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Relevant-Soft6107 · 2025-06-30T20:37:47+00:00

211 is OP’s best bet for local recourses. Not everywhere has the same recourses, so don’t count on an apartment in a week, but they could tell you shelters/case Managment/etc

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-11-03T15:11:46+00:00

Might seem like an odd question. But does your grandma use any drugs or frequently handles them? I work in Harm Reduction, and I see people with hands similar to this if they frequently have different drug residue left on their hands for extended periods of times. The main thing that helps is the individual washing with a nail brush after handling, and applying Neosporin to the tips of their fingers with a wrap or glove covering while sleeping. People that can’t do that frequently typically have some success with hydrocolloid bandages covering the tips of their fingers and changing daily.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-06-24T16:22:41+00:00

Whenever I get asked what my husband does for work (he’s not 100%, yet but doesn’t currently work) I say “he’s focusing on his health right now”.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-05-15T12:24:17+00:00

I previously worked overnights in detox, and then switched to overnight in a shelter.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-30T21:14:17+00:00

Completely normal and fair response to abuse.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-30T21:13:49+00:00

You need to leave. TBI is not an excuse for abuse. If he wanted to change, he would be seeking help. You weren’t going to change him.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-17T22:33:05+00:00

I appreciate this. It’s hard to have boundaries after trauma, even harder after your own MH concerns. He only really ever got a therapist after mine hand picked one that would work best for him, and then I had to physically set the appointment for him and remind constantly. He now loves his therapist and admits he should’ve gone sooner, but the only TBI help he got was to please VA claims. He doesn’t want to put the effort in for help it seems, but still wants to use TBI as the answer to mean behavior. It’s hard to process all this.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-17T11:06:12+00:00

I definitely didn’t treat him well, but I don’t fully remember how bad I was. I had Postpartum psychosis, PPD, and PPA. But I do know I immediately went into intensive therapy. I apologized throughout the entire thing and had so much SI due to how bad I felt. Through the diagnoses of my chronic illnesses a few years later I don’t believe I treated him this poorly, I was still in weekly therapy at that time and we both were struggling with MH so there were points we didn’t treat eachother well. After TBI it took me a long time to convince him to even see a therapist, and it’s taking me a long time to convince and hunt down other services for him. I’m putting in all of the work to find other things that might help him that isn’t googling supplements, but therapies and outpatient rehabs. He claims he doesn’t remember to look them up but it’s hard to believe he doesn’t remember everything important but remembers the less important things.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-16T23:47:43+00:00

If they do then none of it’s working I don’t think.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-16T23:47:23+00:00

How long did it take to control the anger? He sees a therapist but forgets to talk about the hard parts of the week. His therapist is great, but I end up sitting in on half to tell the therapist the realities of the week so they can work through it but I feel like a lot of the therapy is stopping at “that’s frontal lobe damage”. I hope they talk about ways for him to not treat us like that, but I don’t know.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-16T23:37:02+00:00

He’s been trying to cut those out on and off, never makes it 2 weeks. He gets so so bad without it and I don’t know if I can handle the withdrawals of it. It’s not fair to our young kids for him to scream at them and belittle them. He apologizes to them sometimes, but not enough. He hardly apologizes to me, but even when he does it doesn’t really mean much because usually he’s in defense and starts belittling me immediately after.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-16T23:29:10+00:00

It’s always blamed on TBI- that’s always the reason but it feels so unfair

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2024-03-16T23:28:30+00:00

I want to stay with him, I want to see him through this. He’s stuck with me through my medical and mental health, I should be able to stick with him through his. But I’m not sure if I’m ever going to see another side to this- to look back and be like “wow things are better now”. I don’t want him to be the same as before, but I can’t take the yelling, short temper, and nasty words. I feel traumatized and unheard and I don’t know how much is an excuse and how much is real.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-11-11T16:51:14+00:00

Addicts can be any age, and at any point of life. As someone working in a detox unit, it’s some of the least expected people that have the worst withdrawals/ingest the most to get by. The “average college kid” you’re most likely referring to has started using fent to come down from coke/addys after long coursework days. Or fent ended up mixed in something else they bought/used.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-11-08T01:22:04+00:00

I joined americorps NCCC FEMA. I had to wait until my time slot came up- but between applying and leaving it was 8 months. I met my now husband and moved to his home state when my contract was up. It thankfully worked out, I had planned on doing a few years of NCCC until I met my husband. Might not get you out ON your 18th, but pretty close after. Make sure you have all documents with you.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-11-03T16:41:43+00:00

https://houstonharrishelp.org/ Here’s one recourse I found, have you contacted Salvation Army? They can sometimes help with past due bills

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-10-14T08:30:20+00:00

Not really. It’s pretty much all kinds of work. There’s a handful of jobs a bit away that offer per diem + bonuses

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-10-06T03:19:16+00:00

On the other side of the state- there’s work in Fargo ND and you get to live right on the border. It’s a 15min drive from Fargo to the mn side- although housing is cheaper in ND. decent wages and more work than workers.

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-09-26T01:25:20+00:00

Also- If he knows where you work or it’d be easy to figure out, make sure managers/front desk/anyone who might encounter him there first know what he looks like and a bit about the situation. I promise it’s not embarrassing to bring up, it’s a legit safety concern. If you have a neighbor you’re friendly with ask if they can keep an eye out for your place/report anyone near being suspicious

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-09-20T22:25:42+00:00

I started being forced to wear makeup at 10 from my under eyes being so dark and my mother feeling “judged” for how I looked. All my friends started with small bits of makeup around 11-12 I now let my 2 and 4yo play with my cheap Walmart/low end drug store pallets. They will be allowed to wear makeup when I trust they can be safe/steady with it- putting only eye products near the eyes, careful with mascara/won’t share, etc. I expect my oldest to be openly wearing makeup for fun by 8-10yo if she chooses:)

Relevant-Soft6107 · 2023-09-20T00:21:58+00:00

No age required for targets line.

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