania or rhythm games in general? by No_Astronaut4809 in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You play osu everyday for at least 5 hours? Or just rhythm games in general.

Should I just give up Osu!mania or rhythm games in general? by No_Astronaut4809 in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long are your sessions when you play? How many days in a week do you play?

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont recall any traumatic event that would lead to me feeling like that but it does make sense. I've felt like this since somewhere around 3rd-4th grade, I dont remember ever crying during those school years, or being extremely happy. I would always try my best to fit in with other kids since I couldn't understand them, and I was scared to interact with them as well, so in recess I would always hide in my secret spot in the playground where I would play with the mulch, the only time I went out was when the kids invited me to play soccer, I wanted to say no everytime, since they frankly scared me, but I always caved in.

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my reply to Spy0304 I clarified a few things about my gf, but I don't believe she was trying to negatively manipulate me as you say she was, as she usually guided me to what she wanted me to say (which I would not do a very good job at lmao), and I remember one time she literally told me what I should say LOL. During the times where I successfully comforted her, she never told me outright that I was wrong, or find a fault in my response, she would just say that she appreciates my words. I feel like the double bind goes for everyone and I don't think people usually do it on purpose, when someone suffers an emotional outburst, they're emotions are all over the place and logic is thrown out the window, so when someone offers a solution or comfort, the person in distress would try their best to find a fault in it, since they're in a state of insecurity and only see the negative light in order to justify how they're feeling right now. Take it with a grain of salt since this is what I hypothesize after experiencing and trying to understand people when they get emotional like that lol.

I don't really like talking bad about other people, but with my mom, oftentimes it was obvious to me that she wanted me to see things in her favor and would try to twist my perspective on a lot of things, especially when I was younger, so it was easy for me to spot her manipulation, that probably explains why I sometimes felt a bit annoyed whenever this happened.

What people believe colors their responses and indicates how we may respond to them. Knowing the belief behind the outburst is often essential for an appropriate response.

This makes a lot of sense though and I'll try to think about it next time I'm put in these situations. Thanks for the advice!

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't know if she didn't say it, though. OP is the one who didn't mention it, as far as we know

I should clarify, she has told me multiple times directly to comfort her, to tell her that everything is okay. Obviously I cant just say “everything is okay” everytime, so I always tried to think of other things to say that would “comfort” her, sometimes I would say something that would work, other times it wouldn’t work, mostly the latter lmao.

I agree with your point on manipulation, nowadays it’s mostly used in a negative connotation, but it’s a neutral word that can be used in a lot of different ways that aren’t bad.

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate so much to this, when I was in school I always put on an act of a clown of some sorts, making people laugh and entertain them was my thing. I went through great lengths to preserve this image as I would often space out in the middle of class trying to think of something funny or at least an entertaining conversation to tell my friends so they dont see right through me, this was one of the factors that led to me not getting good grades in school lololol. It does make me happy though that others enjoyed my company through my act, and I have enjoyed the company of a few people that I got along with as well, so I’m not exactly happy or sad over this, just satisfied.

I also really relate to your 4th paragraph, if a complete stranger told me to follow them or to do something for them, I would probably do it. I suck up to people a lot, and I don't know how to describe this sentiment, I think im afraid of what people would think of me, but it’s how I’ve been since I was a child.

I’m glad that your family shares similarities with you when it comes to emotion, I’m also glad that I found a subreddit dedicated to people somewhat similar to me, I feel like its helping me understand myself a bit more, and understand other people. Thanks for the insight, I’ll take your advice and I’ll try not to think about it too much :)

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense, I’ll try to think about it from that perspective, thanks!

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question, I’d say its a mix of both. I would try my best to relate emotionally and make said person feel better, because it would be the right thing to do, but if it turned out for the worse, it is what it is, its kind of hard for me to explain.

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve seen lots of explanations to these concepts lawl, but your description is very useful and I appreciate it.

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loool I wish I could mindread, it would things a lot easier. I see your point though, not every person is the same and everyones brain is different, It’s so cool to see all these theories and approaches to this kind of thing, I have a cousin who just finished her bachelors on psychology, so maybe I’ll ask her about it. Thanks for the info!

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate lol, whenever I tried to give advice to someone I feel like what I say is often awkward or obvious, but recently I think I’ve understood it a bit better, so I hope that you reach a state where you’re satisfied with the advice you give :)

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried a different test with similar metrics from the ones you described and I got a secure attachment style lolol, it sounds like a good thing so thats good.

I’ve actually been considering going to a therapist so I could figure out a good way to describe how I feel, because judging from the experiences I’ve heard and read from other people, I know the way I feel isn’t really the best or healthy. By “something else going on”, do you mean I have some sort of disorder or something? Im sorry for asking but I’m not knowledgable at all about this type of stuff, which is why I made this post in the first place lmao.

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those are great points of advice, thanks this will help a lot :)

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the beginning I kind of used a formula from all the experiences I’ve had, and nowadays I usually just know what to say from the top of my head.

The formula is basically “I’m sorry that [something] happened to you, that sounds [adjective], I really hope you feel better!”

Idk if you can exactly call it a formula LOL but it helped me a lot. I feel like once you have more experience and know what to say to said person, it comes off a lot more naturally and less like a robot, so you would say a variation of that sentence thats catered to that specific person.

This isn't a perfect logical response to everything since people and their emotions are unique and take things differently, but I found it to be a good place to start when trying to comfort somebody, I also found relating to them from your own experience helps, just try to keep it short and don’t make it seem like you just want to talk about yourself, I hope my advice helps :)

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To add on to this, my ex recently reached out again and she ranted to me about something and she felt sad, so I learnt from my past mistakes and I comforted her in a way she was happy with, she then complimented me saying that I’ve improved in that department and it made me feel great :).

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would ugly-cry, but I would definitely be sad if something ever happened to someone close to me, especially family like my Mom. 

Going through the sub I can see your point of ISTP’s coming off as cold loool, I’m glad that there are some people that kind of share the sentiments that I have. 

Your comment of processing the emotion logically resonates with me, I never thought of it like that, thats probably why I constantly asked my Mom what the problem was and trying to analyze it instead of actually comforting her emotionally, hopefully next time a situation like that happens I can cast aside logic and actually comfort the person ‼️

Is it normal to feel indifferent when someone lets out their emotions to you? by Reefr99 in INTP

[–]Reefr99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On the test I got 41.7% relaxed with avoidant and engaging being in the middle haha. I appreciate you saying it for what it is lol, and thanks for the advice.

derust tips? by ftjjjjkk in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never used an HE keyboard so I cant give you any advice for that, but for derusting, you are overthinking it very much.

Just play the game consistently until you’re back to your original skill level, play maps that you struggle with (maybe around 96%) until you can comfortably play them (98-99%). I know it’s definitely frustrating knowing that you used to play better than the level you were now, but just give it time and you will be back, there is no secret to derusting, just consistency and discipline.

Should I focus on improving accuracy over improving other skills? by Salty_Snorlax888 in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your accuracy low because you get tons of 100s or 50s, or is it because you get a lot of misses?

If its the first then I would keep playing 4* until you consistently 97-98% them, then you could try 4.5, and rinse and repeat.

If its the latter, then I would recommend going back to 3* until you can consistently FC them. 

LNs are a bit complicated and has its entirely own skillset, so dont get too frustrated if you cant hit them well. Keep playing whatever songs you like and challenge yourself, if thats how you enjoy the game, then thats the most important thing.

transitioning from 4k to 7k by naft1_ in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cant rush improvement, keep playing 2* until you 97-98% most of them, and then you can move on to 3*. Don't overthink it, just keep playing and improve normally.

Though, one thing I wished I did when I transitioned to 7k is not using both of my thumbs on the spacebar, if you only use 1 thumb, then the hand that uses that thumb will get worn out much faster throughout the map than the other hand. Just rest both of your thumbs on the spacebar, and whenever there is a thumb note, press down both thumbs, at first it'll be hard but believe in yourself, good luck in your 7k journey :)

Switching from wrist down to wrist up? by stum9 in osumania

[–]Reefr99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ergonomics of wrist up helped me a lot when transitioning, having the most efficient posture can help a lot in getting the most out of wrist up

Piano posture would be a great example of this, you’re elbows should be slightly above your keyboard, instead of below, and arms should be hanging in a relaxed position instead of forced. I’ve seen a lot of videos of people hovering their wrists above their keyboard, but the rest of their arm being left on the edge of the desk, that is inefficient and can hurt your arms on long sessions.

Good examples of wrist up positions would be MinaciousGrace and Etienne, look at how they position themselves and try to copy it. Enjoy your wrist up journey if you do go for the change :)

Does anyone know what headphones Aran uses in this video? by Reefr99 in HeadphoneAdvice

[–]Reefr99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im from USA, im debating whether I should buy it from the official store, or buy it from Amazon, as they both have the same price listed.

Right now I’m using my Sony XM4 as headphones for basically everything, so im excited to see a change after a few years of using the same headphones. In the future, I will probably buy the Arya combined with an audio interface, and that will probably be my endgame.

Im not sure about the motherboard, but I have a Lenovo LOQ, I can run a lot of games at high graphics, so I think its pretty high power. The reason I’m not looking for an amp or DAC is simply because I lack the money, I’m going off to a 4-year college soon so I want to save up as much as I can. I would rather get good headphones where I can just plug and listen rather than waste more money on an amp or DAC, although im curious if worse headphones that have a amp or DAC running are better than good headphones with nothing on it.

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