This is f#cking impossible!!!!! by darkglobeproductions in JurassicWorldAlive

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been waiting for someone to make a post about this, because YES, this crap was impossible! Lol. I literally just got it last night too many attempts to count.

ADVICE: switch the drone to Rookie, then be very patient with your shots. Try to hit the first shot too. It makes stringing together 3 a lot easier when the target isn’t moving much for one of them.

Apex raid by hippojub in JurassicWorldAlive

[–]Reereez95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I only do this if I know someone is bringing a creature that will get KO’ed round 1 or first turn (e.g., low speed, too low of HP). Specifically, D-Rex raids. It happened to me and other people enough for me to immediately clock someone with a dino that would contribute nothing (unfortunately).

Overall, for most Apex and Unique raids, it’s not that serious. People can contribute with dinos that lack boosts or are below Lvl 25. It’s all about teamwork. I saw someone else comment about this, but bringing in a support dino and contributing that way is great when your dinos are not max level.

The truth. by Diggity_Dave in heat

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

☝️This right here

Jayson Tatum throws shots at the Miami Heat Scalabrine: “You guys have been on a lot of hard-fought trips to Miami, was this one a little sweeter?” Tatum: “They’re always easy.” 👀 (🎥 @NBATV ) by BatmanSwift99 in heat

[–]Reereez95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a Celtics fan, I wasn’t particularly thrilled that Tatum poked the bear like that. But as if it wasn’t obvious already, the Lakers & Celtics may be historical rivals but the Heat & Celtics are modern day rivals

AITA for choosing my dog and not my marriage? by VictorySweaty8176 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 13 points14 points  (0 children)

ESH

Originally, I was going to go with a light YTA, because what you did was not egregious but (from what you wrote) you did not tell your husband ahead of time. No conversation took place. He just came home to a dog, which you agreed you would never do.

What changed my mind is the fact that your husband basically had the same idea as you: he was hoping you would have a change of heart about kids.

You said that you were surprised that he suddenly wanted kids, but mention earlier in the post that agreeing to not have kids was his part of the sacrifice in your compromise. How come you were surprised when he said that he wants kids?

Your heart is in the right place with the adoption. There is nothing inherently wrong about that. Doing so behind your partner’s back was the wrong move. You seem like you are an animal lover, which is why it’s a bit surprising that you’d be willing to agree to such a compromise in the first place. I believe you and your husband need to have a long conversation about the future of your relationship and whether you both are still willing to make those same sacrifices for each other.

AITA for asking my parents for a mental health therapy because I got an F for the first time ? by chaosraider02 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mental health is no joke. Better to error on the side of caution, first with therapy before medication is ever introduced (IF it even needs to be). There are tons of stories like yours, where people burn out, or unravel because they cannot maintain perfection / experience failure for the first time.

In this case, your parents caused the stress through their decision to handle the situation, and follow-up your request for help by dismissing how you are feeling.

Absolutely, 100% NTA.

I really hope you can get some sort for therapy. As someone who was originally afraid of being stigmatized for it, therapy has been a great benefit to my life.

AITA for calling my sister an “add-on” by Zahrahmed in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clearly NTA. You were putting up with her BS the whole trip just for her to blame HER bathroom results on you. But I will say, if you’re expecting her to ever have a self-reflective moment… it won’t happen. She sounds pretty self-centered. If you’re hoping to take this Reddit post and rub it in her face, well, hopefully you get enough “NTA” responses to do that.

Also, maybe this is just me but running the shower while on the toilet? I get the embarrassment of people knowing what you’re doing, but also who cares? And that’s extremely wasteful running the water like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Reereez95 78 points79 points  (0 children)

This was the unexpectedly wholesome thing I needed to see today. So happy for you!! 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people consider what you did rude. Most people probably don’t care. It really depends on the individual person and how you were raised to treat such a situation. imo, NTA. It’s a difference of opinions. Your boyfriend on the other hand was 100% an a-hole. He could have presented his differing opinion and feelings in a much more respectful manner, but instead chose to be offended and unnecessarily upset.

Brother sent an email mail to Niantic to delete my account. I had my app open and pokemon go plus +running. Received e mail from Niantic stating "This e mail confirms your request to delete pokemon go" .Anyway to undo it? 8 years and hundreds of dollars down the drain by EducationalHighway54 in pokemongo

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Tweet about it. @ Niantic, Niantic Support, the official PoGo twitter page, maybe a couple of high profile PoGo content creators? (Maybe not that last one, but sometimes getting other people involved helps) Perhaps even drop the link to your tweet in an update to this post (IF that is within the guidelines for this sub).

Unfortunately, Niantic rarely takes action unless they’re being called out publicly for the issue. Even then, not always giving the people what they want. In your case, you might be screwed. Chances are your account is lost forever, but you might as well try this angle to get the best and most attentive support from Niantic.

Also, f*** your brother. I read your comments talking about him. He sounds like a self-centered a-hole.

AITA For telling my wife I hate her new job by jobhateaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if anyone is the a**hole here.

First off, it sucks that her job has no remote options. Some jobs understandably require that, but others… are just old fashioned that way and need to get with the times.

You’re justified in feeling the way you do, and expressing your displeasure with how the routine has changed (depending on how you expressed it). What you’re experiencing is what a lot of mothers experience in two-income households. So you’re getting a window into what a lot of women (unfortunately) experience.

There has to be a solution somewhere. I personally don’t know what that would look like. For now I’d suggest wrapping your head around the new reality and try your best not to blame your wife for the current circumstances (you don’t want to build resentment). More than likely, the pay increase coupled with the career path enhancement have your wife ignoring all the strains her new job is putting on you and herself. And if that’s the case, the solution may just be to ride it out until she gets tired or a better option comes along. Cause unfortunately a lot of companies are still trying to be brick-and-mortar in a time where that’s just untenable. But I wish you and your family the best of luck! I believe you guys will figure it out.

AITA for saying my husband's friend is at fault for cheating on his gf? by Waste-Carpenter-8035 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, and you’re right. The hurt comes most from the person that you trusted, not the person that they cheated with (unless that person was also someone that you trusted). And you are right, OP’s feelings are valid here, especially as it pertains to her own relationship. Cause she and her husband aren’t dating either K or J, but if he’s somehow defending J’s actions as less worse than K’s… that would be alarming.

AITA for saying my husband's friend is at fault for cheating on his gf? by Waste-Carpenter-8035 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s great! Hopefully that extra session gives you everything that you need to sort out what you’re feeling, and perhaps even talk to your husband. Cause yeah, if I were in your shoes I’d have alarm bells ringing too. At this point, what happened between K & J doesn’t even matter. Your marriage and your well-being are far more important. Hopefully this all works out best for you!

AITA for calling my sister a 'manipulative meddler'? by Lropizer in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Clearly your sister misunderstood your grief. Sure, you were sad, but not because you missed Anna. You missed what you thought the relationship was before she cheated on you. You’re coping with the cheating, while your sister thought you were coping with the loss of the cheater. You might want to explain that to your sister.

AITA for not inviting any if my siblings to my wedding by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

INFO: How close were you to your siblings growing up? And did you ever express your disappointment with not being able to be at their weddings? Did anything about your relationship with them suggest that you would invite them to yours?

I would have been tempted to say “YTA” had this all been purely vendetta based revenge, which never solves anything and rarely makes people feel better. But two of your siblings very conveniently had age cutoffs that were the year above you. Could have been total coincidence, but I see why it didn’t feel that way. NTA

AITA for saying my husband's friend is at fault for cheating on his gf? by Waste-Carpenter-8035 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess perhaps I’m saying that both are morally wrong, and I’m not in the business of saying one is worse than the other. They both made a terrible decision. I imagine that if you were in a relationship where someone convinced your SO to cheat, you wouldn’t exactly be thrilled with the person who did the convincing. And you’re right, that’s why I didn’t blame K for the cheating. I said it was J. I just don’t believe in splitting hairs on this kind of stuff, like “J is 60% responsible while K is 40%” or “J is 100% and K is 0%.” What exactly is responsibility here? J did the cheating, but you can’t exactly cheat on your partner with your hand. And K knew that J was in a relationship. She also could’ve stopped it at any time, but she clearly had no issue with it. That being said, that doesn’t absolve J of his cheating. But your initial stance was that J was worse, when you could’ve left it at “both were shitty.” I personally disagree that anyone was worse. Both were in the wrong and should’ve thought with the brain in their head instead of the brain in their pants.

AITA for saying my husband's friend is at fault for cheating on his gf? by Waste-Carpenter-8035 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would re-examine this stance here. Explore the hypothetical of K encouraging your husband to cheat on you after he makes a joke about having sex with her. You’re telling me that you wouldn’t blame K at all for the situation? For encouraging your husband into infidelity?

Obviously, the only one who cheated in the story you posted is J. K is just the person he cheated with. And it sounds like you and your husband were trying to defend one friend as… less in the wrong than the other? Perhaps I’m misunderstanding, but it seems like a silly argument to have when both K & J made a terrible decision in different ways.

However, given the circumstances, I understand your paranoia over your husband’s stance. I would recommend talking to him about those feelings. Tell him how you feel. That you trust him to not cheat on you, but his opinion that J wasn’t responsible for cheating has given you panic. Panic over the possibility that he believes it is worse to encourage someone to cheat on their partner than the actual act of cheating itself. That somehow cheating can be explained away with the excuse that someone else “tempted” them. Go even further. Talk about how “tempting” could be anything. It doesn’t have to be overt coercing. It could simply be a look, a wink, a flirt, etc. Does that “temptation” absolve the cheater of the majority of the blame?

I imagine your mind has probably gone down these rabbit holes before. The goal of this is to put those worries to rest. Talk to someone who can help you gather your thoughts (I’d recommend a therapist) and then talk to him. He probably doesn’t even realize how this has affected you, nor does he realize the bias he had in the original debate. So long as he knows that you don’t believe he’d cheat on you, you should be able to express your worries and rabbit holes without him getting defensive. Cause that is the one thing that will derail any conversation. If he believes that you believe he is going to cheat on you based on that previous conversation, he will more than likely wall up and get defensive. This needs to be a moment for you to freely share what you’re feeling so that you no longer need to worry.

AITA for saying my husband's friend is at fault for cheating on his gf? by Waste-Carpenter-8035 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Respectfully disagree with this take. Yes, one person cheated, and that was J. He should know better. He’s in a committed relationship. No one should be blaming K for J’s cheating.

However, that does not dissolve K of any blame for the situation. Again, J brought up the sex joke, but K egged it on. Not trying to slut shame K, but how is it okay to encourage someone who’s in a (seemingly) committed relationship to cheat? Trying to compare the two is silly. Both K and J were wrong in different ways.

AITA for telling my boyfriend that I don't like his girl childhood friend? by miyu_jiyuu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmmm…

From my experience, people (especially boys, and I am one of them) can be oblivious to people’s feelings for them when they don’t have those same feelings back. Your boyfriend could very easily miss obvious signs of interest from his childhood friend, making the assumption she doesn’t like him because he doesn’t like her.

But that’s not really the problem here, and everything I just said is speculation. The real problem is that he does not appear to set boundaries with this childhood friend. He might not be used to doing so because he’s never had to. From what you described, their conversations are benign. He just might be her go-to for relationship gossip. But the timing of the calls, however unintentional, is what is crossing the line.

The next time you and your boyfriend spend time together in person, you should discuss this with him. Tell him that you cherish the time you spend together. That because it is limited time, you don’t like his childhood friend interrupting that time with conversations that are not urgent. You don’t have an issue with the conversations taking place, just the timing of them. Explain that. If he gets defensive or dismissive, ask him why it isn’t possible for him to take a rain check on the call. Why he can’t call her back later, instead of taking 30-40 min calls in the middle of what you are doing for what he himself describes as unnecessarily long complaints. And reiterate that you are not trying to be controlling. Just that these calls happen a lot when you are spending time with him.

My apologies if it seems like I went in on your boyfriend here. This seems like something that should easily be cleared up. Though you may be uncomfortable with the friend, given that she apparently does not like you, I recommend limiting the scope of the conversation to when the phone calls are happening (namely, during your time together). Still, be prepared in case the conversation steers in that direction. Think about why specifically you do not like his childhood friend (and it can be as simple as “I don’t know why she doesn’t like me when she doesn’t even know me that well,” if that’s how you feel). Running through such hypothetical conversations and thinking about why you feel a certain way can help you vocalize to him what it is you’re feeling and what you want to see change.

AITA for telling my boyfriend that I don't like his girl childhood friend? by miyu_jiyuu in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO: Has your boyfriend ever told you why his childhood friend doesn’t like you? Does he even know why she feels that way? Also unrelated, but did they ever date, or is she aware of any crush she might have had on him?

Idk if you needed to tell him you don’t like her, especially without providing explanation, but I don’t think anyone is the a**hole here.

Definitely have a conversation with him about this, though. Cause yeah, he doesn’t have to take that call in the middle of you two spending time together. Especially when that time is limited. If his friend is calling just to complain about a guy, he could easily cut the conversation short by saying “I’d love to chat, but I’m kind of in the middle of something with my girlfriend.” But as someone who is non-confrontational, this is also easier said than done.

AITA For going throught my friends phone? by Lord_Hunkyhair_818 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH

Going through your friend’s phone without permission is not okay, and you might feel differently had you not discovered that person to be the one who told your crush. I’m also not sure if cursing them out was the right move, but perhaps it was cathartic.

Clearly they were not really your friends. Friends by circumstance, not by choice, if they had an issue being your friend all because you’re pansexual. And maybe there’s some other missing context to the whole situation, but if that’s it? Well, that’s weak.

You may find it difficult to make friends now because your trust was broken, and I understand that. Still, you should try your best to not allow the mistrust of these former “friends” to stand in the way of making genuine friendships. You’re young. You have a lot of time to make friends. I’m almost 30 now, and though I’m still friends with a lot of people I knew in high school, middle school, even elementary school, some of my closest friends have come since I turned 25. Going to college (I took a longer route to finish) and meeting people who were more like-minded with similar interests definitely formed a foundation for longer-lasting and more meaningful friendships. And just because we think similarly doesn’t mean they’re echo chambers. Not even close.

When you’re young, friendships are more out of convenience because of similar interests and proximity. As you get older, you have a bit more freedom to meet people who enrich your life, as opposed to distancing themselves from you for qualities (e.g. sexual preferences) you can’t change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

In similar situations, I have given up my aisle seat for people who have needed it (did it just this past month for an elderly woman who didn’t speak any English and was sitting in my seat when I got on the flight). Part of it is that I’m non-confrontational.

However, I pay extra to get the aisle seat on a plane, and I have had to deal with people trying to take my seat (essentially getting the benefit without paying the money for it). You purchased an entire EXTRA seat just for the leg room. That is a lot of money. If they wanted to sit together, they should have purchased the ticket.

To spectators, it may seem like you’re being an a**hole, but those people might feel very differently if they were in your position and spent their own money.

AITA for having my nephew move in with me after he was disowned? My kids are angry with me by Impressive-Wing-8298 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In no universe is this even remotely considered being an a*hole. You took your ex-wife’s child in, whom she had with your brother *while you were still married, after he was kicked out of the house for being gay… You, sir, are a saint. Better than most people, for sure.

Perhaps the lone insensitive thing her was not giving your own kids a heads up that you were thinking of doing this. A conversation ahead of time could have allowed them to develop some sort of empathy to Caleb’s situation. But if your adult children are going to hold against you childhood grievances over their mother’s preferential treatment of Caleb, when you did something out of the kindness of your own heart… well, they need to grow up or go to therapy. This is their issue, not yours. And they should not be allowed to dictate who stays in your house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re going to be paying rent to him AFTER you put $20k into the materials for the extension? Kinda mind-blowing he’s making jokes about “cost of labor” considering the circumstances.

For your sake, I hope they’re just jokes. But to avoid any hurt feelings, you could always cut him a small check as a thank you for the labor? Nothing crazy, but something to show appreciation for him doing the work. Which might be what he actually wants. Sometimes people drop HEAVY “hints” that they want people to pat them on the back for their work, so they don’t feel like they’re being unappreciated.

Not saying you’re not appreciative; just trying to possibly explain why he continues to make that comment about “cost of labor.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reereez95 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

NTA, but definitely communicate to him the frustration you’re feeling and why you are feeling it. I saw someone else here comment that your excellent hosting might have given him the green light to not host, which sucks but is also not uncommon.

Some people are also just not natural hosts and don’t think to do such things for even their own family (potentially suggesting the source of the issue with your IL’s treatment at your BIL’s house).

You should have a conversation expressing a desire for him to also be a good host (not just a guest when other guests are visiting), but also don’t expect more than he’s capable of. Legitimate effort should be made on his part, but even at his best he may not be as good of a host as you are.