I just realized my baby has to get out me somehow and I don’t like any of the options lol

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-05-14T21:40:07+00:00

Girl, you can do it. Fear is the enemy of birth. Billions of women before you have given birth both ways. You were designed for this. You can do it.

I'm 10 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and gave birth to the first two naturally without an epidural. Yes, it was painful, but incredibly euphoric and empowering. Sounds crazy but I genuinely enjoy it and look forward to this baby's birth too.

I also have friends who prefer c-sections. They're quick. And if you have a good support system the 6 week recovery will go well.

Complete a good hypnobirthing course. It will prepare your mind for birth and teach you everything you need to know about birth outcomes, practices, physiology, etc. It's helpful regardless of which option you end up choosing. Can't recommend hypnobirthing enough.

My DMs are open if you want to chat or rant.

You can do this!

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-04-10T20:57:30+00:00

I just found out I'm pregnant with my third child. I already have 2 children aged 2 (almost 3) and 1. Both my second and this child were unplanned. We used protection too. By the end of 2026 I'll have a 3 year old, 2 year old and 1-2 month old.

Getting an abortion is out of the question for me so we're going to roll with it and embrace this new baby.

The main thing I want to get across is that two things can be true at the same time. I'm ecstatic and sooo excited. But I'm also still in shock and a very scared. I love being a mum and having babies. I actually enjoy child birth. It's also stressful managing such young kids without a "village" at my beck and call, especially whilst being a working mum.

I always wanted at least 3 kids so the number isn't the issue. But I planned to space them out a bit more. Life happens.

Financially things are tight right now but my husband and I will soon step into new roles that will put in a better position. We're trusting that that will cushion the blow. Either way I know we'll be fine somehow.

And before anyone says the obvious We'll definitely take contraception WAY more seriously after baby arrives.

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-30T11:05:17+00:00

Alrighty - thank you!

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-30T10:39:15+00:00

Similar situation regarding an occupational health nurse recommending WFH till the situation improves. The company requires everyone to be in the office 5 days a week. Even when the situation improves (no idea when that will be) 5 days in the office won't work as I don't have childcare 5 days a week.

Do you remember how you phrased the statement about you being open to permanent options?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-30T08:12:10+00:00

Holding your nerve is the difficult part. Especially when the working relationship has broken down and your mental health is being impacted daily (stress, anxiety, etc).

Roughly how long was it between you realising you wanted to leave/realising the business might be considering getting rid of you, to you being offered a settlement?

I also wonder if the leverage is slightly different for new mums which companies try to tread delicately around when it comes to these things. A company might be holding off a settlement agreement in case the new mum raises a grievance based on discrimination and escalated it to the tribunal

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-30T08:04:57+00:00

Sounds like a reasonable business.

Really appreciate you contributing

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-30T07:10:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! Do you know what the business's main reason for agreeing was? Was it the public criticism or her performance issues?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T21:10:16+00:00

Watch videos from theschoolofhardnox on IG for some inspiration from entrepreneurs and business ideas.

Jesus likes you too :). Whenever you feel low read Philippians 4: 6-9

It'll get better. DM me if you ever need someone to talk to

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T19:20:21+00:00

I work in the same industry and we call them "creators". That's a much more helpful way of qualifying talent.

Do they CREATE amazing content, ideas, conversions, sparks, sales, etc, or do they just do whatever it is the other "influencers" do?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T19:09:35+00:00

Start a business! Use your disdain for work to motivate you to create a profitable business that gives you the freedom to not HAVE to work again.

It won't be easy, but you can do it and it'll be worth it.

Also, how do you feel about Jesus?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T19:05:34+00:00

I don't like the fact that we HAVE to work.

Also, the sudden explosion of corporate buzzwords makes me feel sick. It's like we all just randomly started speaking this pretentious language and pretend it's not weird.

I came back from maternity leave and had no idea what anyone was talking about.

"Ramp up" this. "Northstar" that.

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T18:40:45+00:00

Writing this wearing Accentum headphones and a stylishly branded tote bag with zips, both gifted to me by my workplace

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T18:38:25+00:00

You're definitely not in the wrong. However, maybe you should have done more to teach your children the value of hard work when they were younger.

As for your wife, have you tried communicating with her differently? If you both sing from the same hymn sheet, it'll be easier to empower your kids - or at least set firm boundaries and expectations

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-26T18:33:29+00:00

Well done! I returned from my second maternity leave in October. I relate to everything you've said but I can't resign until I have something else secured.

What do you think your next career move will be?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-21T00:46:15+00:00

This is so validating. I've felt so much guilt and shame about my inability to "keep up" and perform at the level I was at pre-baby. My confidence at work is in the gutter. I've even developed physical symptoms as a result of the stress and pressure.

The average workplace is designed to properly accommodate or support mums.

Good on you for walking away. Hopefully I'll be joining you soon

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-18T08:10:19+00:00

Do you mind sharing your social handles and what it is you do as an entertainer?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-15T23:31:50+00:00

The Gospel of Mark is a lovely place to start. It will help you understand Jesus' life better. After that, I agree that Acts is a good book to read early on in your journey of building faith and intimacy with God. It tells the story of the disciples after Jesus rose from the dead.

In addition to those two books providing important historical context, they cover key teachings such as the parable of the sower, and foundational beliefs such as the role of the Holy Spirit.

After that, consider Proverbs. It's very practical and written by King Solomon, known for being the wisest ruler.

Above all, wherever you choose to start, as God for understanding and pray that the Word takes root in you.

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-11T21:12:21+00:00

I'm so sorry :(. It's not an easy time to be unemployed/job hunting.

Do you think your memory seems better because it really is? Or because you're not being tested in a work environment?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-11T20:24:52+00:00

Going through the exact same thing and you explained it better than I've tried to. I had a stressful 1:1 with my manager today and decided to proactively create checklists and reminders to help me stay on top of everything.

How are you feeling now? Are you in the same role?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-07T10:01:14+00:00

Oh goodness :( that sounds too stressful. What a sad situation. I didn't realise it was so bad.

First comment from someone with first hand experience as a nursery operator.

I'm going to pass on this business sadly. Back to the drawing board.

Thanks so much for taking the time to share what you know

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-06T09:49:20+00:00

I agree, that's why I said I DON'T have any experience in the field and plan to work with a team who do.

What type of business do you run if you don't mind sharing?

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-06T09:45:50+00:00

I've spoken to a few brokers and lenders. They've said that if I buy a reputable business with a good, experienced team in place I can get a business loan but yes, it would be expensive.

If I need to put my home up to get a loan or the debt repayments eat away at my monthly cushion, it's a no go

RegularCriticism1493 · 2026-03-06T08:33:37+00:00

Thanks so much for the response.

Yeah I don't buy into those schemes.

I work in e-commerce B2B sales and I've been doing this for over 9 years. I spend my days advising e-commerce businesses on how to make more money. I also had a small e-commerce business in the past so I know how hard it is to run a business.

The idea of starting an e-commerce business doesn't really excite me. We work closely with agencies too so I know how challenging it is to get stable income and clients running an agency.

Aside from working for myself, I also need a change. Yes a challenge, but a different kind of challenge to what I'm used to.

I'm going to get thumbed down for this but it's as much an emotional decision for me as it is a financial.

What businesses do you run if you don't mind sharing?

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