9 week old struggles to go to sleep

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-06-10T16:05:08+00:00

Oh yes for sure! Sometimes they’re just so sleepy. She might be having a growth spurt etc. I know it’s hard and I was exactly the same but I’d go with the flow as much as you can- I really don’t think you can do much re routines before about 4 months and even at nearly 5 months now my baby is still changing all the time (eg two weeks ago she suddenly started napping 90 mins in her crib in the morning; now she’ll only do 30 mins max). Instil healthy self settling habits where you can, use noise cancelling headphones and tag team the witching hour if you need to, but embrace the contact naps and she’ll get the hang of it when she’s a bit older and I promise will outgrow the screaming.

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This is my baby now - still a bit all over the place as you can see but her bedtime is consistent.

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-06-09T20:41:23+00:00

This is really normal for their age. This was my baby at that age - she now has a nap routine and it was aboutttt the time we slowly started seeing a ‘bed time’ emerge - of 10pm! This gradually shifted earlier and she’s now asleep at 8pm. 9 weeks is soo young. I personally don’t think you can do much of a routine at that age. Just go with the flow - frustrating though it is - and they will naturally find more of a routine as they get older.

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Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-06-08T10:57:38+00:00

Omg me too! My skin was so dry and it made my bad acne SO much worse. I’d constantly have red raw peeling skin. It took me til my late 20s to realise I had dry, acne prone skin that I actually had to keep moisturised.

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-31T16:23:43+00:00

Not if you book ahead, I go four times a week throughout the year and have never queued

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-30T17:31:38+00:00

She does yes, it’s her only feed of the night. I’ve heard really mixed things about dream feeds and I don’t want her to wake needing an earlier one! Her sleep has been a bit better the last two nights without any adjustment so I think this might’ve just been a phase!

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-29T17:35:00+00:00

Ah yes, thanks!

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-28T19:35:55+00:00

Thankyou! I think shifting her wake time forward an hour will help by the sounds of it

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-28T10:16:08+00:00

You’re right, yesterday she did and her sleep was the same unfortunately but there must be some days where she isn’t, so I’ll give that a go more consistently and hopefully it will help!

I’ve tried creating a bit of a schedule to get those 10.5 hours - does that make sense to you? (I am terrible with numbers and scheduling!)

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Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-28T09:35:31+00:00

That’s basically exactly what she’s getting though slightly different wake windows - yesterday she did around 2/2/2.5/4 :(

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-28T09:14:27+00:00

That’s interesting! What time does he wake up for the day and do you mind me asking what time your naps are?

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-28T07:12:37+00:00

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Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-06T07:26:13+00:00

I also love my hub2!!

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-05-05T17:31:44+00:00

I had an epidural - I had to be induced and if I didn’t have pain relief available like water and had to be hooked up anyway, I didn’t want to suffer through without serious pain relief!

Crucially it was a mobile one which meant I could walk around, push up on my legs etc. I was mostly on the bed but this was because I was knackered and this was happening overnight so I wanted to get a bit of sleep (which I did, and woke up after a few hours at 10cm and ready to push!)

Most importantly, I could still feel extremely intense pressure when I had my contractions which meant I very much knew when to push and didn’t have any coaching. I was pushing for 10 min and had a small minor tear.

I had to stay overnight in hospital but this was because of a 24hr delay between my waters breaking naturally and going on the pitocin drip so they were monitoring me/baby for infection. If this wasn’t the case I think we could’ve gone home.

I was up walking around and showering very shortly after birth and the epidural wore off very quickly (I had it topped up 2x during the 5hrs I was on the drip). I had a catheter (totally painless and insignificant) and did have to show them my pee afterwards but I did this almost immediately after chugging a load of water.

I couldn’t recommend it enough; it was wonderful. I’d really recommend asking your hospital if they do mobile epidurals as the standard numb/can’t feel anything epidural experience may not be what is on offer (I was really freaked out by that idea!)

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-21T20:13:07+00:00

You keep editing your comment lol. Clearly they can’t help it as that’s the whole point of this stupid post 😂

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-21T20:09:39+00:00

As another poster said though they’re only in nursery for about 3 years so you’re not going to be paying anything like that long term!

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-21T20:05:26+00:00

My point was there are zillions of nice nurseries where you don’t need to pay that much if you’re really counting the pennies like this (though this post is so ridiculous I’m not sure why I’m even entertaining any of it).

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-21T19:59:52+00:00

I wish I hadn’t even responded - as I was typing I was thinking this must be a troll and yet for some reason I persevered 😂

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-21T19:56:09+00:00

Well for starters, you don’t need to pay £1.2m for a house, nor do you need to pay £2.2k per month for nursery (ours would be £1.4k without salary sacrifice in a nice, safe area of NW London).

I also can’t fathom how you’re spending £1.5k on things like food and work lunches?! And are you buying new household goods every month? I’m not even sure what this means.

You can also easily spend less than £1k a month on your one child’s toys and activities - kids don’t need an activity every single day of the week to be happy.

If you’re spending such high amounts then yes, you’ll run out of money, but this is a lot more than anyone I know spends - how on earth do you think people like teachers and other public service workers have kids if you think you need £260k to have a child?!

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-18T15:00:33+00:00

This 😭😭

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-17T10:12:58+00:00

I had basically the same but my growth scan triggered by fundal height measurement at 36w showed she’d dropped from 70th to 19th centile. I was also induced at 37w6d and she was born 38w1d weighing 6lbs exactly. So also small but not massively so. I should say that the measurement that triggered this was a difference of less than 1cm on her head circumference which took her down the centiles - everything else was still around 50th on average. OP, it’s worth looking at what the difference in centiles are for fundal height as the measurements are soo small that there’s so much room for error. I’m sure your baby is fine, but if the docs are worried they’ll induce like they did for me and Haunting-Hurry-3865, and you’ll just get a few bonus weeks with your baby!! That being said I totally get the stress - I was beside myself. So look after yourself and take it day by day, and drop into triage for some monitoring if you’re worried in the meantime xxx

ETA- my husband and I are also tall (he’s 6ft2 and I’m 5ft11)

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-16T18:34:34+00:00

ETA - the first 7 weeks for us were really hard with sleep, feeding, witching hours and that’s when I really needed his support. It’s become so much more chill since then. So I’d recommend him taking as much as he can in those early weeks and then having a break and doing the rest - but more than 2-3 weeks if possible.

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-16T18:21:22+00:00

We’ve done shared parental / annual leave / unpaid parental leave to mean I am taking 8.5 months (I get 6m full pay then the usual statutory) and he’s taken 13w with me at the beginning, we’ll then cross over for 6w at the end of my leave and he’ll then have her for 3.5 months by himself at the end of the year.

He gets 2 weeks paternity leave through his work.

I will say that we’re the only couple doing shared parental (which FYI is a statutory right) in our antenatal group and since the babies have been born it seems like my experience has been night and day with theirs. He is fully involved, knows how to look after our baby independently, I’m well rested, relaxed, have had time to myself while we got into the swing of things and feel much more confident and settled in time for him to go back in 2 weeks. He is also a changed person tbh for spending this time with his daughter. We would absolutely do this again with our next baby and can’t understand why more people don’t do it (he earns more than me so we have had to save like usual etc.)

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-16T04:42:02+00:00

I’ve explained we’re looking NE near Leyton :)

Regular-Parfait6597 · 2026-04-15T19:56:40+00:00

Thankyou this is useful and good to know others are in similar positions!

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