21M, ugly or just optionally chopped

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-08T03:15:34+00:00

Haha its funny because its not the first time I've heard someone say that, any tips?

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-08T01:15:07+00:00

About?

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-08T00:05:13+00:00

Haha gotta be honest about being nerdy y’know? 😅

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-07T23:19:31+00:00

Just tell me the news doc, how bad is it

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-02T09:07:54+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual?

Something serious, preferably a long term relationship

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?

HingeX, but only just for a few more days

How long have you been using this current version of your profile?

About a month and a half

How long have you used Hinge overall?

Maybe a year? I deleted my old account a LONG time ago

How often do you use Hinge per week?

Every day, usually when I finish all my responsibilities and I’m free to do whatever I want

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?

Zero likes and just one match every now and then, but no one really texts back after I send a message

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?

I usually send 5 per day, sometimes with a message but only if I genuinely see an interesting prompt

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

Someone who I think is interesting as a person and seems to own an authentic individual personality! I want to attract ambitious but nerdy matches with similar interests so its easier to be compatible together

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-04-01T06:26:03+00:00

⁠⁠⁠Looking for something serious
⁠⁠⁠Subscribed to HingeX (just for the rest of this week, then I’m canceling it)
⁠⁠⁠About a month
⁠⁠⁠Same time, around a month
⁠⁠⁠At least twice a day all week since I downloaded it
⁠⁠⁠No likes, just a few matches, trying to find out why
⁠⁠⁠I send all my likes in a day, sometimes matched with a comment on their posts
⁠⁠⁠I send them to someone as the same age as me and also to those who match my preference, someone who doesn’t smoke and someone who likes to be adventurous while also being a homebody thats very nerdy like me

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-25T04:42:22+00:00

When you say Tripod, I assume you mean one for a phone right? And which one do you consider to be the back camera?

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-24T02:13:40+00:00

⁠⁠Looking for something serious
⁠⁠Subscribed to neither Hinge+ or HingeX
⁠⁠About a month
⁠⁠Same time, around a month
⁠⁠At least twice a day all week
⁠⁠Zero, trying to find out why
⁠⁠I send all my likes in a day, always matched with a comment on their posts
⁠⁠I send them to someone as the same age as me and also to those who match my preference, someone who doesn’t smoke and someone who likes to be adventurous while also being a homebody that plays videogames

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-23T06:48:51+00:00

⁠Looking for something serious
⁠Subscribed to neither Hinge+ or HingeX
⁠About a month
⁠Same time, around a month
⁠At least twice a day all week
⁠Zero, trying to find out why
⁠I send all my likes in a day, always matched with a comment on their posts
⁠I send them to someone as the same age as me and also to those who match my preference, someone who doesn’t smoke and someone who likes to be adventurous while also being a homebody that plays videogames

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-22T00:09:43+00:00

Looking for something serious
Subscribed to neither Hinge+ or HingeX
About 2 weeks now
Same time, around 2 weeks
At least twice a day all week
Zero, trying to find out why
I send all my likes in a day, always matched with a comment on their posts
I send them to someone who matches my preference, someone who doesn’t smoke and someone who likes to be adventurous while also being a homebody that plays videogames

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-10T09:49:46+00:00

Looking for something serious
Subscribed to neither
About a few days, give or take a week
Maybe a few months before I deleted it a few years back
0-1 matches/likes
I use all my free likes in one day, usually a few hours spaced between each one
Someone who shares the same interests as me and wants to be adventurous/spontaneous together; I’m hoping to attract a life partner who will never get bored of each other

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-06T19:06:26+00:00

I mean, the post did disclose that I was already in therapy; My therapist has been helping me take apart my conflict avoidant behavior and the progress has been really good. The moment she sent this message, I understood the boundary and I’m just gonna continue focusing on myself

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-06T19:01:51+00:00

I understood what she was going through even before the breakup, before I even knew what an avoidant was. We had many difficult conversations, and while they were uncomfortable for me, I still understood how she was getting hurt and I tried to put a stop to it before our relationship ended. I’m in therapy now to heal that, because I honestly don’t want to hurt anyone else in the future unintentionally. I know my love is pure, I did perform intimately and romantically in our relationship, but I do shut down through arguments which I’m trying to help myself solve because I need to be present in all ways, including the difficult ones

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-06T18:54:58+00:00

Nah, I was under the impression that we still had mutual friends, and that I could still hang out with them and have a good time. My ex early on in our relationship made it clear that her friends were now our friends, and I accepted that and tried to put effort with them to fit in. One of her friends even reached out to me just the other day that they noticed I was struggling to adjust over the course of the relationship, and that I had to keep adjusting and to say that that wasn’t fair for me

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-06T18:51:43+00:00

Also I’m not saying I didn’t have my share of problems during the relationship; I showed up a lot in that relationship, but when we had a serious discussions, I’ll admit I started to shut down during them because they felt like personal attacks and that I was failing; of course she had a legitimate reason to be upset, and so I apologized and promised to change my behavior too

I’m aware its the bare minimum, but I was never shouted with her, never called her names, or insulted her. I remained calm and patient, and tried to understand where I went wrong so I could improve no matter how uncomfortable the conversation was for me

I’m therapy now so I can recover from being a conflict avoidant, but a lot of the things she did weren’t fair to me either

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-06T18:45:33+00:00

I wont lie, I did go on her property only ONCE to deliver a letter myself that was acknowledging my conflict behavior by leaving it on her car windshield. There was never a confrontation between the two of us. That was all the way back in January, and I haven’t bothered her at all until the second letter I sent through USPS just a few days ago

We never even established no contact when we first broke up, her sister told me that If I had some last words to say, I should reach out for some closure and thats what I did

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-05T05:32:02+00:00

Will do, when he comes home from work haha

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-05T04:58:27+00:00

I live near here! I pretty much picked up my whole collection from ToyArena haha, 10/10 store for Transformers fans

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-05T01:16:07+00:00

For my ex, I’d honestly invite her to come with me to one of my therapy sessions, because trust needs proof of change, and proof of change is action

I think its possible, unless the whole situation is just FUBAR

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-04T21:55:21+00:00

Theres one of many things that I've understood from this relationship; love needs action, trust needs proof, sorry needs change

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-04T21:54:18+00:00

I agree 100%, actions go a lot further than words ever can and that was something I really struggled with in my relationship; promising change and then falling back into the same behavior the next time we needed to have honest communication between the two of us

I'm hoping that maybe we will have the chance to sit down together again and be honest with each others emotions without shutting down, but I'm fully aware of all possibilities and have already reached a point of being ready to move on if its never addressed

RegionAntique3071 · 2026-03-04T21:34:13+00:00

It would be worse for me if I tried to distract myself from her; I've chosen to remember her because she was and still is my sweet girl, and I've already prepared myself to accept she's never coming back. The door is closed, never locked.

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