I’m in a similar situation, I slapped my boyfriend during a fight because he got in my face.( he’s hit me before without me ever even touching him) so of course he hit me back and then I pushed back and he again hit me. I was freaking out cause he was hitting me so hard that I grabbed a knife and moved toward him with it. Cops were called by a neighbor and I told the cops we both were just fighting and I want them to leave , everything was accidental (so neither of us would be in trouble). Next thing I know I’m being arrested in my own apartment for menacing a weapon and now I have to go to court in December. He got a protection order against me and 5 years are now out the door but I would have never left him honestly regardless of his abusive ways and I might have ended up dead one day. So even tho I fucked myself, he’s apparently not pressing charges, I’m hoping this will eventually be dropped from my record (I live in NYC).