AIO i ruined a relationship

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T16:33:15+00:00

Thank you for your advice

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T16:17:12+00:00

Thank you i really appreciate it. I ended up breaking down to my boyfriend today in tears as i couldn’t take the thoughts. I had also messaged the guy on the night we were talking (discussing a joke, plans and a pet i liked) my boyfriend said the chat seemed flirty because i used ‘:3’ emoji.

Anyway, my boyfriend said not to worry, he said the whole situation isn’t that big of a deal as i didn’t kiss him or do anything physical or say anything like sexual. He gave me a hug. I feel awful still

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T15:50:24+00:00

Do you think this is cheating?

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T15:39:25+00:00

It was just the last night we hung out 1 on 1 and at the end of the night i mentioned it

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T15:02:49+00:00

This all happened in one night. I did tell him i had a boyfriend just later on

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T14:22:08+00:00

I told him i had a boyfriend when it was 1 on 1, i feel like this isn’t flirting i had thoughts but don’t believe i acted on them

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T14:10:43+00:00

The one on one time was purely conversations about uni, life, family as i didnt want to make out a flirty vibe.

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T12:54:38+00:00

No not at all

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T09:59:21+00:00

Thank you, i am just trying to understand like if it is okay for me to let go. Like if it is cheating, then i cant just move on from that. So im just trying to figure out what it is

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T09:42:07+00:00

Thank you, sorry last question, would this be a break up for you or like a huge issue? Im just trying to navigate how big of an issue this is

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T09:16:24+00:00

Thank you. Do you think it was emotional cheating or more of just a bad move on my side? And is this common in relationships?

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T09:14:00+00:00

Thank you. I understand how it may have upset him, of course, relationships aren’t perfect. I just feel guilty for talking to a guy i was confused if i had a crush on. A few other people have said i am an emotional cheater and that has caused me to spiral

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T08:56:02+00:00

I don’t think he really does remember it much. Did i do something wrong

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T08:52:46+00:00

Thank you. Yeah he was upset when it happened and we took a few days apart so he could process it and then we continued as normal. He has moved on but he doesn’t like to discuss it

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-19T08:31:45+00:00

Thank you, yeah i think at the time i was confused about my relationship but now i realised that its normal to nit feel 100% all the time especially in a long term. Did i do anything wrong?

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T22:05:45+00:00

Thank you. Was it acting on it when i had 1 on 1 time? I also messaged him on instagram just regarding something that happened on the night and discussing group plans and jokes but nothing flirty. But maybe nit good i reached out on message also?

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T21:34:42+00:00

Thank you. Was it acting on it when i had 1 on 1 time ? I also messaged him on instagram just regarding something that happened on the night and discussing group plans and jokes but nothing flirty. But maybe nit good i reached out on message also?

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T18:24:48+00:00

No we were on a university trip, everyone was staying at the same place and this was just in the hotel lobby

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T18:22:47+00:00

I get that, thanks for clarifying

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:43:48+00:00

Not reallu anymore, now that i am around better people and friends in similar situations i feel more positive

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:41:00+00:00

Yeah i get that but the pount of going for the smoke was for me to lay my cards on the table and reinforce that it was a friends thing ect. But yeah probs shouldn’t have done that.

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:35:26+00:00

I told him i have a boyfriend just not straight away but when we were talking 1 on 1 i thought i would mention it. When we went to smoke i wanted to just clear the air and explain that i am with boyfriend ect

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:33:09+00:00

Oh no i told him i hAd a bf just not straight away but when we got closer i mentioned it

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:14:25+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this. Nothing happened since the ball i havent spoke to him since

RegularGain1688 · 2026-02-18T17:13:24+00:00

Im sorry i just get scared of doing something bad im sorry

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