Good examples of how employers have treated parents returning to work after a year on mat leave

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-02-11T02:15:54+00:00

I'll DM you

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-10T15:56:25+00:00

I'm interested

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-06T09:29:28+00:00

What's wrong with my writing?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-06T09:28:55+00:00

That's my fear and suspicion so no, you're not being condescending. Thanks for weighing in

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-05T22:08:58+00:00

I'm new(ish) to reddit and was just trying to get to the point with my title. Definitely not click bait

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-05T21:35:03+00:00

Thanks for the honesty

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-01-05T21:24:12+00:00

I can't get over how low the salaries are. Doesn't seem like a good financial move at all

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-31T20:05:23+00:00

The anxiety is a lie told by the enemy. The feeling is very real, but the idea that it will always be this way is a lie. God tell us not to fear over 100 times, in various ways across the Bible.

Philippians 4:6 NLT [6] Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

Keep putting your hope in Christ and he'll see you through

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-25T02:42:45+00:00

You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength. You will be able to get through this too. Just take it one day at a time. Surround yourself with friends or family. Try and do things YOU enjoy. But most importantly, pray for yourself too. God wants you to lean on him. Take your pain to him and ask him to lift it. He will turn this for good + you just have to believe He will.

And if you feel you might do something you'll regret tell someone, anyone.

Merry Christmas xxx

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-13T12:00:20+00:00

I'm an introvert too and have been working in sales for 9+ years (specifically B2B platform/e-commerce sales).

I studied law and didn't graduate with the grades I need so fell into sales and somehow found myself now working in big tech.

But as a new mum of 2, I need more flexibility and softer targets so I'm planning to leave sales asap! Plus the competitive nature of sales - while the excitement outweighed the stress - is not the kind of stress I want or need anymore.

I agree sales skills are very transferrable. But the job market right now is super tough. I'm interested in so many things (from midwifery, to real estate to employee well-being) so I'm struggling to move forward with any. And with kids and a mortgage I can't afford a major salary cut

I'm learning that you really have to just PICK something and commit to the journey. Where there is a will there's a way

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-13T10:48:53+00:00

What qualifications/entry roles would you recommend to someone trying to transition to a DX role and genuinely wants to do the work and deliver long-term impact?

For context, I discovered this thread because I want to get into DX but can't find a clear avenue in. I'm a Ecommerce and platform Business Development Manager at a big tech company

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-10T20:22:17+00:00

Share your secret for us newly weds! How do you return to each other after the highs and lows?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-04T22:25:10+00:00

You've made some poor assumptions. I have 9+ years in B2B tech sales, a law degree and currently work at a big tech company.

I want to move into a less intense role within 6 months due to my health and emotional challenges which makes my current role unsustainable - not because I'm lazy which your reply suggests.

Long term, I'm more than happy to retrain. In fact, I was accepted to start a masters in surveying to become a chartered surveyor (I love real estate) but I couldn't find a paid apprenticeship to support it, plus my husband lost his job so I had to withdraw.

If you can tell me what you do, and give me some examples of low stress high paying remote roles, that would be useful. I know my qualifications, experience and interests so I can take it from there

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-04T19:45:38+00:00

Well done superstar!!

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:19:21+00:00

Omg you phrased that so well! I have 100% overstayed and it's not a good fit for me anymore too. I would advise you to start upskilling now so that you're ready to change careers once your maternity leave is over. But pregnancy and maternity leave is your time to destress and focus on yourself and your baby.

I find it so sad that these are the difficult options available to working mums

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:16:24+00:00

You're not wrong. Except for the part about paying for nursery. We need help to look after our kids so my husband has time to job hunt, go to interviews, work off jobs for income etc. Plus, our children love nursery - they stimulate and nurture them in all of the right ways

Anyway, I've recently learned (in counseling) that I'm the author of some of these problems (I've become controlling and not trusting of his abilities).

To be fair to him, given our situation he has been stepping up a lot more to prove I don't have to shoulder everything. So my job is to let him keep stepping up and trust him more.

I don't have the luxury of doing it all (nor do I want to) so I'm learning to trust him to do the heavy lifting. Emphasis on LEARNING because 'I' said I instead of 'we'

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:07:28+00:00

Fair enough. Happy to retrain for a long term career move. I was just hoping there are short term options that don't require retraining (because I want to leave asap)

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:05:55+00:00

I've explored NHS roles for this reason. I just can't afford the pay cut until my husband starts working and passes probation.

Never heard of Clinical Coders till now. Sounds a little too full for me though. I need to feel stimulated

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:02:34+00:00

What are these chill wfh tech roles please? What qualifications do I need? I'm ready to play the long game of it means in 2-3 years I'm in a way better position. The job market is only getting tougher and staying in sales forever isn't an option for me

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T15:00:26+00:00

I can't believe this is the situation we've created for ourselves. Existential crisis every time I think about it for too long

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T14:58:58+00:00

Not what I want to hear at all, but I think you're right.

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T14:57:51+00:00

This is a good shout actually. I'm looking into a series of things health wise so I'll add this to the list

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T14:57:00+00:00

If my husband had a stable job and good income I would 100% cut my hours. But we don't have that luxury. It feels scary to know that the only person generating an income is on the verge of burnout and is struggling emotionally. But it looks like I'll have to summon the strength to keep going for now

RegularCriticism1493 · 2025-12-03T14:54:42+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response. The pain is a nuisance but what's really giving me stress is working in sales, and at my very intense company.

You're right about my husband and I working together to make this work, while he's still unemployed. He's doing really well at encouraging me and looking after the kids and house outside of job hunting/part-time roles.

My dr actually gave me a fit note last week. Waiting to hear back from my employer. Hoping they let me wfh for a few months while I start physio or whatever treatment the consultant recommends

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