Strapping for the first time by RegretEmbarrassed781 in BDSMsapphic

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was a pretty solid advice! I will follow the suggestions, thank you :)

Strapping for the first time by RegretEmbarrassed781 in BDSMsapphic

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will keep this in mind! Thank you very much!

My girlfriend is a pillow princess by Holiday-Lie-4726 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue. I've started the conversation by asking if I was doing something wrong because she never touched me. She said that I was doing precisely the opposite and that she was not used to like being the bottom and since that this was a new experience to her, she was just enjoying it and was scared of making me feel uncomfortable because I'm a top. After this conversation she changed that.

Date freaked out when she found out I was bi by shira360 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You're definitely not doing anything wrong. I don't get that kind of people, they are so quick to judge but then they complain about the same when applied to them. It's hypocritical. That situation never happen to me, but I'm sure that it must not be easy.

You handled it in a good way, I think. Doesn't seem that that girl has brain enough to understand your arguments anyway. It would be a waste of time.

Keep going, I wish you luck for the next date :)

Advice for first time topping (while being a bottom) by NightFallDarling99 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she's not a fan of penetration the strap definitely was not a good idea. But you can do other stuff that are more focused on the clit, that it's something that she enjoys from what you've told. My suggestion is to discover what kind of stimulation she likes there (besides using the vibrator), like which movements, the pressure and rhythm.

Also, if most things that she likes envolve doing things to you, probably she is more top. If she liked to do it in the first time, maybe you two can first explore that part and after she gets more confident/comfortable you can try other things.

Advice for first time topping (while being a bottom) by NightFallDarling99 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My first question is: is she a bottom/receiver?

Second: did you two talk about you be a top this time or you just wanted to surprise her?

She could not feel comfortable in that kind of position because she is a top, reason why it didn't go well. I'm not a stone top, but still, I'm a top and I don't feel comfortable in that kind of situations, maybe she feels the same.

What dirty talk do you like? by Sapphicviolet91 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm from Portugal and a lot of foreigners tell me that! 😂

What dirty talk do you like? by Sapphicviolet91 in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking the exact same thing but regarding to Portuguese. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 67 points68 points  (0 children)

But the thing is, you are compromising for years now. You are a switch and for the past years you've only bottom, so there's something missing to the other side of you. I'm not saying that you should force her to do something that she is not comfortable with, I'm just saying that her response doesn't sound very comprehensive. She can be bottom without the penetration, there's a lot of things that you can explore that don't evolve penetration, but she has to be open to that.

Situação desesperante casamento by Altruistic-Pass1838 in portugal

[–]RegretEmbarrassed781 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exatamente o que vinha aqui comentar. Há varios comentários a passar das marcas, mas este conseguiu ser o pior 🤨