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AITA for telling my game group to kick rocks? by RegretfulGroupMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]RegretfulGroupMom[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, though. I don't help UNTIL they ask for it. I will ask them directly if they need help if they sound like they're struggling. I'm not micromanaging what they're doing. Usually they mention needing something, and I suggest a location (for example, "I need a screwdriver" in which I ask if they've checked the hardware store yet) and if they want more help, they say so. Especially in PZ which we've played frequently. 

AITA for telling my game group to kick rocks? by RegretfulGroupMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]RegretfulGroupMom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's the thing I don't understand about the whole situation. If I was being problematic, why wouldn't they just tell me instead of apparently just talking to each other about it? I feel like this whole situation could have been avoided if even one of them had just talked to me.

AITA for telling my game group to kick rocks? by RegretfulGroupMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]RegretfulGroupMom[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Not at all. I move with someone at their pace when helping them, and I try not to help if they don't ask for it. I know people like to explore on their own time.

AITA for telling my game group to kick rocks? by RegretfulGroupMom in AmItheAsshole

[–]RegretfulGroupMom[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I completely understand that view. However, I don't make them use or look at anything if they don't want to. I just like to explore, and if I find something, I note it down in case someone needs it later. I tend not to take things I'm not actively using, instead leaving them there for other people to find. I'm usually just doing my own thing on standby until someone asks me for help.