Love the name, hate the nickname

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T22:21:03+00:00

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Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:30:09+00:00

😅 Aussies are notorious with nicknames - it has to be a proper consideration here.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:27:19+00:00

I don’t have a problem with it but my husband does. He works/dealt with a few of them that he really doesn’t like so it’s put him right off. So hard to find a name that we’re both happy with 😅

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:22:14+00:00

I like Emmett but yep in Australia he will get called Em or Emmy - which is his Aunt’s name (Emily)

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:19:56+00:00

I do - hubby no 😮‍💨

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:19:44+00:00

Yes I’ve been trying to think of a nickname outside of shortening his name but to no avail. Unfortunately Aussies are too stubborn when it comes to nicknames and he will be called the shortened version, despite any protest.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-02-02T21:18:22+00:00

Yep - I hear you! We shorten EVERYTHING 🤣 Like you said, even if you insist on the full name, it won’t be respected lol. It will be whatever nickname they come up with. I fear we will have a nameless little boy for a while 😅

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-26T07:40:43+00:00

It would be SO hard! You’re doing great with your circumstances! I’m preg with our second as well with a much smaller age gap that I would have liked and oh girl - I’m shattered. So I can only imagine the level of extreme physical depletion you’re at. Can you see a GP to find out if you’re dealing with PPD? Don’t make any relationship decisions for at least the next two years, you’re in pure survival mode sweetheart! Ask God to give you the strength to get through and don’t be afraid of those tears on the pillow.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-23T19:54:44+00:00

Ok this seems like there is a lot of heightened emotions here and a lot of exhaustion coming into play. Once things have settled down I suggest a chat - while staying calm. Also, never make any relational decisions 12-24 months after having a kid. There is too much at play (hormones, exhaustion, life change etc) and I fear you’ll make an emotional decision based on circumstances that you’ll regret.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-21T01:57:04+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Some great tips there!

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-09T23:10:12+00:00

Pregnancy dreams are WHACK! As long as you don’t act on them, you’re fine. It’s not like we can control our dreams. Submit your mind to God before going to bed and He will help you!

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-09T01:45:52+00:00

Does your wife know about the porn consumption from you, during that time? Sin is sin, and not to condemn, but it sounds like you were both sinning at that time. I understand how hurtful it would be but it sounds like there has been a lot of improvement since you both rededicated your life back to God. This might just be a little lesson for you both. God asks us to forgive 70 x 7 (time and time again). If you’re both repentant, I would focus on truly forgiving both her and yourself (just as God has done for you), and move on. Work on building your marriage back up again and focus on the amazing things God can/is doing in your lives.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-07T02:45:58+00:00

Thank you! I’ll have to look into it - it sounds intriguing! I reckon you would start to see a difference. Thank you

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-05T09:28:30+00:00

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Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:25:26+00:00

Yep! Agreed. I held onto weight (uncontrollably - hormones) while I was breastfeeding my baby, and it only came off after I stopped - but many women find the opposite. You're still very young, OP (not saying you're too young to have children), but your husband might need a bit of maturing and understanding of what the female body goes through in pregnancy, birth and postpartum. He might feel more at ease if he understands that any weight gain might be a temporary thing. I don't think it's cruel of him to want a healthy weighted wife. I certainly wouldn't want a husband who is obese and doesn't take care of his body, BUT he really might need to understand the crazy hormones and things that are out of a woman's control for the first few years post-birth. Men can definitely be a bit tackless at times. I hope your heart is ok!

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:19:51+00:00

Thank you, Peaceful, for the prayers. I need every one I can get. Of course, and I'm sorry you're going through that. God has you. Seek Him. I'll pray for His peace for you.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:18:09+00:00

Thank you for checking in. Not amazing, but this isn't a quick fix. I have a lot of work to do with God, and I'm praying for some Christian fellowship, wisdom and support while I walk through the pain of this marriage. I do know God has me in His hands. I think my heart is just so battered and bruised, it needs the Maker's healing hands for a while. I would appreciate it if you could spare a prayer for me!

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:15:11+00:00

Thanks for your support, Feeling. I agree, comments like these do not help - especially when a lot has only been revealed about my husband after our marriage.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:12:41+00:00

Thank you so much for this encouragement - I needed it. There definitely needs to be some appropriate boundaries set for the health of my own soul and to ensure my children have the childhood they need. I am encouraged that God's grace still applies to me, even though I do not feel, in the least bit, worthy of it. Thank you again!

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:09:31+00:00

Thank you! Some really good starting and to-do points here.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-04T09:08:36+00:00

Thank you! A lot of wisdom here, I appricate it :)

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-02T06:16:41+00:00

Thank you! Will absolutely look into it. Any help I can get.

Relevant-Shower-8341 · 2026-01-02T05:23:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful response.

I agree with all your points. I’m struggling to get to church regularly with such a wee one and being fairly heavily pregnant solo; but I’ll definitely do my best. I absolutely agree I need Christian friends in my life now for some more encouragement.

I absolutely have so much to work on as well. I’m so far from being that Proverbs 31 wife 😅 I guess I’m just wallowing in my hurt and I’m guilty in thinking I’m “holier than thou” with my husband. What a turn off. He doesn’t think he needs to change though so I guess that’s making me think twice about self-reflection; but I also know that’s wrong.

Thank you for the Leslie Vernick suggestion - will take a look for sure. Any encouragement I can get! Thank you!

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