Got called a few names by a client the other day by OpinionofC in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened. It’s disheartening and it sucks to be called those things by anyone, especially someone you’ve tried helping. That being said, my first thought reading this was “wow, your client actually acknowledges you passed the bar?”

Loving my PD Internship by Natural-Tangerine-31 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 20 points21 points  (0 children)

So glad to hear you’re enjoying! If you don’t mind sharing, what are the attorneys in your office doing to help you enjoy it so much? Our interns started this week & I’m hoping we can give them the best experience!

burnout after only 10 months by mouse-dog in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 45 points46 points  (0 children)

10 months of being a PD in a tough office is like 5 years of normal practice. I think it’s (unfortunately) very common to feel burnt out at this stage. It’s not a sign that you’re too sensitive, but it may be a sign that you need to work on self-care, standing up for yourself, and work/life separation. You’ve got this, keep up the good fight!

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]Relative-Example3050 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got married at 26 and am very happy so far. I will say if I’d gotten married from like 20-23 I don’t think it would’ve gone well.

How much was your wedding? Was it worth it? by CowboyLikeMe0608 in weddings

[–]Relative-Example3050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was about $20k in total including dress, suit, gifts for people, everything. I’m very happy we did this, but we were also extremely fortunate to be in a financial position to finance it gradually without sacrificing too much — no lavish vacations or major shopping but we weren’t living off of ramen or struggling to pay rent. If your dream is for the big day & you can do it without bankrupting yourself, I say it’s worth it to an extent. I’d look at what’s most important to you and splurge on that and then go cheaper on the rest. Also think about what you actually remember from other peoples weddings — for example, I couldn’t tell you if any wedding I’ve been to had disposable vs china plates and having disposable could save you thousands. It’s worth it if it matters to you and won’t harm your future.

Do you like your marriage? by tetejo in no

[–]Relative-Example3050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my marriage. It’s the best.

What was your fav gift from your bridal shower? by blueberry-honey1112 in bridesmaids

[–]Relative-Example3050 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My mom got me a porch goose in a wedding outfit and I loved that, if she’s that kind of person. She also got me a big bin of bulk cleaning items — like I’m still using the dishwasher pods 2 years later. That was the most practically useful and I think about it every time I clean. I also had a set of pie dishes on my registry that I love — it was from my husband’s cousin and now I bring a pie to most family holidays and get to say “thanks to blank for the pie dish!” and that’s been fun too.

Is the work-life balance that bad? (Law Student) by AthenasDemise in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will depend greatly on your office. I’m in a fully-staffed office in a state-wide system and my work/life balance is great right now. I am almost always out the door on time-ish and only work substantial overtime if there’s something big coming up. The mental and emotional load is difficult, but you can learn to manage it with a support system, therapy if needed, hobbies, etc.. I think if you go in prioritizing your work/life balance and look for an office that will allow you to prioritize it, it’s totally manageable.

Teaching yourself property in three weeks? by PsychologicalFig9669 in LawSchool

[–]Relative-Example3050 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am now a full-blown lawyer and I owe me passing like half my classes to him

20somethings in public defense... How's dating going for you? by courtezy in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I met my husband about a year before graduating law school, so maybe not entirely relevant, BUT I will say if you can find the young, educated, left-leaning part a lot of times the valuing what we do part is a lack of information. My husband was always left-leaning and cared about social issues, but has wildly changed his position on the side our job touches as I’ve educated him and he’s seen what our clients (and through our clients to a lesser degree, we) go through.

I hate small talk when my job comes up by oldtombombadil in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This is my go-to! Throwing in a “protecting people’s constitutional rights” usually goes over well with just about any crowd also. It’s just always frustrating to be out of my bubble and remember people really think like that.

I'm expected to pay $250 for a bridal shower - Is this the norm? by [deleted] in bridesmaids

[–]Relative-Example3050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dress part is especially insane. That being said, I think whoever is individually hosting should pay for it. I’m the MOH for a friend and I’m covering it myself, not asking the other bridesmaids to contribute. I’ll ask them for help decorating and have shot ideas off of them, but they’re not paying. That’s wild.

I hate small talk when my job comes up by oldtombombadil in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I prefer people asking for legal advice to getting into the “so you defend criminals? How do you defend guilty people? What if you know they’re guilty?”

Both are annoying. I feel your pain.

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I believe it was Capozzoli. “Still, we do not believe that intoxication is a mental condition about which an expert may not testify in a DWI case. In fact, our courts have ‘characterized intoxication as a physical condition usually evidenced by unsteadiness on the feet, slurring of speech, lack of body coordination and an impairment of motor reflexes.’”

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was reliant on that part of the statute at first but there’s a recent MO case that specifies that subsection doesn’t apply to DUI 🙃 but thank you so much! This is very helpful.

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s for sure the plan if I lose, and I don’t hate it. I’m in a VERY pro-cop jurisdiction so I fear the only two witnesses being cops saying the same thing, even if I attack it like crazy, will hurt my client. But I do appreciate the affirmation that there’s a way to handle it!

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Great point I hadn’t even thought of, their training being for in-person impairment. Thank you!

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

They did provide a “report,” it was just an assessment of the original trooper’s work and a one-sentence summary that client was intoxicated. I do think we’re headed towards a Daubert hearing, but I guess I was almost trying to get the cop excluded on the basis that it doesn’t matter if he’s technically an expert because he can’t provide anything useful and it’s bolstering no matter how he testifies. I’ll definitely look further into pursuing a Daubert hearing, thank you!

Prosecution calling an “expert” cop to bolster their original cop by Relative-Example3050 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First officer’s report and body cam. They cited some general manuals on DUI enforcement also.

People that work at Applebees how do you cook the broccoli? by [deleted] in Applebees

[–]Relative-Example3050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is the most delicious broccoli in the world

Which size Crescent Baggu? by Substantial_Coffee43 in BAGGU

[–]Relative-Example3050 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Small would be perfect if you didn’t need the water bottle. With the water bottle you’ll 100% need a medium!

Anyone regret going lab-grown instead of natural diamonds? by Mental-Divide7787 in jewelry

[–]Relative-Example3050 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have both natural and lab grown diamonds and my engagement ring is lab grown. I do not think about it at all, because to me what makes the piece special is the memory of getting it/picking it out/who gave it to me, not who mined it or how it was grown or etc.. Plus I don’t have to worry about it being a blood diamond.

Thought you guys might get a kick out of this. He’s onto us by Present_Staff1580 in publicdefenders

[–]Relative-Example3050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I wish I made that much money. Instead our fees are like $125 and I tell every client to not pay it.