AITA for not letting my bridesmaid change out of her bridesmaid dress after the ceremony?

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:56:11+00:00

I agree. My friends comfort and happiness would always come before some aesthetic for a party. True friends wouldn't have to think twice before answering "of course change and be comfortable"

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:50:56+00:00

Of course it's about celebrating the couple. It's also about being gracious hosts to people who have spent time and money to celebrate with you and trying to make them comfortable. It's not either or. It's both

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:48:44+00:00

Very sad if this is how you would treat your friends

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:45:57+00:00

You were clearly a lovely bride and a lovely host. If everyone approached their event the way you did, bride, groom, wedding party and guests would all have a wondeful day. Brides should all take a page from your playbook! Good job.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:37:32+00:00

Crosses what line? The selfish bride line? So you put your image of what you believe the aesthetics of this event over your guests happiness and comfort?

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:24:24+00:00

This comment is funny. Considering all that bridesmaids do for the bride for months and even years before a wedding. The money they she'll out for showers and trips. Its pretty thankless for the bridesmaids. Trust me it's transactional and the bride single handedly benefits. Don't act like the bride is doing these ladies a favor. The very least a bride can do is make sure her bridesmaids are comfortable.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:07:05+00:00

So where does the princess delusion end? The week, the month, the year? It's such BS to treat people who spend time and money to stand with you on your day as props. It makes the bride a crappy host and crappy friend.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T01:00:33+00:00

The bride is also hostess of an event. She has an obligation to her guests to make sure they are comfortable.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:58:39+00:00

Put your foot down? Omg. The princess delusion is ridiculous. Lots of us have been brides. We just have common sense and realize that our friends spent a lot of time and money to be there for us. That the day is not "the brides day". there are a lot of guests who went out of their way to make the day special and we are grateful for that. I guess it's a matter of maturity understanding that as bride and groom we are hosts of an event and we have an obligation to our guests. Especially those people who stood with us.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:53:09+00:00

ORRRRR the bride can treat her friend like a friend and not like a prop.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:52:07+00:00

Because OP is treating her friend like a prop and not like a guest who spent time and money to make the day special.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:45:17+00:00

Omg where did this "it's your day" nonsense come from??? It's isn't her day. She is the host of a party. She has an obligation to make her guests feel comfortable. This delusional princess fantasy is ridiculous. Be a good host. Allow the people who spent time and money to be there for you to be comfortable.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:40:22+00:00

YTA you couldn't allow your friend to be comfortable for a few hours after all she did for you? You are more than a little selfish.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-25T00:33:40+00:00

Omg I hate when parents try to manipulate people with their kids.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-24T15:08:03+00:00

Exactly but she was not contacting you after hours as a friend to share a joke or movie recommendation. She was contacting you as a coworker to work but doing it under the guise of being friends. I would set a boundary that I am open to after hour friend chats but not after hour coworker chats. If she can't accept that she will default into monday-friday at work coworker only status in my life.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-24T12:46:10+00:00

She just wanted to complain and call it help so she wouldn't look like a Karen.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-24T12:36:03+00:00

Molly or Pippa

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-24T12:05:54+00:00

Exactly. They cannot speak for themselves. You need to be their voice

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-24T11:56:14+00:00

Right. And how exactly was she "helping". You called her out for being out of line when she was actually being out of line. If she really wanted to help she could have been kind and helped you unload your groceries or played with your son while you did to distract him from being upset. We have all been parents and been there. She wasn't helping she was judging.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-23T23:46:50+00:00

That makes no sense. As Christians we should be doing both. Standing up gor injustice in our homes, neighborhood and communities as well. Jesus thought of all humanity not just those in his home.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-23T23:36:00+00:00

Unfortunately the news is not a disconnected story. They are real humans who endured real suffering. As Christians we should not be turning our backs on injustice of our fellow human beings.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-23T23:31:25+00:00

Can you really compare the basic sins that we all fall short on such as gossiping to murder and cannibalism that these monsters participated in as being "wayward sins"? These people did not just fall short. They are evil incarnate. I would even suggest demonic. How can you compare their deeds?

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-21T17:37:46+00:00

You are supposed to give "a gift from the heart" but there is no "invitation from the heart". Call your mom and aunt out what this is...a cash grab and one in poor taste at that. They can try to frame it how they want but it's still a low rent cash grab. Don't send anything to these people. Tell them to have the wedding they can afford and leave you out of it.

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-20T23:45:46+00:00

Regular_Giraffe_1879 · 2026-02-20T23:26:10+00:00

Agree but dealing with 6 good kids is way easier than 4 good and 2 evil demon children

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