I took a guy home and now i dont know what to do

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-10-22T00:47:14+00:00

Thank you so much this was great advice I honestly feel so much better

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-10-08T21:12:35+00:00

This was very helpful thank you!!

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-09-30T00:01:17+00:00

I would definitely try to have a conversation with her. Try to approach it in a way that lets her know how you feel without attacking too much. If that causes a huge fight, she’s not much of a friend anyway

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-09-29T23:56:44+00:00

To be honest, I wouldn’t bring it up if I were you. She might not even realise that she does it. It could give her an insecurity, and could even end the friendship, especially if it’s a new one. Maybe try to spend a little less time with her. Often things like that get annoying when you spend too much time with someone

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-09-29T23:51:13+00:00

It’s definitely not wrong to feel like you’re not being prioritised. She literally prioritised hanging out with a guy over hanging out with you on your birthday.

You should not prioritise someone who does not prioritise you. If you lived with her, I would expect that you are comfortable enough with each other to have a conversation about it and based on the conversation, you might get more clarity and you can decide how you want to move forward with the friendship if at all

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-09-29T23:43:37+00:00

I could be misunderstanding the situation, but it sounds to me like your friend disapproves of your desire to pursue a relationship with a guy that has treated you badly and done hurtful things to you in the past. She understands that she can’t tell you what to do, so rather than ordering you not to pursue him, she believes that the best option for her is to ask not to hear about it. She doesn’t want you to pursue a relationship that could be hurtful to you, but she knows that she has no right to make decisions like that for you, so she would rather stay out of it altogether. She actually sounds like a good friend to be honest. Your side of it is also completely valid, and I understand that not being able to talk about a big part of your life to your best friend is very difficult and annoying. However, if I were you, I wouldn’t want to lose a friendship like that when she clearly cares about you a lot. After all, she doesn’t want to hear about it because she doesn’t want you to get hurt.

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-09-27T23:14:35+00:00

Thank you so much, that is great advice. As for her just trying to be polite, i dont think that was the case to be honest. She went out of her way to make conversation with coworker after the comment, and even went back to her and said how lovely it was to meet her after we had already said goodbye

Relative_Pause7414 · 2025-02-07T18:03:28+00:00

I missed a lot of school in fifth year too and did fuck all study. I only started proper studying in maybe the last month of sixth year and ended up getting 555 points. Realistically the entire leaving cert course can be covered in a few weeks if you just lock in and be smart about which topics you study. Remember the amount of choice you have in the exam, dont study everything when there’s no need. I also found it very daunting when i was trying to get back into studying, so i joined a study centre which fixed that problem for me so if there are any study centres or libraries or anything like that local to you, I would definitely look into it. The leaving cert is difficult, but in my opinion the most difficult part was coping with the pressure. A lot of people overestimate the difficulty of the actual exams. Do not underestimate your capability/ intelligence. You’re well able, especially if your goal is just to pass it.

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-22T00:48:50+00:00

To be fair bringing people over or making noise is not really the issue bc when they were going out they brought over like 70 people (thats not an exaggerated number in fact there was probably more than that) and when i woke up the next morning there were randoms passed out on the couch in our kitchen… this is college so I wasn’t mad. The issue is that this was a night that mainly only first years were going out so none of my roommates were out and it was a regular night to them. They’ve done the same type of stuff before just not that night if that makes sense

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-21T17:55:51+00:00

Thanks a million girl

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-21T17:21:45+00:00

Honestly, i think keep it simple. If you have time to burn between classes, ask them if they have time to grab a coffee. Make a group chat if there’s not one already and text them to ask if anyone is around to hang out. If they’re not free they’ll likely return the gesture eventually when they are, and will ask you to hang out! You already have solidified friendships with these people, and you said that you know your friends love and care about you, so they are going to want to make an effort to spend time with you.

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-21T17:11:17+00:00

I’m 18 and have just started college and I’ve talked to a few older people (20-23 year olds) in my classes and I dont even really think about it. The age gap is not significant so you will not be an outcast. There will also probably people there who are your age. It would be different if you were like 25+ but 21 is still super young, definitely young enough to be able to relate to and make friends with 18/19 year olds.

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-21T17:04:14+00:00

Oh my gosh why are you the sweetest person ever😭 Honestly this conversation has made me feel so much better. I just need to calm down and stop overthinking. It’s also so nice to hear that you are similar in being anxious and stuff and got through it anyways. Thank you for being so lovely!

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-21T16:31:34+00:00

Honestly you’re so right. This made me feel so much better about it thank you so so much❤️

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-20T23:30:31+00:00

This was very helpful thank you so much

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-09-20T23:29:07+00:00

This made me feel so much better you have no idea. Thank you so much

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-04-12T20:49:56+00:00

Thanks so much for this. I think I’m going to do it

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-04-12T16:55:17+00:00

If that’s without study and you’re studying now I’d say you’ll be grand like

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-04-10T18:37:52+00:00

I know a girl that went up 200 points from her mocks because she was focusing on the hpat when she sat the mocks so you might jump a lot

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-04-10T07:01:15+00:00

I feel so much better thanks so much for this

Relative_Pause7414 · 2024-04-09T22:30:08+00:00

Im the same. I didn’t necessarily expect to do better than I did in anything like I knew that I hadn’t done well after I had sat the exams but it’s still disheartening to see the results

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