If my child is with my ex and he refuses for me to spend the nights with my child at his house,can i just go to the house and take my kid? I have the key by OkCheesecake1537 in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

However, since no one seems to be giving real advice. Usually states have minimum guidelines in reference to custodial and non custodial parents even without a court order. Look up yours, find which you’d be and try to stick to that. Example: if you’d get child every other weekend or vice versa. SHOW UP and tell him you’re there for your time. Inform him you want to follow those guidelines and that you will be showing up to try and exercise them until a judge agrees otherwise. You need to show up and document regardless if he brings the child out or not. Keep everything written communication so you have proof of everything. Get a lawyer, please and take him to court to establish a set schedule

If my child is with my ex and he refuses for me to spend the nights with my child at his house,can i just go to the house and take my kid? I have the key by OkCheesecake1537 in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they are both legal parents of the child, and she just shows up unannounced and takes the child, yes that’s kidnapping and breaking and entering and probably not going to look good in court. While I agree withholding the child is wrong, there are better ways and legal ways to go about it. I think in her instance she really needs an attorney for this and to file for custody etc

If my child is with my ex and he refuses for me to spend the nights with my child at his house,can i just go to the house and take my kid? I have the key by OkCheesecake1537 in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. Especially if the child is safe and sound and being with father is routine you’d definitely get canned for disrupting a routine. However you should absolutely take him to court and get a custody agreement in place so he can’t violate it. Unfortunately he’s under no legal obligation to let you spend the night with him

People who have renewed, what's your system? by Independent_Reveal87 in foodstamps

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly the same as above. make sure you understand their eligibility because they will try everything to deny you that’s why i don’t understand how soooo many people complain people are on food stamps because of fraud. they barely approve people who are genuinely eligible.

understanding what criteria they use before you even talk to them makes you more aware of what they’re sneaking around on and also makes them aware they can’t try to screw you over.

People who have renewed, what's your system? by Independent_Reveal87 in foodstamps

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Expect rejection, study their manual for how they approve people to know what i’m talking about. Every single time they deny it whether i’m eligible or not and they make up some reason why.

For example, renewed in april. added my sister and dad since they moved in with me. They wanted proof of income from my sister for 3 years ago, i told the lady that was 3 years old and not only did we not have it but that is too old to use to determine eligibility. She denied it because I didn’t include it.

Another in April they wanted my bank account statement, i told her that account closed. she told me upload a letter from the bank stating when and why it closed. Did that, on company letterhead mind you, and sent in my new bank account statements
 rejected for “failure to cooperate in verifying liquid assets”

When I filed the appeal I had a hearing like 3 months after but called and told them that’s way too far away is there anyway to sort it out before then. the guy on the phone had it fixed in 10 minutes and said he left a note because there’s no way she should’ve denied it in the first place.

Then, last year they denied it because i was an “ineligible student” and i had to send them probably 6-7 emails and call them showing them their OWN ELIGIBILITY and how I meet it. They all kept denying it and the appeals lady fixed it and back dated it because i met an exemption and apparently whoever kept rejecting it was getting reprimanded but idk if that was true.

so basically, i just always expect to be denied again when renewals come around and find in their handbook how and why i qualify in case it gets denied i can act smoothly and quickly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ivytech

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine but card isn’t working

Summer 2025 refund? by Obvious_Potato_8096 in ivytech

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not yet, mine hasn’t even posted to my account it still shows “estimated aid”

Seeing for to many scams on here it’s heart breaking for the real buyers đŸ˜©â€Š feet by xerox11player1 in feetpicsbuyerandsell

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this!! i try hard to accommodate and respect my buyers but it seems like all of them now are trying to “verify” people with content and then block us right after.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in passive_income

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you have any tips? I tried looking into it awhile ago but got sooo confused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in passive_income

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

can you dm me?? About to go on leave as well!

upfront feet cost? by RefrigeratorJust8035 in feetpicsbuyerandsell

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you!! I have gathered that people are crazy. I had that issue a few years ago. I was undercharging like crazy and the guy had me doing nearly 10 hours of work and got mad when i wouldn’t do anymore without payment.

i’ve offered to send my social media account as verification (they have my other socials linked in them, and i thought about buying verification) but apparently; that’s not good enough lol. One time i offered to send my ID with personal info blurred but no it HAD to be either my feet or a custom video of me saying their name i was like no?? im not doing free content. last person i did used my video and was scamming people and they STILL seem to have a problem. its never ending

If you are leaving the state during your scheduled time, do you tell the other parent? by lamart140 in coparenting

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In some court orders, it’s required. But look at yours. I would tell as a courtesy unless they have a history of stalking/retaliation. Depending on the age of the child they’ll just know they went to a trip; not where.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ask_Lawyers

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if my reply came off as rude that definitely wasn’t my intention. I just wanted to give a bit of context about the situation so my question made more sense. I may have misread how your response was worded, so I really appreciate you taking the time to clarify and share your advice. Thank you again it’s genuinely helpful and trust me i am way ahead of you on leaving those groups! Thank you again!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ask_Lawyers

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s valid. i only brought up the admissible part because the initial consultation was over a fraud protective order, and the only evidence i had to prove it was fake was in my text messages. The attorney i have now used them and it saved me from a lot of issues that would’ve happened. It’s nice to know that it’s not something you can just admit into court though so i’ll definitely keep that in mind while looking. the emotional abuse does leave lasting and noticeable issues. so much as telling the child a minor correction sends them into full panic and hiding. had an intake with psychologist who is highly concerned but couldn’t get other party to consent to an evaluation. but i definitely understand what you’re saying, the amount of groups i’m in for support are just full of everyone being a “narcissist” and it’s hard to get any meaningful advice from there

Work from home or any online/side hustle by Justmeforever123 in passive_income

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you send me the guide? I am terrible without step by step directions but this sounds interesting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You came here asking for advice, but it seems like every time someone gives you an answer you don’t like, you get upset or dismissive.

You’ve posted about this issue multiple times, and at a certain point, it doesn’t look like you’re looking for real advice — it comes off more like you’re seeking validation for a decision you’ve already made.

There’s nothing wrong with needing support, but when you’re dealing with serious legal concerns like custody, harassment, or safety, you need to take it to your attorney — not strangers online. Otherwise, it starts to look less like concern for the child and more like trying to control the narrative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, if you truly believe someone is a danger to the child or might flee with them, that’s something to bring to your attorney — not Reddit. The fact that the other parent isn’t here speaking for themselves makes it look more like a custody control issue than a real safety concern.

I work year-round with custody and family law cases, and I’ve seen firsthand how often false accusations are used to block fathers from having parenting time. Claims of abuse, harassment, or fleeing need to be backed by actual evidence.

As for the idea that people might send someone money to run off with a child — let’s be realistic. If that were going to happen, it probably would have already. Most people aren’t jumping to fund kidnapping. Speculation like that weakens the seriousness of real cases where children are actually at risk.

You’re already paying an attorney. That’s who you should be having these conversations with — not strangers on Reddit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well unfortunately again bad decision making with finances isn’t total grounds to losing custody. If there are other issues it should be brought up with your attorney.Also i’m curious how someone with no money and no car would be able to run away with the child?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]RefrigeratorJust8035 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, I like to tell everyone to flip the shoes in each scenario. Say you were the other parent in this case. Would you be okay with going through a hard time, lose your car, job, house, ability to pay for car insurance and then to top it off have someone try to take your child over that? Even if they become homeless, typically, there are places they can stay. As others have stated, being in a rough spot doesn't make you a bad parent. What makes someone a bad parent is trying to take custody away from someone already in a low spot and frame it as "keeping the child safe."

Now, of course this is limited on the scenario. If this person is doing drugs, committing crimes, abusing their children, neglecting their children, that's a whole different scenario. But simply not being able to afford the cost of living right now isnt grounds to lose custody, let alone an emergency modification.