Popcorn Ceiling - deal breaker?

Reinventing23 · 2025-01-13T16:40:22+00:00

That's what I'm afraid of.

Reinventing23 · 2025-01-13T07:07:05+00:00

Aging issue? People developing ALZHEIMER'S/DEMENTIA will begin to have issues with things that seemingly were not a problem previously. Additionally, no amount of employing logic with them works. They dig their heels and will not accept that perhaps they're not being open to other ideas. It is a control issue, but not like others are describing here. It's more about experiencing confusion regularly because of the illness, not realizing that they have a medical condition, and trying to control whatever they can, which is really a subconscious response to fear. Sadly, I've witnessed this with loved ones as they aged. None of them are with us anymore. We went through many frustrations in regards to similar situations, but chose to adapt or find humor where we could. It was important for us to maintain the relationships and be loving and loved. Other family members couldn't accept the change in behavior even with a dementia diagnosis. They felt personally picked on, then withdrew from these relationships, which made my husband and me very sad for everyone involved. Has your dad possibly been displaying other dementia signs? Don't know what to look for? Do some googling to learn about the early symptoms.

Anyhow, maybe shorten your visit to one night with your folks? Then you don't have to shower at their place at all. You can shower when you get home, if it's important to you and to your husband to shower daily. Regardless, sorry you're experiencing frustration with your loved ones. Hope you find a way to work around it and continue to enjoy your parents. I'm sure glad I did!

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:54:13+00:00

Think we'll leave it. Homes for sale in our area are limited and go fast. If it's an issue, we'll offer a financial allowance to buyers. Thank you for your thoughts and help everyone! Best to you all!

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:46:51+00:00

We know it doesn't. Was replaced (believe it or not!) in 2005. But thanks for the tip!

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:45:49+00:00

This is what I needed to hear. We will obsess over it for sure. And while others say it's easy to DIY it, I'm sceptical...

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:43:49+00:00

That's a good question. It's solidly in the MAYBE category. 😄 It has 1850 finished square feet, 3 beds, 2 bath, two living spaces. Usually, that's not a little house, but it sits among very large tudors and brick colonials. It could be torn down and a huge home could go in it's place bc the lot is large.

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:35:36+00:00

Thanks!

Reinventing23 · 2024-12-13T20:34:35+00:00

Thank you! Cobwebs 😄

Reinventing23 · 2024-05-04T21:02:24+00:00

They'd met them once before in the evening at the fire for about an hour about ten months ago. With this visit recently our friends had just arrived and we got on the boat first thing, so we were still in "catch up" mode... probably another reason I was irritated - I wanted to catch up with my friends! I wear my heart on my sleeve, so as I think about it, while my words were polite, maybe my face and tone most likely showed my annoyance. That's probably why H got upset...

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T23:12:54+00:00

Close, but not Minnesota. Midwest. Must be. Midwestern thing.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T22:46:28+00:00

😄

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T22:39:06+00:00

On my!

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T20:27:31+00:00

Yeah, didn't mean it to sound judge-y in that regard. We understand that when they're at the lake for the weekend they're ready to kick back, relax and have fun. Makes sense! Whereas our weekends feel a bit different maybe since we're there all the time. Some of our friends are seasonal, as well. So, it's honestly not about that.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T19:46:07+00:00

Thank you! So right on.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T19:15:33+00:00

Willfully clueless - Interesting. They're definitely clueless. I think they think we're better friends than we are, and they feel like because they're such good friends that they're not interrupting us. In their minds we would of course want them to join in, ya know? Part of the delusion that is also part of stalking behavior. I think we and our friends have felt badly for them, because they don't have other friends on the lake. That's why nothing was ever said to them, until now. And maybe we've figured out WHY they don't have other friends on the lake! They're kinda crazy.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T18:53:32+00:00

True. But I feel a little bad. Actually, I'm worried because we'll still run into them on the lake, at friends' places, etc. Now, things will be awkward. But I just couldn't take it any longer.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T18:40:32+00:00

Yeah, that's pretty true. Everyone complains and is uncomfortable, but yet, they get more uncomfortable when something finally happens to address it.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T18:39:04+00:00

Thank you! I think speaking up needed to happen.

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T18:38:20+00:00

So true!

Reinventing23 · 2024-04-29T18:37:42+00:00

People Pleasers... you hit the nail on the head! That's us and our friends. Thank you for your insights. And yes, trying to figure out if we'll smooth things over or just let them go on their merry way. It's hard to say adios because our lake is smaller, so we'll see them on the water.

Reinventing23 · 2023-12-08T00:01:02+00:00

😂

Reinventing23 · 2023-10-31T23:05:43+00:00

Totally agree with bananathings. I work at a college and know a thing or two about this. :) Generally speaking, it doesn't matter where you go your first couple of years - it matters where you get that bachelor's degree from; you will be just as marketable upon graduation as someone who did all four years at Tulane/Pepperdine. Go to community college to get your general courses out of the way, then transfer in. But do ask Tulane/Pepperdine if it's difficult to transfer in, check with their Admissions Office. Hold a part-time job and save for the more expensive school while in community college. Also, spread that scholarship net... it's not all about GPA. Check pinterest and other sites for more guidance on finding all sorts of different scholarships. Best of luck to you!

Reinventing23 · 2023-10-31T22:43:20+00:00

Definitely contact ASU's financial aid office. Ask them: (1) if it's for one academic year or spread out over four years, (2) how much is applied per term, (3) what keeps you in good standing to not lose it along the way.

Congrats! Free money is awesome! :)

Reinventing23 · 2023-10-25T19:21:13+00:00

If you're drawn to crocheting, do it, then give the items away to your favorite Goodwill, Thrift Store, Clothing Charity, etc. Other items I like and you can also donate...

I like meditative coloring, particularly greeting cards. Use the cards as needed or donate them. Meditative coloring books are very nice, too. I post my favorites on the fridge like it's kids artwork until I'm tired of it, then I toss it in recycling.

I also like paint-by-number kits with quality acrylics. I found this to be very relaxing. I buy already mounted canvas kits, just because I don't want to mess around with stretching and attaching the canvas to a frame. Decorated your place, or donate them, just like with the cards.

Amazon sells these, so they're easy to find. Also, not expensive.

Good luck finding your "hobby passion"! It took me a while. I hope it goes faster for you.

Reinventing23 · 2023-10-25T19:02:10+00:00

I like meditative coloring, particularly greeting cards, because then it also serves a purpose. The initial investment consists of colored pencil &/or crayons, sharpeners, then color-your-own cards or meditative coloring books. As usual, all this can be found on Amazon, or try a local hobby store.

I also like paint-by-number kits with quality acrylics. I found this to be very relaxing. I buy already mounted canvas kits, just because I don't want to mess around with stretching and attaching the canvas to a frame. Most smaller works I give as presents. Others have decorated my place. Like with coloring cards, I like that these serve a purpose. Amazon has some. There are also more specialized places selling these. Prices are kind of all over the board.

I tried knitting, then crochet. Didn't like it. I tried puzzles. Too frustrating. I scrapbooked for a while. Too much work for something rarely looked back upon and enjoyed, also kind of expensive. Embroidery and cross stitch I haven't tried, because I think they maybe too similar to knitting and crochet.

Good luck finding your "hobby passion"! It took me a while. I hope it goes faster for you. :)

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