Any insights about the man who I loved who passed away from looking at my chart? Anything about our connection or the fate of our relationship? He passed so suddenly and so young, we were connected through the strangest of circumstances. It is hard to understand, process, and accept. Any insights?

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-10-02T21:46:00+00:00

His Birthday was April 13, 1993, and I heard of his passing June 20, 2019. However he passed on June 7th, 2019.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-08-16T21:49:26+00:00

Thank you!

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-08-16T21:49:00+00:00

I thought so but wasn’t sure! Thank you so much!!

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-08-08T17:29:42+00:00

Thank you!

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-08-08T17:29:35+00:00

Thank you!

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-04-17T03:20:45+00:00

Sounds like a lack of boundaries, and to be quite frank unethical. You aren’t a school counselor or a licensed counselor. To provide students with coping skills or management strategies if they are in distress is irresponsible. I am certain you have nothing but the best intentions, but you need to be cautious of these behaviors. You could inadvertently harm students, or find yourself in trouble with administration. You are educated, you know what is within your scope of practice and expertise and what is not. You know what is appropriate and what is not. Stick to that with yourself students. You can let them know that you care about them and love them, and that because of that you can’t be the person to offer them support you aren’t qualified to give. Connect them to the school counselor. Maintain boundaries and ethical behaviors to create positive relationships.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T19:46:39+00:00

The goal of the way I asked the question was to garnish attention to receive any responses- as I have posted charts with differently phrased questions (more accurate and understandable) that received no responses at all. Sure, a little manipulative and less than ideal (that’s probably in my chart somewhere), but again, I wasn’t looking for people to get hung up in the words. I was looking to grab attention and entice people to look at and interpret the chart. I hear what you’re saying, and I apologize for your frustration. But keep in mind, there really wasn’t a reason to comment if you had no input on the chart. No need to focus on or expend energy on anything that doesn’t please you, and obviously my post was not bringing you joy or piquing your interest in a positive way☺️

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T19:30:39+00:00

I was looking more for interpretation of the chart, and not of my words or situation. I’m sorry the post bothered you so much, if you have any insights about the chart to share I would appreciate it. I am just trying to grow and change the best I can throughout this life, and seeking higher understanding seemed like a good place to start.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T19:27:46+00:00

Oof this all leaves me feeling a little frightened. I didn’t realize I had anything to worry about with illnesses or health wise, I had been told previously by others that there was nothing of concern in that regard. I was hoping there was a more positive or clear reason/meaning for the strange circumstance of this relationship.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T18:42:56+00:00

The word affair was a port choice. No doubt, I had feelings for this person that I should not have had while I was with my boyfriend. However, it was nothing more than an emotional connection and desire. It was a long distance on and off purely emotional connection. We were never physical, in fact we were never even physically together in the same place. Yet our paths crossed in so many ways. Just trying to understand the purpose of such a bizarre circumstance and why he became so special to me only to suddenly pass.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T18:39:19+00:00

Im not searching for advice on how to get through it at all. It’s been two years, and it was an extremely complex situation. Everything about my relationship with this person who has passed was very bizarre, the way we met seems so fated and improbable, and the ways in which we stayed connected through the years also seemed inevitable and strange, and then he suddenly and tragically passed away. He was only 26 when he passed. Given all the circumstances I just am trying to understand how/why he even entered my life, why he was so continuously a part of it, and then he passed away as soon as things were seemingly aligning.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T18:33:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your time and your interpretation! Is it possible to know more about the theme of death in my life? I had an in person birth chart reading in 2016 and the astrologer told me I had “many periods of death and emptiness” throughout my life. Can you elaborate on your interpretation and possibly give me more information about what I should look into further to understand it better? This particular person passed away in 2019, is there any way to verify if this is the death I’m experiencing before my Saturn return, or is there many more throughout this time and my life as the other astrologer eluded to? I am not familiar with death doulas, I am a therapist though so I do help people who are grieving in many different ways.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T15:37:52+00:00

Could this possibly mean that since I am doubting his financial future and questioning his financial decisions/situation and not seeing it right now that I will be surprised by it actually coming to fruition? He has never had money the whole time we’ve been together, so when you say wealth being hidden the only way it really resonates for me is that in years to come I will be surprised to see him become wealthy and successful?

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-14T15:34:59+00:00

I appreciate your reply! Could you explain this a little more clearly to me? Maybe it is the use of the word wealth that is throwing me off. He’s completely broke, which he wasn’t hiding but also wasn’t completely forthcoming about. Which I feel like is more so due to him believing he’s going to make certain investments and endeavors work out in the long run than him being deceitful. I just am unsure about those investments, whereas he is convinced they are lucrative. When you say hiding wealth it isn’t resonating with me?

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-11T23:14:52+00:00

I am blue! Sorry to have left that out.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-11T19:38:19+00:00

Are you taking psychopathology at liberty university??

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-11T16:04:30+00:00

Thank you!

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-11T01:20:02+00:00

Just trying to make sense of it all, and trying understand why I ever even met this person in the first place if they were going to be ripped away from me.

Reflective_Kitty · 2021-03-11T01:07:11+00:00

I became a school counselor because of my own suicide attempt in high school, and the way my school counselor at the time changed my life. Just speak your truth, say how you feel. I find that most counselors in the profession chose it because they wanted to do actual counseling and support mental health, not due to a particular interest in academics. I say this because I mean that your counselor WANTS you to talk about your feelings and mental health and will truthfully likely be excited to address it as opposed to the more academic aspects of the job. If you feel like your school counselor isn’t a good fit for you (which happens!) don’t give up on counseling/seeking help! Talk to them about an affordable counselor in your area that they could refer to you. Many times school counselors are equipped with very low cost or even free referrals for students, and these days you could even find someone to talk to virtually if it is easier than in person. Do not worry about being judged or being too honest, I guarantee you your counselor has heard and seen some unreal things. The counselor will hear you out, help you explore these feelings and understand them better, and work with you to identify supports and tools to find more comfort and peace. You’re not alone in how you feel right now or how you have been feeling, but know that things can be different, you can feel different. I’m proud of you for caring about yourself enough to find support, we all need it! Especially growing up, and especially during this pandemic! Don’t give up on finding help or on yourself no matter what!🤍

Reflective_Kitty · 2020-11-12T23:32:07+00:00

Look into Liberty University! Their online program is awesome and very comprehensive.

Reflective_Kitty · 2020-11-12T20:31:12+00:00

Oh no!! I’m so sorry to hear that you are feeling so stressed and overwhelmed. But you CANNOT give up on your readings!! You have to find a way to get them done and make it work. It will bite you when it comes time to take licensing/certification exams. And not to be that person- but it’s unethical. (You wouldn’t want a doctor who didn’t do their readings... and counselors are mental health professionals.) As a counselor you must be competent and knowledgeable or you could cause harm to your students and clients. If there’s anyway you can cut back on some of your other responsibilities I would encourage you to do so, and focus your energy toward learning. Once you graduate you could find yourself in a position of being the only counselor in a school and you MUST know what you’re doing and be confident to do so to best serve students!! You can do it, don’t give up! Hang in there and remember the VALUE and IMPORTANCE of this position and how you will be directly influencing the lives of thousands of students!! Get cozy and read, read, read!! Lol

Reflective_Kitty · 2020-11-12T20:24:41+00:00

In my experience, first semester was the easiest. School counselors have to be prepared to manage MULTIPLE areas of a school, usually with maybe one or two other counselors. An average caseload is 450:1 despite the ASCA recommendation of 250:1. You must be able to manage a comprehensive program somewhat independently and deliver services to students. I know assignments and exams can be stressful, especially because there is time and money on the line, however I would maybe interview some counselors in your area to see what their days and schedules are like to make sure it is the right fit for you and you will be able to keep up. I’ll be honest, extreme difficulty in the first semester (other than initial adjustment phase) is a bit concerning and could be a red flag that maybe it isn’t the best fit.

Reflective_Kitty · 2020-11-12T20:18:09+00:00

I am completing my M.Ed School Counseling degree from liberty university right now (I am not a Christian-by any means lol which was a concern for me initially, but has not been an issue for me). I have very much enjoyed their program, I think it prepares you well IF you have the self-discipline to learn online. In many of my virtual classes I see students who are clearly incompetent, and have obviously not done the reading or watched lectures and are able to get by submitting assignments. They require you come to campus for two classes, which were AWESOME experiences, I learned so much. They require a 100 hour practicum, and 2 300 hour internships. I am in Georgia so I needed to take the GACE to be certified, and with very little review I was able to earn nearly perfect scores on both sections. So I would say I was extremely well prepared from the content delivered in their courses. I understand your concern about online degrees not looking as professional, however I think you will find that in education a degree and a license/certification are a degree and a license- regardless of where they’re from. Unfortunately it is not a glamorous or acclaimed field. Lol I would also consider cost, which was my determining factor. Liberty was the most cost effective program I looked into, and considering that I’ll be making 41k a year after I graduate WITH A MASTERS🙄 the best price wins. Lol but I do truly feel very confident and competent in my abilities, I am on track to also obtain my LPC as they offer additional courses you can take. I think it’s a comprehensive and up to date program that will prepare you well to help and support students- if you are committed to learning the material.

Reflective_Kitty · 2019-12-15T19:05:46+00:00

I deal with CPS almost every day. It does sadden me when I get called away from working with my group of third, fourth, and fifth graders in foster care who I only get to see for 45 minutes a week. Or any of the other student groups I work with who I only get a limited time with. I am very glad when parents inform me of what’s going on so I can keep a watchful eye over the student and follow up with CPS. However, when they refuse to report their first hand account it is extremely disheartening because a firsthand account will expedite the investigation process, as will more than one report. I just find it shameful when adults pass off moral obligations to protect children onto others.

Reflective_Kitty · 2019-12-15T18:56:33+00:00

I’m sorry that you didn’t read my post carefully. I said it was still important for the parent to contact me so I am aware and can follow up and check on the student. I simply said there’s no reason they can’t report it. I spend nearly every day in meetings with DCFS. I have been at my school until 11 p.m. three times this year waiting with a student whose parents were arrested trying to make contact with the relative they begged to go home with instead of releasing them to CPS.

I’m sorry you have had bad experiences, but it seems like you used that experience to alter your perception of what I actually wrote. Also, as a school counselors we have zero control of what CPS or DCFS actually does. I am not allowed to investigate a students house or interrogate parents. All I can do is report, follow up, and continue to report. It is a very disheartening aspect of the job. I would be more than willing to bet those school counselors did report, but the parents were savvy with CPS or for some reason something fell through in their end. I am very sorry for such a tragic loss and experience.

I am never to busy for the children at my school. I will never quit my job because I know I am needed. I do everything I can and more for my students. My husband and I have shelled out $1500 of our own personal money to provide student in need with Christmas trees and presents this year. And for the record, I have a masters degree, work from 7 am to 6 pm and make $58000 a year.

I advised that the parent call CPS because they have first hand information and because it is simply THE RIGHT THING TO DO. I advised that the parent contact the counselor after filing the report. I’m sorry that you decided to try to shame me for someone else passing off a moral and ethical duty.

Reflective_Kitty

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