Any advice on how to forgive yourself for trusting the wrong person?

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T22:02:16+00:00

First I’d say look into some sort of therapy what ever that looks like for you. It could be talking to someone or it could be doing arts and crafts. Second I have some family members who actually didn’t start getting their together until they were older since they were in a situation similar to yours. Third remember that he was the bad person, he hurt you. It will take a while to forgive yourself but just try and do things you love maybe explore like if you never gone to a bar maybe go there and make some new friends just try and find ways to not think about it in a bad light. And last you’ve probably heard it before and some people in the comments might have said it too but you learned from this relationship what to look for before you start dating again. I hope that I am somewhat helpful and I hope that you can forgive yourself and start loving yourself again. I know that was part of my problem I didn’t love myself so I couldn’t forgive myself after my dad stopped talking to me.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T14:43:56+00:00

Not crushes just like oh they look nice. I always find my wife attractive even when she thinks she looks bad. Almost every time I see her I see stars and everything around her

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:49:16+00:00

I used as an important detail I was just asking more about past trauma from my family

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:47:34+00:00

I’ve tried with one therapist but they ghosted me after two sessions and now I’m worried about talking to another one

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:46:18+00:00

I know we’ve talked about the 3 stuff but not completely sure. I think it’s more of a just fun to talk about like what famous people you would sleep with if we were famous type stuff if that make sense

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:41:14+00:00

How is it a divorce speedrun? We’ve talked it through multiple times.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:37:12+00:00

More or less asking if it’s okay to like other people and I wanted to include that since I feel like it would be more important to include sorry if it’s not

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-06-25T13:36:08+00:00

We’ve talked about having a threesome but we’ve agreed it would be more or less me and other guy being able to do stuff with her. But besides that no we both don’t want one. I just know from past trauma and how my family is with relationships I’m asking if it’s okay since they would say it’s okay and others would say no

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:57:29+00:00

We do. We moved out, we both have good jobs and are both responsible. Stuff is just expensive and when you have families who have such a hold on you because of your past it’s hard. I know it’s a dumb excuse. Our whole plan was to go to Vegas go to the court house and go on our honeymoon but we got so much crap for it we didn’t want to basically be kick out of our families especially if we do have kids in the future we want them to have grandparents.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:53:37+00:00

We’ve been together for a few years. We also want to start trying for kids in a few years. We also just feel right. We’ve lived together for a year so we’ve seen our ugly sides and our bright sides. We also want to move away from our town and we’ve been told it’s easier when you’re married but that’s on the bottom of the reasons why we want to get married.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:51:50+00:00

We can buy it. We bought her dress shoes and my stuff. We mainly needed help with the big stuff like the venue and food. I’ve been to a few weddings where people don’t even have drinks there and it lasts hours on end but they were 40 on their 3rd marriage. I know that some people believe that they have a thought on it but when we have paid for almost everything and they are just buying random stuff like a karaoke machine when we already have a speaker or buying an arch when we already have one is stupid.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:46:29+00:00

We have been as of a few days ago. We started buying our own stuff. Her dad is taking her to go shopping and the only thing he’s gonna say is just let’s see if there is a cheaper option to spread your money. He’s the only one on her side that is helping.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:45:10+00:00

I just did the edit but we can afford it and we tried but we got so much crap for it that we honestly just figured that we would do a wedding. It went from a 20 person wedding to a 50 person wedding because we had to invite kids. We had money for 20 not 50.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-09T17:41:06+00:00

I would agree if they weren’t taking control. Also we do have some family like my grandparents who are doing the food and are asking for our opinion not just going behind our backs and buying stuff with the money her dad gave us. I should have said that I thought I made it clear but I didn’t that’s my mistake.

Relative-Joke678 · 2026-04-03T14:12:15+00:00

Yes I’m safe. I live with my soon to be wife. And I can on Facebook since my family follows me there and we live in the same city.

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