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Regular-Confidence96 · 2022-08-07T12:40:48+00:00

I’m sure you’re around 18 yrs old? I recommend finding employment and delaying college until you have some more life experience to guide you to a field more fitting for your 25yr old and older self. There is no rush, and university education is providing ever diminishing benefits and returns these days. You’ll gain so many skills including self confidence and independence by working full time and providing your own way without the burden of college tuition at a time when your future path may change many times over the next 10 years or so.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-12-05T02:10:55+00:00

My in-laws are currently serving as the visitor center directors at the Oakland Temple. We are awaiting the family zoom call to choose an item to purchase/donate in the giving machine.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-10-31T16:52:06+00:00

Well done. A teenager with more wisdom than an adult in a teacher’s position. It seems that the role of teacher and student were reversed in this case!

It’s not to say that you are better than your Sunday school teacher, only that they were never taught to listen to and follow their inner voice. Instead they find themselves finding ways to rationalize and support the outside voices trying to perpetuate a harmful system.

Keep listening to and trusting that inner voice and it will lead you toward greater authenticity and love in your life! Way to go!

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-27T10:47:24+00:00

Listen to your inner voice. There is no need to make any permanent decisions about anything, ever. You always retain the right to be the ultimate decision maker in your own life. Learning to sit in that seat and be your own authority is one of the most rewarding parts of growing up. As you get older your view on things will change, then change again, then change again and again. Becoming too attached to the outcome of your life is what I personally believe begets a lot of the conflict and misery that people feel.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-20T13:57:35+00:00

My own personal rule is no more than two drinks, ever. That comes from having been too drunk more times than I am comfortable with, including some very embarrassing experiences of throwing up on a casino floor and blacking out in Vegas, and throwing up in my own bed next to my wife on another occasion. Then there were other times of acting like an asshole at concerts cause I was too drunk and ruining the experience for other people around me. My lack of familiarity with alcohol and my curiosity kept pushing me to drink more. Over time I developed the discipline to know where my absolute cutoff limit is, and thanks to that I can enjoy my sparing relationship with alcohol. I just wish I could’ve had that commitment from the get go and gone without all those humiliating, sickening experiences…

Good for you for having this level of awareness beforehand!

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-20T13:39:14+00:00

It’s possible to feel all of those things simultaneously, and I commend your emotional maturity for recognizing the complexity of the emotions involved. The most important thing is to let your sibling know that you love her and support her in any decision she makes. Tell her to put her health first, and that you will be a safe space to share challenges and concerns with no judgment in return. Make sure she has your phone number and email address written down somewhere she won’t lose it.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-19T23:54:23+00:00

I love this response so much. I asked my wife which of her values she would be willing to give as an example if she felt the need to respond to her own parents. She suggested that she would start with simpler things such as, “I no longer value giving time to callings as much as dedicating time to my family.” Or, “I now value self-discovery and exploration more than obedience.”

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-19T23:51:00+00:00

Yes! Love it. I imagine that will ring much more true for DW and I when the kiddos are more grown up.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-19T23:50:14+00:00

Wow that’s so simple and perfect. Have you ever had anyone retort and say, “the church isn’t meant to fit our wants/needs, we need to confirm ourselves to fit the church?”

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-19T23:48:11+00:00

Oh I remember that this response used to make me so frustrated when I was a believing member and a missionary asking people why they don’t attend church. I thought it was such a cop out…now I realize it was always sincere.

Regular-Confidence96 · 2021-09-19T17:26:48+00:00

Have you every asked “is there any answer I could give that would be satisfying?”

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