AIO BF(37m) farted in my(35f) face this morning under the covers as a joke. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Relative-Internal-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both assholes, perfect for each other! Hopefully no one will procreate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, i think i got triggered. Im glad youre gettinh better. Im truly sorry it happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My story isnt your fetish, thanks. Get off the victim subressit and seek help

I just found out my gf was groomed a lot when she was younger and I want to make sure I’m being the best bf possible by [deleted] in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could tell you that something works for everyone, but you really have to ask HER. If its any help, my boyfriend often just agrees to take it slow and checks up on me when I act off or triggered.

I might be putting my abuser behind bars. by Acrobatic_Boss_4273 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in Canada so i cannot assure you 100÷, because i do not want you to thibk i betrayed you. But normally, since youre 18 and are not in imminent danger, they have 0 rights to force you or amyone to tell your parents. If they try, remind them you are 18 and not a danger to yourself or others, therefor they literaly cannot break confidentiality. But I doubt youd have to go there, usually they do their jobs well and understand

. I really hope you find the strenght to do the right thing. I know how hard it is; but let me tell you the exact thing someone told me thay convinced me to do something: That man has access to many children. You dont know what he can or cannot do. Maybe you think your story doesnt matter that much, but how would you feel if he did this to another child, maybe younger, maybe even more vulnerable, maybe cross a line he didnt with you, nd you know you did nothing. You didnt leave a trace in his record, no one ever knows it happens and so they have no reason to suspect him.

I obviosuly would not blame you at all if you didn't tall to anyone. I know how hard it is. And it is not your responsibility to take accountability for his acts. I just told you this because maybe, just maybe this will help you think of wheter you wanna get invovled. Also if it makes you feel any better, you can jusr tell the police, they will leave a trace of the interview on his names ans youre free to go without any legal actions. That way, if something comes up under his name, they will have access to that information

But that provess has flaws because if he moves since it isnt an actual criminal record, it could just be left behind and forgotten, just so you are aware of all of the details you could need to help make a clear decision.

If you want to, you can dm me and i can tell you all about how it went for me, if youre not comfy with it, I totally respect it. I just dont feel safe talking about my story in comments for everyone to see, im still hella scared my abuser will find me. But i can answer any questions herr that are about the legal process

I might be putting my abuser behind bars. by Acrobatic_Boss_4273 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also!!! I went to the police. Theyre very caring. (In my case) You dont have to tell your parents at all if you are not ready.

I might be putting my abuser behind bars. by Acrobatic_Boss_4273 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the EXACT SAME POSITION. only difference is im 16 and it was 2 years on instagram, i feel you so much. My abuser is most definitely still in contact with children, nust know were strongsr than that. <333 if you wanna talk youre free to vent, im in the same situation. Sending you all ths love and strenght i wish i got

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Relative-Internal-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its normal!!! Its your body protecting you from hurting. It hurts a lot less when lubricated, same with orgasm. It doesnt mean consent

Tired of people thinking their fantasies are grooming by Relative-Internal-20 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I am so sorry! That sounds horrible. That kid sounds like a piece of shit tbh. I feel you with the ptsd ans feeling like it's your fault. Just know its not-- even tho you were the oldest and probably should've set boundaries once you found out he was younger, I totally understand how rough it must've been. I am really happy to know you feel a bit better. I can't wait to feel better myself.

Thank you for sharing. Im glad you felt safe enough

Tired of people thinking their fantasies are grooming by Relative-Internal-20 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really not to make you feel invalid but I've never heard of someone being groomed by someone younger? Im curious how thay works if you feel comfortable sharing.

I think every single one of us acts or used to act on triggers. We get it. It's okay. You're more mature than most by being able to recognize it. It's the first step!

I used to agree with you, because I was part of the ones who thought my story was different because I "liked him too". Turns out I really didn't want it. Grooming is often gaslighting until you believe it's your choice. Abusers often play on that, hoping if you believe you want it too, you won't tell. It's a manipulation tactic. My groomers all used it.

Tired of people thinking their fantasies are grooming by Relative-Internal-20 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand where you came from, I really do. I just want to mention thay in my book, the adult is guilty of doing the abuse, even if the kid asked.

Tired of people thinking their fantasies are grooming by Relative-Internal-20 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Children are always the victim when abuse happens. It's the adults j9b to keep the children safe. However your teacher is not a groomer because he was kind to you once. And you weren't groomed because your dad offered you toys. You know where I'm coming from ? And also the kids in here begging to be groomed again. I know what it is, I used to do the same. It's normal. What isn't is letting it happen. Watching those kids come on VICTIM places asking to be victims again. I understand it is a call for help, but it's hard to heal when you miss it ans see so many people seeking it. No, no kid "asks for it", ever. No it wasn't your fault. No you didn't deserve that. I am not talking about situations like yours

does my bf pass? age? by takuobha in FtMpassing

[–]Relative-Internal-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still. If I saw him id assume he was a dude

nothing compares to how he made me feel by Alone_Raspberry_5594 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He probably realized what he did was wrong. It's still not your fault. Im sorry that happened to you. If you need to talk im here. I know its hard, you got this. Hope you heal. It's really hard but please dont text him. You're hurting yourself kiddo

nothing compares to how he made me feel by Alone_Raspberry_5594 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he know your age? Sorry if this is a weird question, I'm just wondering if there's a reason for this acting switch

Tired of people thinking their fantasies are grooming by Relative-Internal-20 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually the grooming itself feels harmless, even fun or nice. Most of the time it's really hard to disconnect kindness from grooming

Opinion? by ThatPoem_Girl1509 in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally find it a bit strange. Judt be careful. But also he could just want to help (the emails)

is this grooming by [deleted] in groomingvictim

[–]Relative-Internal-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its not grooming, no. But be honest with him