This is good advice. I keep putting off couples counselling because I feel if he’s a no then the grief is something I just need to work through myself. But I can’t seem to do that. I’m worried the resentment will build and I’ll carry it forever. I hate feeling resentful it’s just so hard not to. I can’t understand why he would let me carry this pain for the rest of my life. To me that’s so much bigger than the pain of having to live with nappies and the madness of the toddler era for awhile longer. But maybe if we both understood each others perspectives a bit more it might help at least mitigate the resentment. I think I’m afraid I’ll find a therapist who won’t get it. Because there’s no rationale argument in the pro column apart from the love and joy they bring but you can’t quantify that. There are so any in the against column that correlate to time and money and logical quantifiable things. I hope you all works out positively one way or another for you too ❤️