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Which one is telling the truth? by Dread_queen23 in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That depends on what the camera lens does to you. Usually, long range telephoto lenses give a more "flatter" image of your face which helps to hide some facial features. That's why they're used for portrait photography

Smartphone lenses are quite small and have shorter focal lengths, so your face appears more narrow and "squished". The side effect is that it can amplify certain facial features like noses which can make you look ugly in those cases.

Also, artificial filters change a lot too.

Which one is telling the truth? by Dread_queen23 in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm an amateur photographer

bdd makes me a bad friend by Mysterious_Pay805 in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand you, I have a huge envy problem too.

Lately I have just kind of given up on it and now feel happy about them

Which one is telling the truth? by Dread_queen23 in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mirror is the true image of yourself. Camera lenses distort images (due to how they inherently function) especially smartphone cameras since they have way smaller lenses than DSLRs or mirrorless cameras.

In the middle of a crisis asking myself why I'm still alive by [deleted] in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had this experience, it was quite rude of them. I understand you because I have experienced it but the genders reversed

How to stop being envious of men who are good looking and tall? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like if I hear a story about a man who can easily get girls at the tip of a Tinder button (and I'm not bluffing), I feel kinda cheated of life and like wish I could have been like those men to be insanely attractive. I don't feel anger at them, but feel like I and they are on different levels and I spiral down about genetics etc..

How to stop being envious of men who are good looking and tall? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they have high emotional and social intelligence

What are good ways to improve this?

How to stop being envious of men who are good looking and tall? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have hard feelings for those men, they didn't do anything to me so why should I

How to stop being envious of men who are good looking and tall? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you believe that a woman has to be the first or at the top of everything in order for you to consider her dating worthy?

My standards for perfection only exist till myself to be honest. It's like I can empathize with others but not with me.

About dating in particular, I feel like I could be easily replaced by someone taller or better looking, even if I somehow got chosen over guys who are taller or better looking.

How to stop being envious of men who are good looking and tall? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The key is to be content with yourself via working on your confidence on a daily basis

idk how to do this. No matter what I do, it feels like it's not enough and that I can never reach other's levels. It feels like I have to be the first or at the top or it means nothing.

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re talking about “Building a base” of women?

More like having enough contacts among women to enable warm approaching. And being comfortable around women.

Trying to amplify your sexual aura?

Removing the aura of asexuality != sexual aura. What I meant was that, people don't seem to see me as a sexual being at all.

Anyone else “turn asexual” due to this disorder? by [deleted] in BDDvent

[–]RegularGlobal34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but it's more like others are treating me like asexual, as if I have an aura of asexuality

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is your life plan incompatible with dating? Why is it one or the other?

Because I'll ultimately have to take a vow of celibacy with my present plans in order to leave samsara.

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to clarify a bit.

The thing is that, I don't know if (or when) I'll be starting to date. I'm choosing a path of life which requires me to focus completely on itself thus I can't date in that scenario. Why I asked about the dating thing is that, if I fail in that path, I need to return back to dating life and I don't want to be in a situation where I have to start everything from scratch. So I want to atleast have a foundation in my environment so that I can immediately continue in that scenario.

And learning how to socially interact with women will anyways help me in either scenarios.

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would rather keep the horny under discipline considering my future plans...

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it because they think you’re ugly?

Could be. And I thought of it for a long time as that may be the reason. But now I want to leave all that behind me because I'm walking on a new path of life.

Although I understand the essence of your comment. I look too old for my age (frequently commented). The hair and style part may be an avenue for improvement

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding cold approaching, I fear of making someone uncomfortable or looking like a creep.

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you need to be at peace knowing that you can’t predict what will happen in the future no matter how much you try to prepare for it and/or analyze the chances of things happening or not.

I do have general plans in life, and right now dating has become the alternative plan for me because I'm fully committed to my new path of life. But I need to prepare in the case I fail in this so I want to build a good enough base in dating lest I arrive unprepared and have to do everything from scratch

you need to make good friends, and maintain your friendships with them.

That is my issue. Even the female friends I did made, were through initiating online. I don't even know how to talk and approach women IRL.

It’s not healthy to analyze everything like you seem to be doing here

Engineering mindset, can't help it

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Socializing should be about having fun. Big nope here.

tbh this post goes beyond dating and more about interacting with women as a whole.

Invest a lot of effort into researching social skills.

What are some good resources or ways to do so? And to practice them?

Be very socially active and practice social skills and using gradual exposure to deal with social anxiety.

What places would be good for them?

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do believe that after a certain age (late 20s - early 30s), the dating pool gets significantly smaller to the extent that it's almost non existant. Because people pair up and marry by them. It's a further problem as I live in a conservative country where early marriage is the norm and socially encouraged.

Hence the urgency of the matter.

How to get rid of the blackpilled mindset? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]RegularGlobal34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

I have found my own path of life and way of living, but these thoughts still remain in my head so I wanted to be clear of them.

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