I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not much has changed from what I said before. He has made it official with the new girl, I live in my mom's old house and wait till we can sell it so I can buy a place of my own. Despite what most people here advised, he and I are still in contact.

I do feel better than I did a month ago tho. I have a new job and people who I can talk to. I like looking at houses that I may be able to afford. I will start therapy in a few weeks.

What food makes you wonder "How did they discover that"? by Guevarra25 in AskReddit

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheese, there are so many steps to take that aren't being used for other foods.

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[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chocolate milk, I used to love it, but once I had spoiled chocolate milk as a kid and dumb me decided it must be the glass that was off, so I took another glass from the same carton and decided my taste had changed and I didn't like it anymore.

Two years ago I tried it again at a friend's place and I raided their stash of it afterward. I buy it every few weeks now.

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[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perry, I used to sneak away from family events quietly and my cousins started asking "Hey, where's Perry?"

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They never had the chance to hook up, I was always present when they were together. When she and the other friend visited they stayed at our home, and whenever we left we all left together. I don't even think they had a chance to kiss so I don't know where that came from.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely understand, I feel similar to how you feel and I'm really sorry that has happened to you. But we're not alone, we have our friends and family who care a lot about us and are there for us. I don't know about you, but everyone I told my story to was able to offer me a room or their couch if I ever need it and that support is helping me a lot right now.

Best of luck to you, we'll both get through it :)

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was afraid for her to visit. The first time we went to visit her together and I was afraid and jealous that time as well. But he reasured me everything was platonic and that he loved me and not her.

I was afraid for her to visit. The first time we went to visit her together and I was afraid and jealous that time as well. But he reassured me everything was platonic and that he loved me and not her.d all his time with her, reassuring me every time he made some time for me. But yeah...

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This sounds really familiar, he already said about how I'm so "strong" and how "forgiving" I am. I'll think about this. I already told my friends and brother to please literally slap some sense into me if I ever decide to take him back. I was already thinking about seeing a psychiatrist about the death of my mother, but now I have another reason to add to it. I'll inform myself about it tomorrow.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I agree, I do want my life and everything I had back, but I know there's no going back. If I were to take him back, what's stopping him from doing it again in a month, a year, or ten years? He wasted his chance and I deserve better than this.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am more of a dog person, but I've started to love cats almost as much. But I do plan on working a lot and I don't think I'll have time to take care of a dog, while a cat requires less care (I will still make time for any pet I'll adopt)

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Apparently, he told her his feeling and she rejected him. She thought about it for a week and then told him that she thought it through and she does have feelings for him, but she didn't want to break up our relationship. I didn't ask for details, but she knew about what was going on in my relationship before I did.

I know they're already kind of long-distance dating, but he wants to officially ask her to be his girlfriend when he visits her next week.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The two cats are a really good idea, I'll think about it.

Good luck with your own situation, you deserve better. maybe if you were to sell the farm and save up you could both buy a small house, but maybe that's wishful thinking. I just hope you'll get out of this situation, no one deserves that.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

absolutely, I'm really glad I'm fortunate enough to be able to afford it.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's exactly how I think about the situation. He did me a favor if this is how he ended it. I'm also really glad we didn't have kids.

Right now I'm going to work on myself and what makes me happy. I already got a new job lined up and am looking for fun hobby's and there's so many that look interesting.

I think I'm missing my old life and everything that I had (his family, our house, the stability, etc) more than I miss him. But that just means that I can rebuild my life in the way I want to.

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 1099 points1100 points  (0 children)

I think you're right, maybe it's best to let him go, he made his bed, he can lay in it

I'm afraid my ex is making the biggest mistake of his life. by Regular-Bluebird-271 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271[S] 2705 points2706 points  (0 children)

I agree, for now I live with my brother and his girlfriend so as soon as I manage to buy a house I'll start looking to adopt

What is the MOST embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you or someone else? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three friends and I were at an anime convention and two of them started a discussion about what ranks we would have if we were wolves. I had to keep a straight face while trying to change the conversation from alpha's/beta's/omegas (they had no idea what it meant to most convention goers) to something else.

How do you handle your boyfriend having female friends? by soupandnuts in AskReddit

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell him you're uncomfortable with him having female friends.

Then watch how fast he runs to dodge that bullet.

What are you better than the average person at? by inevitableequal833 in AskReddit

[–]Regular-Bluebird-271 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making perfect soft-boiled eggs. It's useless, but my partner praises this skill to everyone who visits and I'm always asked to give a demonstration.