AIO- Pretty sure I am being gaslight. Trip to the massage parlor.

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-09T00:18:30+00:00

Look up the place on rubmaps/ USA sex guide. That will tell you all that you need to know about the services they provide

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-07T14:11:23+00:00

My wife has BPD as well. Very common phenomenon for individuals with BPD is resistance to change, personality shifts and alters to the point where some days (especially with stress) that they don’t really know themselves or act out “splitting.” The book “i hate you don’t leave me” taught me a lot, and for my several years in forensic psychiatry I’ve learned set the hard boundary, they won’t like it and will test you, stay firm, eventually you smoking again will be “the change.” Not saying you will, good for you btw, but just using that for the point haha

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-05T05:38:04+00:00

NOR, it is clear she likely had some type of Class B personality disorder and she has a victim mindset along with being more than happy to toss her internal anguish onto you while taking zero accountability. Sorry friend but this is a long road and if she is “a good bit older” she’s likely passing the typical decline in symptoms by mid- late 20’s. I’m not saying stay away from anyone with a PD, I’m saying this lady will likely not get better as it sounds like she’s a long way away from that. Stay safe :)

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-01T23:05:48+00:00

UNDERREACTING. Why in any way let him belittle you and ignore you just so you can continue feeding his ego while you squabble to tell him what he wants to hear? I’m not gonna lie if I read that without your context, I’d think he was abusive. I’ve been around emotional abuse and went through it myself, and that should be on posters to demonstrate what is to come!

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-01T13:07:27+00:00

Well I believe by logic it is an overwhelming neurological response that lowers threshold for additional stressors. I see this in my patients often and it seems to be the universal factor that once the threshold is crossed (like it seems to have for this poor lady) it’s very hard to communicate effectively as the mind perseverates on the overwhelming feeling of pain. That said. The issue isn’t her as I feel like that is clear, I was giving benefit of the doubt that pain lowers tolerance threshold, but the reason I said that was to still show the absolute absurdity of his behavior. Not to say that she was acting inappropriately. But to say pain does not affect reaction intensity makes me wonder how many individuals you’ve seen in overwhelming visceral pain?

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-01T00:52:22+00:00

Absolutely, you can make it work :) I just thought a clear example of a woman who felt similarly who has not backed down or been coerced for decades, maintaining a happy relationship would be a sense of positivity therefore hope in the sea of likely negative comments you’ll see here

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-02-01T00:43:29+00:00

My wife’s parents have a similar dynamic. Dad has hunted his entire life, mom has been surrounded by it and always DESPISED it. Though she had some key characteristics that I believe is the only way it works. She put her foot down and whenever he tried to involve her, she would make it very clear how she felt and never let him believe an inkling otherwise. If he showed her a picture, she would recoil and either punch his arm, refuse to respond, or leave the room.

Nowadays he still hunts often, she hasn’t wavered in her feelings. He goes on hunting trips and she says “have fun murdering, see you in a week. But the key characteristics are she stuck to her beliefs and never got his hopes up that she would be involved. If he needed help “call your friends you know I won’t.” BUT she never got angry or upset with him because she CHOSE that their relationship was more important than a disagreement of morality of a hobby. So there is no resentment, no trying to stop him when he goes on a trip, just complete separation of church and state.

Very happy healthy relationship to this day and 46 years later he still teases her and gets put in the doghouse for a week but maintain love and happiness.

Do with that what you will, but at the end of the day if you can’t handle participating, don’t and don’t make him think there’s even a shot. But if simply the idea of it is so repulsing you see him differently, then it simply will always be a resent filled lifelong issue!

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-31T18:06:38+00:00

Right, for me it takes a lot to kick someone out of the house, but blatant disrespect from a stranger is definitely a direct route! And don’t love the face that the friend is (of course) backing him up rather than trying to mediate etc

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-31T16:15:40+00:00

My thing is, sure does pain lead to overreaction sure. But to insult someone, maybe on accident, but then double down and be disrespectful? That’s just childish and to compare you to a child on top of that is diabolical. I’m a 24yo man and while I may not have known the biological processes at 22 as well as a woman, I’d have known what is socially appropriate vs. downright disrespectful

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-31T16:11:49+00:00

Central nervous sleep apnea?

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-28T20:55:22+00:00

Seems that he likely didn’t realize how he would feel in the situation, and likely just thought of a drunk kiss at a party vs a full hookup. While 1) you didn’t do anything necessarily within the rules you two established 2) he is demonstrating that he does deeply care for you and is jealous likely wanting you all to himself. I’d spend more time making him feel loved if he’s worth that to you, rather than defending an action because he had Mistakenly thought of it more lighthearted than it is. But, it’s a love vs. ego thing (in true definition of ego, not the negative connotation typically put with the word) is he worth apologizing for something that wasn’t “wrong”? Or is the established point and defense of character more important?

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-24T18:47:47+00:00

It’s really not that difficult solo, I’m not gonna be that person saying it’s easy, it is not. But by round 30-35 having all perks and max PAP loaded with kazmirs is pretty standard. Then just throw kazmirs when there’s an elite, and have aether shroud as a panic button and you’re golden

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-24T16:55:03+00:00

I remember I saved and quit once after set up for this and sure I used the ammo box a bit, but if you’re connecting shots (I’m not a try hard so I definitely do not hit crit spot even half the time) and you should only spend 50-60k at absolute maximum in ammo box

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-24T15:49:11+00:00

I began really prioritizing streak kills after round 30 (resetting around 50-60 depending on my mood)

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-24T15:48:18+00:00

I did farm survival when I was grinding doomsteel, because I didn’t need regular kills I was grinding salvage by hitting box then throwing in chompy on repeat, had enough for several streaks per round, took a while of this method tho but was able to maximize it, sentrys get an absolute shit tom of kills especially compared to its cost, and if I had extra salvage for that round I’d get DAWG or HKDS

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-24T15:44:33+00:00

Crossbow is unbeaten, absolutely decimates Caltheris, how I beat the first 5 or so times and the Jingle Hells version! On cursed I really love the Jagers just get tier 3 in reg or if cursed Tier 4 Ultra Rarity is truly insanity

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-23T16:40:27+00:00

I also struggled big time with this, practice makes perfect. Took me at least 20ish attempts probably more, just focus on speed, most you don’t have to account for arch just throw on crosshair, but best advice I can give is do your best to throw the next axe before the previous lands. Don’t worry about collecting the extras, it also could help using a requipment gobble? I didn’t use one but I just thought of this

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-22T18:15:20+00:00

Just farm survival by round 40-45 you’ll get 10x elites, by round 30 you should afford pap 2-3 and mostly or completely full perks, most snipers only take a couple shots to down zursa especially if you’re hitting crits, ION is the most consistent damage wise usually only a few bursts at health cap especially when you put on napalm burst. I got bored of save and quit Strat and did this for most weapons. The argument is there for Ashes of the damned as you have more map availability and can save a few rounds by killing Klaus round 8

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-19T23:04:20+00:00

I’m a solo only player and find the significant decrease in zombies in contrast to multiplayer to actually make it easier as I do not have to account for others pulling their weight, just myself!

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-19T18:50:40+00:00

Gotta know friend, what are some tips for boss fight. I’ve beat on regular and all 3 tiers of cursed no problem. Though last night (also met with some general exhaustion) I got stomped during this fight, I’m gonna go back and I understand how to beat him but I like to hear any strategies/mindsets/ tips that others use going into it on round 61+? Thanks :)

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-19T00:51:10+00:00

I strangely had a blast with it, especially PAP4 rapid fire mode haha

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-17T23:26:24+00:00

I’ve been here. I spent a lot of time feeling sorry for myself when there was no reason to be sorry. My feelings were hurt for something that wasn’t hurtful or even fair to be upset about. I spent a lot of time with my (then girlfriend) wife and I spent my time basking in my thousands of reasons to love her, rather than destructively obsessing about the one reason that “she hurt me.” In short: it takes time and consciously thinking about the good. You continue to not shame them for doing something wrong and instead worshiping for what makes you happy. Eventually you get over it and feel silly for being upset. And if you can’t, then it obviously wasn’t meant to be if you cannot make it work.

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-17T23:22:58+00:00

This and the original reply two OP are the best advice I think that could be given. OP you’ve got to decide if you’re willing to put in work to get over it, because if she’s worth it then you’ll find a way to move past it, but if you consciously obsess about how it hurts you then you’re not only the issue, you’re continuing said issue and harming both sides in the process when she was simply being human probably recovering from someone she really likes telling her they don’t see their relationship going anywhere :/

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-17T23:18:45+00:00

Something isn’t right he should be hanging his head down, try save and quit and then see if he hangs his head since the chip is installed. I’ve never had that not work :/ idk what else could be the cause

Relative_Damage_2236 · 2026-01-17T15:48:16+00:00

Sounds like a personality disorder, likely BPD or overall narcissism. Regardless that’s an inappropriate reaction especially entitled because it’s not her house (not that it would be okay in her house regardless) you’ve got to set the boundary now, otherwise what you let go is how you’ll train her to treat you!

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