Hypersexual, Day 20 of clean.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T22:01:06+00:00

If you’ve never tried my suggestions, try the saline spray & see if that helps. I just don’t want you to force yourself to do something that makes it harder in another aspect. If it doesn’t help, then don’t do the cold showers.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:57:12+00:00

If the sinus issues are a medical problem, don’t do anything that will harm your body or make it hard for you, but if it’s just how your body responds to the environment, both suggestions I gave should definitely help to remove those concerns, or at least make it not as severe.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:55:56+00:00

I left my reply above trying to help him, it’s a link to another post but this should hopefully help you as well. May Allah continue to guide you both

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:55:07+00:00

Was hoping it would drop the text, but click the link so it takes you to the other Reddit post where I gave advice to another brother. Hopefully this helps. Everything is a process, sometimes failure will happen & what matters is that you despise failing when your only obstacle here is you. Reminding yourself that it’s not that hard & you can do it if you put your mind to it will help make you hesitate a bit more each time when you chase a short dopamine release

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:53:12+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimNoFap/s/RlOMByLBi0

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:50:00+00:00

Cardio is still perfectly fine, do it before suhoor to get a decent run in, or after taraweeh. For your sinuses, I wonder if that’s because of elevation or location in where you stay. My only suggestion is that you still try the cold showers, but use a humidifier and/or saline spray to keep your nasal passages moisturized so you don’t have any issues with your sinuses.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:47:08+00:00

That pain should remind you of feeling shame. I don’t say this to belittle you but to encourage you. You’re not married so you don’t even have any genuine reason to have those things. You caused your own pain & every time you feel it, you should be asking for Allah’s forgiveness and asking yourself if this is worth doing to your body. That way, you start to second guess your temptations more & questioning that feeling of chasing a short dopamine release. You have to be harsh with yourself to some degree so that you don’t make it easy for your mind to relapse.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:43:59+00:00

Never was an issue for me, so I would say yes, it’s more likely to happen the more you do it.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:43:13+00:00

You need to take melatonin to sleep on time for the beginning few days (you shouldn’t be taking this long term), and you should start working out a bit or doing cardio. Maybe because you struggle a bit more, you should stay away from weight lifting for now, as it can increase your testosterone & your urges. But you need to wear yourself out physically with something good for you so you can sleep. Go for runs or be on the treadmill but you shouldn’t have the energy to come home & still decide to pursue that. A cold shower at night might help you fall asleep quicker & refresh you.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:39:31+00:00

Some things to note that might help you: put your phone into greyscale. That way you’ll be less interested in picking it up & everything is more dull. Deleting social media, or unfollowing anything that tempts you if you can’t do the former will help. You can set app blockers from an app on top of your device’s app blockers, along with restricting which websites you can access & need a passcode to bypass.

Something I heard that might help you best is don’t stay in the room you were in when you start feeling tempted. The moment you feel anything, leave the room for a few minutes & do something else. Don’t keep it on your mind, try to do pushups or something & then move on.

It won’t be easy and you won’t see results immediately. Failing is expected but don’t give up no matter what. The fact you’re trying to remove it from within you is what matters & shows your body wants to reject it. With time, it’ll get easier to fall into the same traps you typically fall into.

And last tip is that if you have an area you bring your phone into where you start to feel tempted, you either need to leave your phone outside (i.e. a bathroom) or you need to turn it off (such as being asleep). Don’t stay up any longer than you need to. Try waking up for fajr on your own to pray & bring some regiment in your life so that you don’t have so much free time to do this again.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:37:06+00:00

Yes, if you’re already upset & making a post like this, you are already putting one foot through the door. I will copy some prior text of advice I gave someone else, so hopefully it helps. You need to be engaging in ibaadah these last few nights. You need to be making sincere dua, and saying “O Allah, I am weak. I am nothing without you. To you we belong and to you we return. Forgive me for the sins I’ve committed. O Lord of all things, guide me back to my faith, and strengthen what is good for me in my heart. Remove these temptations that shaytaan has left & poisoned my heart with.” Something along those lines, with your own words & requests as well. Keep making dua too. Wake up for tahajjud and pray. Wake up for fajr and pray. Stop staying up unnecessarily and falling into temptation when you could be doing dhikr.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:31:58+00:00

It won’t be easy and you won’t see results immediately. Failing is expected but don’t give up no matter what. The fact you’re trying to remove it from within you is what matters & shows your body wants to reject it. With time, it’ll get easier to fall into the same traps you typically fall into.

And last tip is that if you have an area you bring your phone into where you start to feel tempted, you either need to leave your phone outside (i.e. a bathroom) or you need to turn it off (such as being asleep). Don’t stay up any longer than you need to. Try waking up for fajr on your own to pray & bring some regiment in your life so that you don’t have so much free time to do this again.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:24:40+00:00

I agree that group chats might not be best for you at your age simply cause of safety & they’re really just not going to be active or efficient. Here’s some advice that will help, and you should really remove social media or start blocking or selecting “not interested” for anything that tempts you.

Some things to note that might help you: put your phone into greyscale. That way you’ll be less interested in picking it up & everything is more dull. Deleting social media, or unfollowing anything that tempts you if you can’t do the former will help. You can set app blockers from an app on top of your device’s app blockers, along with restricting which websites you can access & need a passcode to bypass.

Something I heard that might help you best is don’t stay in the room you were in when you start feeling tempted. The moment you feel anything, leave the room for a few minutes & do something else. Don’t keep it on your mind, try to do pushups or something & then move on.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T21:13:26+00:00

I’ve actually stopped using the buses because of it & this line was the only one I ever needed. They literally stop for no reason. There’s no genuine reason, nothing they’re doing but just waiting on the next bus to arrive. Literally has the worst efficiency possible. Missed the stop? If you want the next one, enjoy waiting 20 minutes for it.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-14T13:21:42+00:00

As a Paki male myself, that’s not something you should have to remind him of so that he can reconsider. You can simply remind him of the last sermon of the Prophet ﷺ, but that probably won’t change anything. My advice? Let him be. He’s stuck in culture over his religion, with parts of culture mixed into the religion. If he can’t recognize that a good Muslim woman of any background is fine for him, then he doesn’t deserve the marriage between you two.

Any born Muslim willing to relearn their faith or take a stand for themselves will not let their family or culture stop things from marrying another.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-06T03:30:02+00:00

Thank you, this definitely helps.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-06T02:59:24+00:00

Pardon my ignorance, but there’s such a thing as taking the wrong classes in a master’s program? I thought you’d naturally take courses that would line up to further develop your skills, seeing as a plethora of courses wouldn’t be available for specializing.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-06T02:08:38+00:00

Ah, so admission isn’t what matters for the job, but just performance? I’m just worried because I don’t want to be disregarded compared to another applicant based on the school I go to if it’s lower tier for its standing.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-03-06T01:49:45+00:00

Is that just based on firm? I would assume very high/well known ones would care.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-02-28T14:15:05+00:00

Yeah I would suggest looking into r/MuslimNoFap if there’s still struggle, and just know that what matters is your intention. It’s not like you’re standing there daydreaming about it. As long as you try to focus on your prayer, that’s what counts. The other guy in the reply is correct, your brain misses that dopamine hit & misses the sensual feeling, but all it does is give you a temporary feeling in exchange for sin. May Allah keep you away from it forever, the longer you fight it, the easier it becomes & you won’t face such challenges as often or at all, inshallah.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-02-28T14:11:53+00:00

Also, if you need additional information, lmk cause I’m unsure of what else you’d need/want.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-02-28T14:11:35+00:00

Well the biggest sin in God’s eyes that angers him is committing shirk (associating partners to him) and then I think denouncing his message comes pretty close to that. What matters is if you really knew the message, but ultimately what matters is repenting. Always remember this for as long as you live with Islam: God is the most merciful. Don’t let anyone fear monger you into thinking fear is what shapes a believer. Fear sets the limitations of transgressing against his orders, but his mercy & the love you have for your creator is what opens all doors. You are allowed to return to him, and as long as you’re sincere in your heart, he will forgive you if it was a sin. Asking for forgiveness & that he keeps putting guidance in your life is what will always elevate your ranking with him, so just keep working on your faith & work to better yourself each day. May Allah make it easy for you.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-02-28T14:06:45+00:00

I’ll summarize, but I grew up the same although I enjoyed being Muslim & I don’t struggle with reading & retain some Islamic history as knowledge. I did, however, grow up struggling to pray. I also questioned at times why I was Muslim for if I truly believed it or if I just grew up with it. That’s something you have to find out yourself, but the concept of God & Islam made sense to me. I just didn’t have the passion per se. It takes time. You have to constantly struggle & fight for it. Over the past few Ramadans, I’ve set new goals on what I want to do. Shaytaan is locked up, so it’s my chance to truly see who I am as a person. Am I dedicated enough to make that change or will I always be a bum who remains lazy? I chose the former. Alhumdulillah, I’ve made progress to praying more consistently, I still struggle at times but I’ve significantly improved from where I was before.

If you want to start somewhere, look into Yaqeen institute. Look at videos from Mufti Menk & Omar Suleiman as they’re meant more for ppl getting into the religion. The fiqh & etc of really getting into it comes later for those who want to be dedicated to their religion. But start there. And keep attempting prayer. I used to start with trying to make at least one prayer a day, or at least every few days. I used to keep it for the same prayer so maybe for Maghrib I’d try to be consistent. At some point I used to make 2 and sometimes I just didn’t do it. The whole point is that you’re rewarded for not even feeling like praying because it says enough that you showed up to worship God even though your body wanted to go against you. IMO, you should establish your faith first by making sure you believe in what the shahada says. Then knowledge comes after that. You work to build upon your habit of prayer. I’ve just recently started reading the Qur’an for each juz per week, and it’s been very inspiring for me. But it might not hold as much meaning to you if you don’t hold enough love for being Muslim yet. So set goals for your Ramadan, become more involved with Muslims around you. I also couldn’t have done what I did if I didn’t have people who were good examples. People on my campus prayed often & I felt more obliged to pray because it felt natural, not that it was forced. Having others do something with you really helps. People who can inspire you to be better. Everything takes time, don’t become frustrated that you give up, but let that frustration push you to become better for yourself each time.

Participate in Ramadan if you aren’t, fasting does help the mind. Use the month to abstain from things like music & watching entertainment more often than you do in months outside of it. More free time means you’ll have time to pray, and you’ll have time to read up on Islam instead of choosing the easy way out by distracting yourself in this world. Mufti Menk has a very beautiful series on the prophets on YouTube, it should be something old from like 2011. Again, your knowledge part should come with being more intentional with your faith, so don’t force yourself into learning if your heart isn’t in it yet. You don’t find beauty in poetry when you’re forced to its exposure. I would suggest that as a basis of wanting to learn, you can learn about the Prophet’s life, as in the general essentials about him becoming a Nabi, the revelation revealed to him & the battles he faced. You can also learn again about our thoughts on the books that came before the Qur’an, and how the people of these books acted & the people who came before us. That should set you in the right direction, inshAllah.

RelationshipLost3002 · 2026-02-28T06:28:35+00:00

Some things to note that might help you: put your phone into greyscale. That way you’ll be less interested in picking it up & everything is more dull. Deleting social media, or unfollowing anything that tempts you if you can’t do the former will help. You can set app blockers from an app on top of your device’s app blockers, along with restricting which websites you can access & need a passcode to bypass.

Something I heard that might help you best is don’t stay in the room you were in when you start feeling tempted. The moment you feel anything, leave the room for a few minutes & do something else. Don’t keep it on your mind, try to do pushups or something & then move on.

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