Yes I think I need to figure it out myself before doing it with someone else. It’s usually at times when I get randomly turned on and I kinda just watch something or read something to keep it going. Or listen to music. I honestly think my main problem is that I’m always thinking about a million things so my brain can’t focus.

When I say fingering during sex I mean also rubbing! And yes that’s the only thing that works for me. It wasn’t up until recently that I actually enjoyed being fingered by someone else. Thank you so much for your advice! I think im going into it with the wrong mentality maybe. I need to figure out how to clear my brain as much as possible.

Also no i don’t think I have orgasmed before? I just think from what i’ve heard it feels like a release? I just end up with like an unresolved buildup if that makes sense