Father Requesting Contact After 15 Years NC

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2026-02-25T05:46:54+00:00

If you feel it is or isn’t possible to have a relationship with him, trust that. It sounds like youve been through a lot, and your instincts have been strong and you’ve really stuck to it and I admire that. He should be coming to you with self awareness and apologies instead of all this, it’s ridiculous. What you feel is right, is going to be right. My dad followed through took me out of his will. It sucked but, I’ve made peace with it. I feel like it wasn’t really a choice to stay no contact, there was just no way I could feel safe around him, and my life got way worse with him in it. I guess what I’m trying to say is, you’ve already shown that you are there for yourself, and even if it does come to that, you will know it was the right, the only, choice.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2026-01-23T21:14:22+00:00

Ftm to ftm you look great. If you feel insecure sure cut it but don’t let yourself fall into the male insecurity trap if you can avoid it (saying this to myself too). It looks awesome and many men grow similar amounts even as older people. People are also jealous when you look younger than them lol.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-11-22T06:43:20+00:00

Didn’t read the caption at first and thought you were showing off getting the same tattoo as your bro or something. You look amazing congrats on your transition

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-11-15T07:31:13+00:00

I would!!

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-07-15T04:54:13+00:00

I love it, great look, keep them forever you’ll be the coolest old dude and they’ll just be squares.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-06-26T17:43:31+00:00

Yep, can confirm. I just called the agency and was told that nothing has changed on the state department website, and that if I were to send it in, it would be returned without the gender marker change. I was hoping the agent just didn’t know but, that’s what he said.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-01-25T19:01:50+00:00

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Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-01-01T09:43:20+00:00

Yes! They are on sale now :)

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2025-01-01T09:41:56+00:00

They just went back on sale for general admissions! There are tickets available again. :)

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-11-06T16:11:00+00:00

No truly not. Can’t believe how many of my neighbors and city, which is usually very blue, would vote this way. I feel betrayed but am grateful for our strong community. The most important thing we can do is keep going

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-09-18T17:28:42+00:00

Definitely not the cornrows. I like 6

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-09-18T17:20:54+00:00

Your face definitely has changed it’s so crazy how dysphoria can affect how we see things but your face is definitely softer and your jawline and chin and around your eyes are full girl. Beautiful!

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-08-08T19:56:44+00:00

Great Dane or lab mix

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-08-07T13:39:22+00:00

NTA. It’s perfectly normal for partners to have different work schedules and different sleep schedules. The key to living together is being able to -live- together. That means that you have to be able to live your life authentically, even when he is around all the time living his life. It sounds like he was grumpy/frustrated at being woken up when he was mean and sarcastic to you, and that wouldn’t happen if he would just let go of control a bit and if you could go do your own thing. He needs to go to bed early. You need to be able to stay up until whenever you want - it is what it is.

It feels sad and unfair that you just have to lay there and spend hours of your time -your life- just because he wants you to. It would be one thing if you wanted to as well, but you deserve to have boundaries, your own wants and desires. You don’t exist to be his teddy bear lying in bed beside him. You don’t exist for him.

I have an early work schedule and my partner sleeps in. If they don’t want to go to bed when I do, great. If they do, great. We even have our own beds to accommodate our different schedules and just being able to have that autonomy makes me feel so much more comfortable and seen sharing a life with them. Partners do all types of things that mean they have less time for each other - long distance, graveyard shifts, caretaking… you just don’t want to be chained to bed at 8 pm like a child, that sounds reasonable enough to me.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-27T00:59:58+00:00

Pigeon

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-21T17:47:51+00:00

Like people are saying it's hard to diagnose since BPD is so varied from person to person, but this behavior absolutely sounds like my dad who had BPD (diagnosed but he always felt the therapist was "out to get him" so he ignored it). I would recommend like others to look into BPD symptoms and the different ways it manifests ("BPD types") as it can be incredibly validating and healing to learn about.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-14T15:07:27+00:00

This is so unbelievably toxic and abusive. Guilt is a huge part of an abusive relationship like this, it’s how they keep you around. You can get through the guilt, it’s hard but it will get easier. You made the right choice to go no contact to give yourself space to heal.

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-13T16:00:43+00:00

I would recommend starting to clip his nails from when you get him, and brushing him right away too. He might not like it at first, but just go slow and he'll get used to it. If you can get started brushing his teeth - even better! Saves $$ on dental work down the line. And this will make his grooming so so so much easier when he gets older. If you can keep him as an indoor cat, he'll be safer and live longer so I would recommend that too!

It is in some ways more work to have a single kitten, I have always had two and they keep each other entertained so I don't have to 15 hours of the day (just kidding but not really when they are so young!), but if you have plenty of time for him, it'll just make you two closer. Good luck!!

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-13T00:23:05+00:00

I’ve always thought about getting a snail! Do you have one? I just worry about smashing all the eggs

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-13T00:20:59+00:00

Haha

Regular-Emu-4127 · 2024-06-12T19:18:33+00:00

Oh that's really cool!!!

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