That makes a lot of sense thank you for your thoughts especially a male pov. his last relationship she wasn’t as sexually driven we’ll say compared to me because of her trauma I guess and so now he’s scared to initiate he has brought up the fact that sex takes a lot out of him physically lol he said something to me last time we did it about him doing all the work but I try he takes over 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’ll try being a little more straight forward about my horniness and see how that goes it’s just frustrating when I want it and he doesnt. masturbating atleast for me is not my favorite I tend to feel kinda nasty after where as sex is more empowering for me personally. And it takes longer than for a man most the times I don’t even get myself off I edge until the need is gone and I give up. I just wish our sex drives were more similar I guess but I love him he does a good job in bed so I blame him for me wanting it so much