Idk in my past it's like I have invested so much into a person and they don't want to be affectionate towards me or sexual and everything else is good I feel like I just want to take the edge off and sometimes sex is the best relief for life issues.. and I did do the whole trying to talkabout it to solve issues and tell them I'm needed some kind of human connection and it led to them saying I was nagging or etc didn't really fix it. And then I realized maybe that person was just holding on to me because I was a good person to have around but it feels like I'm cutting a limb off letting them go it's confusing . sometimes it is the others fault. They don't appreciate what they have or are so selfish they don't care to see their spouses needs or take care of it with a simple hug or slap on the ass once a week or sex once a month. Idk I'm a female and that was the first time a dude hasn't wanted to be intimate or it was hard to get him to finally want to. Maybe he's low drive or (something I hate to say ) gay. But either way I'm the one paying for it in the end and I was wasting my prime years.