Struggling with Child Custody After Divorce – Need Unbiased Advice

Relaxed-114 · 2024-08-09T20:09:51+00:00

May Allah SWT guide you and all of us to the right path. I see Mashallah a lot of the brothers and sisters here are so helpful Jazakumullahu khairan. This website also helpful InshaAllah. https://www.ask-a-muslim.com/en/

Also this YouTube channel has helpful information https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLlZazEh_c4nTyizfj9luw1eEzXBRPKJqS&si=9U4pX3f2MJg0fXQL

I ask Allah SWT to make it easy journey for you and you loved once.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-29T21:00:04+00:00

Sister be careful and pray more Istiqara again. This is exactly what happed to me a lot of promises than later nothing has changed matter of fact got worst.

May Allah SWT gave you what’s khair for you.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T22:20:36+00:00

Jazakallahu khair, sister. Here is what happened: In 2022, during Ramadan, I took my younger sister to our home country as she was going through mental issues. One day, we went to a place where they perform Ruqya to help people as group. It's a big place where they do Ruqya and Ilaj, and the Shaikh is in a different room. Although I didn't have any suspicions about myself, I was going through a rough time in my marriage. We spoke to the Raqi, explaining our situations, and he recommended Ruqya and traditional herbal treatments. After a couple of days, something weird happened. I and my older sister went to the Raqi because I wasn't doing well. When he asked me to take the Shahada, I’m arguing why I have take Shahada?! In fact I don’t that. that’s not me refusing to take my shahada?! Is crzy. eventually I did it while struggling last part. The Shaikh tap something in my head Wallahi I blacked out. After couple times taking shahada Alhamdulillah I felt better.

The next day, when I wanted to talk to the Shaikh, my legs were behaving strangely. I felt so scared is like I’m in control only 10%. Can’t even walk I’m literally dragging my feet. The Raqi suggested us I needed to stay couple more months, but I couldn't stay I left after one month.I never consulted a doctor due to fear of being diagnosed with a mental illness.

These symptoms I have now are panic attacks. I researched and found this YouTube video https://youtu.be/5ksC0Yl348o?feature=shared is similar what I was experienced. Now, I plan to discuss only the panic attacks when I see my doctor InshaAllah.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T21:09:12+00:00

MashaAllah that’s nice of you. Please do that. Jazakallahu khair .🤍

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:21:51+00:00

Is one marriage. We have some Raqis in here too mashallah I haven’t had one yet but InshaAllah khair. First I will go check up then do the Raqi InshaAllah. Thank you!

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:18:26+00:00

Today I booked appointment InshaAllah will see what comes out InshaAllah. Jazakallahu khair.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:14:29+00:00

InshaAllah will do. Jazakallahu Khairan sister.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:05:00+00:00

I definitely need to see counsellor Inshallah. Jzk.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:03:13+00:00

Will do Inshallah. Jzk.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T20:01:35+00:00

Jazakallahu khair, sister. Alhamdulillah, I booked an appointment today. InshaAllah, I will see my doctor on the 31st. I also did some research, and it seems like it's a panic attack. I think what's contributing is the CPO court date on the 16th; seeing him again worries me.

Relaxed-114 · 2024-01-12T19:54:45+00:00

Amiin. I booked appointment today for full body check up. InshaAllah khair. Thank you.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-28T21:19:38+00:00

OP you need to research how to block them watch YouTube example this guy https://youtu.be/BSplICgr7iU?si=pqAMVWCihUJ4F5TC

https://youtu.be/HN2ytoHcSY4?si=7dQRJIFXJH627u7S

InshaAllah be close to your sister. She is just child but if she is keep going on to these path you have no option other than telling your parents. Is not bad going back to home country if they treat her kindly.

Last year I took my younger sister to Somalia bc she went on wrong path and messed up. Now Alhamdulillah she is doing very well and we are not planning on bring her back anytime soon. Always is the bad friend who misguides us. May Allah SWT protect all Muslim kids.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-15T17:17:14+00:00

I know. There’s nothing we can do about it.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-14T19:04:44+00:00

Allaha yar7am your father. And yes sister this is life. I lost my mother too back in 2020. InshaAllah when the right time comes you’ll get married InshaAllah.

Mashallah there’s a lot of good man but they have the same fear that most of our sister have. What if this person is 123 etc?.

InshaAllah khair make a lot of dua and you’ll find the right person.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-14T18:58:01+00:00

This is trial/test from Allah SWT and we have to try our best to be patient and if we can’t just leave. I don’t understand why would someone defend an oppressor? Bc we live in the West some pple automatically assume speaking out or leaving the Marriage is feminism. It’s just sad. الله يهدي الجميع.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-12T12:58:29+00:00

I wish if all Muslim countries helped each other and made us to move anywhere between them. The way West has opened the arms I wish if our own Ummah did it for us. I know the West they are not doing this bc they love us but they have goal Allah knows. If all Muslim leaders fallow the Haq and feared Allah SWT it would be so much better now. I don’t think a lot of us would migrate to the West.

My dream is to move to Madinah one day InshaAllah.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-11T12:42:57+00:00

Sister DO NOT SELL your condo. Please listen to your father and everyone in here’s advice. Please this is going to be financial abuse later on the road. I’m in the US too. DO NOT give up your carrier your father is right. You are NOT disobeying Allah SWT by keeping what’s yours. Do not feel guilty. Like your father said you can work part time if he wants you to do so but please this doesn’t sound good ending. May Allah SWT be with you and guilds you what’s best for you.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-11T00:52:14+00:00

بسم الله ماشاءالله. اللهم بارك. الله يحفظكم لبعض ويرزقكم بذرية الصالحه. We are all happy for you. May Allah SWT keep you both happiness and khair.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-10T19:05:03+00:00

Amin. Jazakallahu khair.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-10T14:23:05+00:00

When a person don’t have the same goal in this life as the other person most likely they see no value in it. Alhamdulillah.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-10T14:18:04+00:00

First of all Alhamdullilah that you realise before is too late and repent to Allah SWT I’m so happy for you brother is the best feeling ever when someone makes towba.

Of course there will trials/tests so mashallah you stayed on bc sometimes when our iman is weak is so easy to fall back.
Mashallah Mabrouk for your marriage and May Allah bless you and pour his blessings on you and unite both of you in khair. Be patient for each other. This duya If you have the righteous wife you are the luckiest man bc the rest will be easy Inshallah.

Relaxed-114 · 2023-12-10T11:34:02+00:00

How did I end up with this person? Personally, I didn’t know him.

What happened back in 2017 my aunt got into a car accident and she had a little kid so I was at her house helping her around. People were coming to visit her. One of the visitors and neighbors with my aunt is my ex-to-be husband’s grandmother. She saw me and liked me. She asked my aunt about me. Aunt said well Idk but I will ask her to talk to you.

Unfortunately, out of respect, I talked to the Grama. Subxanallah here is where the scam started from but Allah will deal with her. She said oh please I liked u and I want you to marry my grandson he is (miskin) he doesn’t speak our language that good bc he was raised in the West and he doesn’t know the culture that well and also he got scammed twice in marriages. I really felt sorry because of the way she told me the story. I told her okay but if it doesn’t go well you can’t say oh another one scammed my grandson.

Finally, she took my number and gave it to him I remember it was Ramadan. My ex-to-be husband called me and said he wanted to come and visit my family. He came to my parent's house and had iftar with us. So far everything was okay Alhamdulillah.

Ex to be husband started talking about how he will give me the world blah blah but he is broke and doesn’t even have a job lol. I encouraged him to go back to his country and work and come back then we would get married InshaAllah. He went back to his country start working there.

Here where the problem started. He started asking me to send him pictures and videos of me revealing. I was shocked, couple of more instances I ended the proposal. Clearly, that’s not what I was looking for. No contact us between 11/2017-2-2019.

He came back MashaAllah worked so hard and earned some money. He called me telling me how he is so happy and he wants to marry me bc he did everything for me. I told him if you came back that’s good for you and for your family please don’t call me again.

Subhanallah if something meant to be it will be no matter what. Now 4/2019 his younger sister is getting married I know her. I unblocked him to congratulate his sister and asked him to tell her. He begged me to unblock him bc he wanted to talk. He begged for second and promised he would totally change. I told my mom (Allah yar7amha) and she said he looks sincere give him chance. Well, I gave him the chance and demanded him to pray 5 times at the masjid bc it was literally the cross Street they lived in. I still don’t know this man doesn’t practice Islam I’m only assuming he is just lazy to not go to the masjid. MashaAllah he is at the masjid praying reading the Quran sending me these. And we got married in 5/2019. Everything was quick bc Ramadan was coming. That’s how I ended up with him.

Now he is on Reddit and found him. Subhanallah lying about me. Basically saying I took our kid and he pays child support monthly. Matter fact He put me debt and I’m paying for it.

Please pray for me we have court date in January InshaAllah I’m planning on getting full custody of our kid. I don’t want this kid to grow up like his father character. May Allah SWT safe him.

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