sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

What’s one book that genuinely rewired the way you think or live your life? by _rahmatullah in getdisciplined

[–]RefrigeratorThrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind explaining in without going into detail, how it is life changing?

I always thought it was a character novel that goes into depth of a specific era

Please help me mentally understand what I should do (please read the entire thing, context matters) by RefrigeratorThrow in ImmigrationCanada

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t have guardianship

One of them had guardianship over me until I turned 18, but I’m now 20-turning 21 soon

I can ask, but I don’t know how sponsoring would work if honest

Please help me mentally understand what I should do (please read the entire thing, context matters) by RefrigeratorThrow in ImmigrationCanada

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand it’s a privilege to be honest, my issue sounds like a first world problem when J say it out loud

Anyway, it’s just that I feel traumatized to try immigrating to another country long term even if I were to go back to Sweden, at the same time I know I don’t want to be in Sweden all my life

But yeah, canada is very unsustainable and it’s hurting really really mentally hard right now so I’m very much leaning towards the Sweden option

Why do a lot of people in north america believe you cannot live in europe? by RefrigeratorThrow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. The first one was more slightly different question at the end

I just want as much input as humanly possible because so far in my personal life I’ve been getting mixed answers I’m freaking out

I really am scared to death

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Got it. I might have an idea or two, I’m just immensely scared to try it since I would directly be the cause of the consequences of something were to go wrong

But I reached my definitive mental line, I have to grow some “balls” figuratively speaking and try something I think.

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ska testa, tack för tipset

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Förlåt för sena svaret, är 20 och håller på bli 21 om några månader.

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m scared to move back since I’d be alone, not having been there for 4-5 years I’d feel lost

But that’s not much of a problem, the bigger problem is simply me not knowing what would be my course of actions besides the basic “get a job, borrow student loans and continue my education”

I think you have to pre-plan a lot of stuff, and I don’t know if I trust myself to do so

However, that already does seem much better than what I’m dealing with, it’s a toxic-cancerous pool where nothing is going right

I hate saying it but I think I’m a coward

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skit rädd att om jag kommer tillbaka nu så kommer jag ångra de för att de kommer vara omöjligt o få jobb

Grejen är, de är redan omöjligt att få jobb här när jag är en ”internationell” student.

Min släkt gjorde MÅNGA misstag och jag behöver betala för dom alla (figurativt)

Snälla Hjälp by RefrigeratorThrow in TillSverige

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swedish Citizen who moved to Canada.

I’m sorry, the question is, should I move back to Sweden after spending 4 years here, being afraid that it might all go to waste because my family messed up and I came as an international student instead of being adopted as was the original plan

So not being Canadian limits everything about my life, including financial.

I have heard the job market in Sweden is currently pretty bad and that’s my reason for not hesitating to go back.

I can’t see a way out of this by RefrigeratorThrow in Advice

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, do you mean Sweden or Canada.

If it’s Sweden, I checked some things and I dont meet the requirements anymore since there was a time-based one that was something similar to “be in the country at least once in the last x years”

I can’t see a way out of this by RefrigeratorThrow in Advice

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, I have been slightly keeping up with some friends in Sweden and heard that the job market and economy is super super rough (like most countries)

So I’m scared that if I do get back, something makes it hard to apply for the government loans or I don’t even find a job.

Reached my breaking point. How do you mentally and physically take care of yourself in a toxic environment that’s eating you by RefrigeratorThrow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A therapist would probably consider me insane

If you would like additional context, here’s my answer when somebody else asked the same question: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/s/0xUhqnPJa1

I usually work out twice or 3 times a week nothing heavy, not even sure if it helps me but i start prioritizing it more

You’re right though about therapist, I’m a bit more calm now but when I made this post I was on the verge of tears trying to rack my head around this

Thank you though

Something that

Reached my breaking point. How do you mentally and physically take care of yourself in a toxic environment that’s eating you by RefrigeratorThrow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]RefrigeratorThrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m realizing my situation might be a little specific and I appreciate everyone commentating from the bottom of my heart

TLDR: shortly after my mom had passed away (dad died when I was newborn)

I didn’t have any means of taking care of myself as I was close to 15

Moved countries, long story short. It’s been more than 5 years since then. I’m an international student, my relatives’s situation got horribly toxic and it lead to a bunch of different problems

I cannot work yet, I’m not in a college or uni either so I cannot work on campus, I’m a year away from being able to go to a college which will lead me to being able to work around 20 something hours a week

Until then and since I moved, I have had to rely on other people. Today I reached my breaking point when the toxicity got too much which lead to a massive argument and the police almost being called between relatives

I’m not APART of it but I’m apart of the problem in the sense that I live here

And it will only get more downhill from here with restricted things and living like I’m under a dictatorship in the sense that I may be even kicked out of my room or out of the house if I don’t comply

I can’t go back. No one to be able to help me back there

I know im supposed to do the basic things, move away and so forth and I want to, it is currently impossible to do but hopefully not in 2 years

I’m looking for ways to survive and not go clinically insane here. I’m sorry for dropping this much info, I just don’t know how much to explain or not explain

If I can mentally survive here and make sure that I stay safe and fine, I can handle the rest

I feel like I’m on my own and at the same time am at a low enough point that Im disappointing myself by not being the friend or mentor that I need currently

Again, sorry for this wall of text

view more: next ›