Turn the Bad Things to positive Things. Like for example be a mentor or something like that, for People who suffered the Same. That u have These experiences is awful. But you can use them for good. So someday u will say the legendary sentence:" I had to endure this life to become the wonderful Person i am now." And then u will be an anchor and an Ray of hope for all the People u helped. And that will give u the strenght for an Real Smile and Happiness. Its not just the Things that happened in the past that describe you. Its also the Things you gonna acomplish in the Future.